How to get my libido back ?

Hello friends,

Well I am writing this to ask for the expert opinions.

I am 24 years in age. I am a little bit over weight. I used to watch a lot of porn and masturbate regularly. I never had a GF and I am still a virgin.

I am a quite depressed person. Since the last couple of days, I think I am loosing my libido or sex drive. I am not able to get proper erection or even if I get

It I am not able to maintain it longer.

I have not started penis enlargement exercises yet, but I am here for your opinions and advice. What should I do now to get back my libido back ?

What should I do to maintain my erections longer ?

Is it due to lack of testosterone? Does PE will help to get my sex drive back ? Will it help to get long lasting erections ?

These are all questions going on in my mind. I need help and a serious help guys. Please help me.

Thanks to all but please help me guys.

Any kind of help will be appreciated.

Thank you.

:(

I am sure others here will have better info but…
At 24 yrs old I highly doubt you have low T. I would think more likely it is a bit physical being over weight and a bit mental with being depressed.
This is actually a good thing as you have the ability to fix this!

Changing your depression is honestly a decision (yes, there are cases that medical input is needed but from your post I do not believe this applies to you), wake up everyday and tell yourself - “I am a stud, today is going to be great.” I read a book decades ago called, the magic of thinking big. Check it out and read it. A lot of good life information.

Two, get out and get some exercise. Start with walking everyday. Walk for a half hour everyday and then move up from there.

Your mind is extremely powerful and with that add some physical activity and you will see huge changes.

Good luck and you are a stud, just make a decision.

Michael

You used to watch porn or are you still watching porn?

Diet and excercise also play an important role on health an erections come along with it.

Thanks Michael.
Well the book, my father gifted me at some point of my life but I never read it. But I will read it.
You know I am a tech geek. I like to do software stuff. I am a good looking guy for
A tech geek actually.
Thanks for your info.
I am curious whether the porn stuff have harmed me or not ?

I mean I used to watch porn but like not everyday.
I did in every 3 days.
Except today, since the past 30 days I did masturbate only 6 -8 times only.
But today I made up my mind that never to watch porn again.
Thanks Titleist.

I really really doubt it… the only harm it did is you are now thinking about it.
Cut it out for a bit while you focus and a couple of other things.
You are all good!

Thanks man Michael.

Your words are really giving me internal strength.

Thanks a lot.

Stay Healthy Stay Happy.

:)

Go see a psychiatrist or take a trip to Pattaya, Thailand or Angeles City, Philippines and lose your virginity.

Yeah I think I should go to Pattaya.

Deadpool

If you say you’re are depressed, do you take any type of medication against it? Or is there any other medication you are taking? What exactly, how much and since when? Self prescribed or through an MD?

And you said that you would like to work in the software industry. Does that mean you are right now doing a different job you don’t like or are unemployed?

And saying that at 24 you’re still a virgin: what are the reasons for that? And what type of love relationship is your ideal (or better asked how romantic are you)? How much does love count for you when you have sexual feelings towards somebody?

And last but not least: how shy are you? And what reasons can you imagine for being like the way you are - it’s not about guilt, just how did you become who you are now?

Those are background infos which are important to have answers to before rushing for quick solutions.

Well Depressed means not that kind of depressed who wanted to end his life or something like that but I am stressed sometimes over some topics.

I don’t have a job right now. I am a software engineer but chose to be a freelancer for now. Wanted to have some personal / family time like some time off
From studies and you know IT jobs are quite boring sometimes.

No medications. I am not on any meds right now. I am a little overweight.

The reason of not loosing the virginity is that it’s a taboo here in our country to have sex outside marriage or to have premarital sex and I am saving my virginity for my marriage I guess. I am quite a romantic guy and love does counts a lot. I mean the relationship which is long lasting really matters to me. I want to marry a girl and have kids with her and want to be with her only. That’s what love means to me.

I am quite a shy guy. I don’t know the reasons but I was like , kind of introvert from the beginning. I am just like the way I was 20 years back. I don’t know the reasons but that’s how I am.

I had a bad habit of watching porn since I was 16 years of age and I am kind of masturbating since that age only.
So these are some facts about me.
I hope now I can have some guidelines and solutions maybe.

But thanks for replying anyways.

And from yesterday I have decided to quit watching porn completely.

Well, that gives me a lot of good indications.

- Depressed no, but certainly stressed. No job, starting eventually as a freelancer - all that is a high stress to your mind. And EQ has a lot to do with your mind.
- No meds: perfect, one potential reason can be eliminated.
- Porn consumption: first of all, congratulations for quitting. This will change your libido pretty soon. But do not be surprised if you first have a moment with low libido - your brain is simply missing porn as stimulus. But this changes soon.
- A bit overweight: well, IT is not an outdoor job. We (I’m in IT too) are basically all couch potatoes. So you have to change that. First think about how to loose some weight. Try my hint with Le site officiel de la Méthode Montignac For me it’s working. Second: start to praise the temple.of your body and do some fitness. The easiest thing is walking. Just make your 10-15’000 steps per day and that changes a lot.
- Being shy: well, maybe you are a bit the typical programmer, a little introverted, but there is nothing wrong with that. You seem to care about your family - extend that circle to your friends and your friend’s friends. Just go out and have more social contacts - you still can remain being yourself. But having more contacts helps you to overcome a part of your shyness if you consider it as limiting or disturbing element.
- A practical thing to start with regarding PE is Kegel exercises. Learn to control your penis.
- And then let’s be candid about masturbation. It is not a bad thing - just a lot of men do it "mechanically" with the unique goal of reaching the orgasm. Look at it differently, consider masturbation as great pleasure you want to enjoy as long as possible each time you do it. Do it less and do it better. Go slow and be very focused. Learn about edging - that, by the way, helps PE too. And then, if you allow yourself an orgasm, it has to be mind-shattering. Anything less is not worth it.

Finally sex and marriage. Yes, that’s a personal choice and I respect your choice. Don’t put yourself under stress abozt that. You say you are a pretty romantic guy. Then it’s great to wait for Ms. Perfect. Forget Pattaya, that would probably be the wrong approach because you only find sex there but not love. And love is what you’re looking for.

I think you are just stressed and have some signs of porn-inducted erection difficulties. The first you can change by maybe finding a job - as employee, because freelancing is stress! . The second you just did start to eliminate the root-cause.

And all the rest will be done through a bit more socialising, starting fitness and getting into PE. So that Ms Perfect will get a Mr Perfect too :-)

Thank you Sir Richard65,
Thanks a lot.

Well , I will be starting my physical exercises from today itself.
And I will try to be a little social.
I hope that works for me.
And thanks for you guidelines and advice.
You too stay healthy and happy.

I know the feeling of being depressed, its not fun but you can beat it. For me the solution came relatively recently by, as mentioned above, getting into shape. There are a million different ideals and exercise programs out there and we all respond to different things. The plan that follows is what has worked for me:

I recommend you commit to 90 days of diet, exercise, and PE. At the end of 90 days evaluate your results and adjust as necessary.

I use a ketogenic diet with 65% of my calories coming from fat, 30+% from protein and less than 5% from carbs. To make this easy each gram of fat has 9 calories, each gram of protein has 4 and each gram of carbs has 4. I’m also eating at a caloric deficit to burn fat. My maintenance calories are around 2500 a day and I’m restricting intake to around 1800. Each lb of fat your body has can provide around 30-31 calories per day so it is actually possible to gain muscle and lose fat at the same time if you put in the work. I am lifting 4 days a week and doing cardio the other 3. Additionally i have found that intermittent fasting helps me tremendously, and as such I only eat between noon and 7pm each day. This isn’t for everyone but it has worked well for me.