Reflections and Progress: thoughtfulgold

If you get anything from my posts and they help you then I have done my job. I am glad to assist and encourage. That is my main purpose here.

Congrats on your dedication and progress, about your worries about getting too big, I wouldn’t sweat it so much :)

I have to sweat it some. I’ve caused vaginally tearing. I’ve caused pain, had just horrid match ups in the past. A dick too big still gets nothing accomplished if the gates are closed for entry.

Plus, it’s a philosophical question. What exactly is “too big”? Does it exist? Only a man in his own experience can make this distinction along his PE journey. So…I make mine.

Thank you for the kind words.

Even in my most expanded state say 7” BPEL 5.7” EG, I’ve always felt I could use more, then again I’m not yet at your level so I’ll have to wait and see.

My philosophy is maximum power, blow it up haha

Women often do not take kindly to “being blown up.” Just from experience.

Hahahaha I mean maximum pleasure for me and her lol. That, in my experience, has been more

I’ve struggled with Erection Quality my entire PE journey. Recently kicking porn has upped the instances of good erections and random erections, nocturnal ones…but…good erections on command still elude me.

It’s because I think kegeling is so tedious. I seldom recommend it because I just don’t have a lot of experience with it. When Big Al would assign it in my plan it just was such a chore. But I do get good results from it when I stay on it…I just don’t. It’s my weak point. I need to work on this.

Then, I had an unofficial measurement

Currently: 9.25x6” but a strong 6 girth. It trends slightly past that.

Ah make it official :)

Congratulations!

xeno

I almost did back in February Measurement and Decon Decision but not quite. I really want to hold out for my start back up next month.

That said, I’m hoping for maybe 9.37x6.25” but…gotta dream big. *smirks*

Thank you for the kind words.

I am no fan of all day constriction. I find the concept dangerous and of limited use. This makes it high risk and low reward comparably in my eyes. However comma there are specific instances that merit or at least have a use for a cock ring worn for an extended time.

In my middle PE years, say around ears 3 to 5, I was using the Hardwear system. I have a pic of my current ring attached. I can’t recall if I gleaned the idea or if I was dabbling in cock ring sex and backed off. But I found a way to use this in an ADC role that was quite safe.

I can’t link the way that I wore it or still wear it because that would make this a members-only report. I’ll update this entry with a link when I’m able to post the pictures on my photo log. In essence I wore the ring open as the picture shows even though the main allure of the Ring it’s supposed to be the way that it closes. I never wore this system closed for any reason.

I found that this system when worn open and adjusted to the size of my flaccid girth would encourage erections and the ring itself with stretch to accommodate the growing erection. This would prohibit excessive pressures however it would cause the ring to sometimes fall down my pants leg. During the course of a day when I was doing this ADC technique regularly I would get maybe four erections that would’t be strong enough to distend the ring fully so that when I got soft again it would fall off after being stretched by my erection.

I did not wear it with any particular wear times, durations, or instances in mind. On days that I felt I had a good hanging flaccid I would wear it until I got tired of it. Over the course of 9 to 12 months I felt significant changes in my flaccid size. During this time I used all three rings and another one that was an odd size that did not come in the set to size up and cotntinue to wear the ADC comfortably.

My reason for discontinuing wear was simple. The pewter metal of the rings got too thick and my erection wouldn’t stretch it naturally. Also a mix of the Ring fitting properly instead of undersize. I tried it the other night and I was able to stretch it a touch. I may start adding it back into my routine. Or making it a part of my daily wear when I’m not at work.

I mentioned this to another user who asked about the ADC system and I figured if I can share it with him then I can share with all of you. It’s nothing too special but it is something that I have done. Maybe, if you have some money to burn you can give it a shot.

A note on my porn detox. I started at the end of February coldest turkey. But I struggled with it another month prior. Updating to now?

I can sext and just think sexy thoughts (with some manual stimulation) and get just as hard as I used to with porn. I can literally edge until my balls are blue without any pornographic images or stories other than the ones I’ve lived through, myself.

This is after 39 days with ZERO porn. And considering my computer died around that time, I had ZERO access to the porn on the drive. The porn folder I kept recreating and deleting as I struggled with porn addiction.

Now, I’m free. My erections are still getting stronger and more frequent. I had sex with my favorite partner recently and was harder than she had ever seen as well as bigger (she struggles with my size and always has, happily) and I just kept on getting it in. I’m not scared I can’t edge without porn. I can easily clamp with my own wherewithal. In 3 weeks I’ll be testing this when I’m breaking out the clamps for more IPR. But I predict only more good things at this point.

Porn detox can be done. You just have to fucking push through it and let your brain matter rewrite how you get aroused. Cold turkey is best.

Intresting. Im also going to start a porn detox soon.

Some people say its better to go hard mode (> no sex at all) to have a better healing process.

But u seem to prove that its also working while having ongoing sex with a partner.

I went hard for the first 4 weeks. Then sex got spotty due to relationship issues. However, after 2 months porn free I’ve gotten harder than ever during sex and went as good as ever back in my twenties, given I’m over 30 now…*laughs*

I’d say it matters more in the beginning than any other time in your detox period. Because you’ll have to live and have sex eventually and be on “detox” so you decide when your sex quarantine ends.

Hm, so 4 weeks hardmode and then sex with your partner?

I think I can do that too. If it brings the same results than 9 weeks of hardmode im in.

I can’t be sure the results will be identical to the 9 weeks of hard mode that you also suggest. I can be sure that if you have the option of having sex with a partner, that going dry for 9 weeks seems like an eternity. I personally am happy with my results as far as detoxification from porn thus far. I can now look at pictures of my partners and dirty talk and get a full erection regularly. This doesn’t require porn to boost it anymore.

That, I think is the biggest step. Being aroused by real people saying and texting real things. Nothing spectacular like erotica, porn still images or perfectly choreographed sex with porn starlets. Who are picked by design to be the sexiest creatures known to man.