Feeling Suicidal

I’m coming up on the last straw. I’m 31 and never had a girlfriend in my life. I haven’t had sex in at least two years (I’ve lost track). I’ve had a few sexual encounters since, but every single one ends up the same way.

I already know people are going to say my dick is totally normal, but experience tells me otherwise. I’ve had girls not respond to calls/texts after seeing it, I’ve danced with girls who hand-signal to their friends that I’m tiny (this happens almost every time, especially if it’s close dancing/grinding), I’ve had girls who were initially WAY into me suddenly lose their interest like a light switch when they find out. I could deal maybe if this happened every once in a while, but the never ending dehumanization that haunts me every single time has irreversibly damaged my spirits.

I should probably also mention that I’m black, because maybe other small guys have ultimately found their way. While the stereotype may be true (at least statistically SLIGHTLY larger), to be small and black feels like an immediate death sentence. As if this weren’t big enough of a joke, I also have to deal with the fact that my dad and my brother are clearly packing.

Civilization has stopped natural selection from running its course, so I’m thinking the best contribution I could make is to not pass my tainted genes on, and maybe make an early exit. I would not wish this on anyone.

Here I am browsing Thunders with the last ounce of hope I’ll stumble across a goldmine thread that will solve all my dick problems, but my brain is too numb to wade through it all. I’ve been here on and off for the past ten years, and while I’ve never been terribly consistent (especially since one particular injury), I’ve never made any significant progress. Should I do the newbie routine for the tenth time, or am I just going to have to accept that I’ll be alone forever?

Don’t beat your self over it, I mean I feel the same way because I’m Hispanic and black. Though I am bigger than the average I still feel that I’m not big enough but that’s ok, there’s always room for improvement. The main thing to remember is consistency.

That’s why there’s no significant gains

Just have confidence in yourself.

My friend…
Anger is my best "fuel"….

My moto is
"STAND TALL
STAY ANGRY"

When I do push-ups and I can’t do anymore, I think something that makes me angry and I manage to do 1-2 more…
When I feel so tired and I have a bad psycology I am thinking that I am made of Iron and I will not brake or bend.

Madness?

One more advice.
When you feel small and you think you are small, others will think the same also.

You really need a change on atittude. Even if you are indeed smaller than average, you should always say that you are average.
Girls won’t know the difference….
A woman only needs 3” to get an orgasm. Her G spot is only 3” deep inside her vagina.
If you go to bed with a woman, do it with confidence and not thinking you are small…

Don’t lose hope brother. There is a girl out there waiting for you. But if you only think about the D it will be only about the D. Hell it is an important factor, we are all here on this site because of that. But don’t let the demons get to you. Death will come soon enough and there is more to life than a big dick

Friend,

I have always been on the smaller side of average, years ago when I was playing the field maybe even smaller. I think like Ziggy99 said, force your reality and perspective, you were given a life and that’s a miracle.

There is so much more to sex than just the size of your penis. Don’t hesitate when a girl wants to see what you got, you are what you are and what she really needs is more than just a huge penis and you can be the one to show/teach her that.

Foreplay is key, a woman can orgasm multiple times without the penis ever touching her. Play with her and drive her mad using everything you got, it’s state of mind and body.

In the meantime, focus on your PE and know that progress can take years, but feel great about the fact that you are here and doing your exercises. Most men are getting smaller with age, you are doing PE and will get bigger, so think of your self in a unique group that comprises maybe 1% of men in the world.

Think strong and don’t let the few small minded women out there control your perspective. Focus on those women that are operating at a higher level.

I have been in the situation before where I have contemplated suicide seriously (even got a sweet looking knife). I felt like there was no other way out. But I realized that once you balance your mind, and set your sights, nothing can affect you anymore. The negative things people say only reflect their failure as a person. The only thing that matters is that you were put on this planet by forces we don’t understand, and you completely control what you accomplish. (I’m not a religious nut by the way, no religion or scientific formula accurately describes how to live in my opinion. Everyone has to figure out themselves).

The best way to change your perspective would be to meditate. It will cure you mentally. Accept who you are. Once you do, you will be able to do what you want.

What the girls say doesn’t matter in the slightest. Focus on your own goals, and associate with people who respect you, and you’ll be happy. Good luck

Well, I’m not going to repeat the same thing everyone else has already said. They’ve really nailed it. What I want you to do is find the good things in your life and lay them out so you can fully understand that life is beautiful. As for your “problem,” it really is all in your head. Sure, you may be smaller, but look at is as a blessing. Would you really want to be with snide women like that? I know I wouldn’t.

Get on the newbie routine and STICK TO IT. You’ll be amazed by the progress. I have actually gained a half inch on my erect length with it in one month :) You will only achieve results if you put in the work, my friend.

Now then, drop that negative mindset. Get a ruler/tape measure, measure yourself, and start making some progress! :)

The people here are great. Don’t hesitate on anything. If you have questions, or think you aren’t doing something right, ask someone. The place is full of advice.

Penis, job, looks whatever.. Don’t let any woman manipulate you.

A lot of women don’t go for big penises. You can watch porn with Alexis Texas or Austin Taylor. They never go for the big guys and there are even videos where Austin Taylor is pushing guys away because of their sizes.

Look at the thread titled “giving her the big o” and see how a huge penis can be a hindrance.

Think of it this way, also, I, single version of me, will chase a girl with a huge ass around like a salivating dog whereas none of my friends would give them the time of day.

What are your stats? You maybe worried over nothing?

Also I am up the top end of the latest length and girth average stats and the only regular sex j have is with myself.

Ok, what I learnt during a stay in a mental health clinic. I call them the 4 pillars of health. However, just recently I discovered a fifth.

1. Get enough sleep. (7-9 hours. Lack of sleep can really mess with your head)
2. Get enough nutrition. (Eliminate white things and processed foods. If it needs a container you probably don’t want it. )
3. Exercise. (30-40min brisk walk most days)
4. Stress relief. (I use mindfulness meditation as it is backed by scientific research)

And number 5. Connection. Connect with others.

This lack of connection for me has lead to a lack of joy in my life. Coupled with a recent addition of a sociopathic boss and I am being treated as suffering moderate to severe depression and anxiety.

I’m off to take my own medicine and go for a walk.

Also look up Professor Martin Seligman. For most of his life he made miserable people like me less miserable. Now he is working in how do I make an average person more happy.

Shaun.

OP, let’s be REAL, you have 2 choices: 1, Keep doing PE consistently, and you gonna be average/big. I think this method works if you are consistent enough, It’s just simple like stretching an ear, tongue, lips, neck.. You can Google for all kinds of body modification of those African tribes, they do it very consistently and end up having a really stretched body parts.

2, Penis surgery, there are some risks though, you should think carefully and have a good doctor.

Thank you for all of the replies and apologies for not being on top of getting back to everyone. Here’s the thing: I’ve been in this place before multiple times over the years and managed to talk myself out of it each time… but each time it comes back it gets worse, and resistant to the very things that killed it before. Here are a few talking points that no longer have an effect on me:

1. “It’s all in your head”: there are a number of guys who are actually legitimately average or above average, who once they get over themselves, manage to finally find wonderful sex and a beautiful long lasting relationship. This is NOT me… and it has NEVER been me. I haven’t had a serious girlfriend in my life. Can you imagine being 31 and wondering if you’ll ever meet a woman in your life (other than your mom) who says the words “I love you” and means it? Nearly every potential relationship where a woman was really into me immediately died after the first sexual encounter. The last girl I could’ve had sex with went from basically texting me every night to completely ignoring me. This has happened over and over and over, and after a certain point a rational man can no longer keep saying it’s THEIR shallowness, but rather it’s a problem with ME.

2. “Some girls prefer smaller guys”: I find this incredibly difficult to believe on a penis enlargement website, full of guys who spend a significant amount of their waking lives dedicated to routines in the hopes that their units will MAYBE gain an inch after a year’s work. Not to diss PE— I think there is truth to it— but that’s an awful lot of time to spend on something just for yourself. Admittedly, there are a lot of guys on here that seem to have huge starting stats and for some odd reason decide to keep enlarging, but for the majority of us average joes I feel like we’re doing this for our partners because we feel great when we know we make them feel great??

3. “It’s their problem, not yours”: Again, this would have some merit if I only got burned every once in a while from a stupid size queen. But the fact that I get those disappointing looks, those giggles, that devastating humiliation almost every single time without fail, being in denial any longer becomes laughable.

A few more things:
-I’m not going to share my exact stats, because invariably another guy will come across this thread and get a bonus slap in the face if I happen to be larger than him and STILL suffer. But I will say that I’m about middle/low average length and below average girth. Again, sometimes I think being black makes this doubly painful, because the disappointment is many orders of magnitude worse when the expectations are so great.

-I apologize if my tone is callous— my emotions are on overdrive and I can’t think rationally about sensitivity to each and every person replying. If what I said sounded offensive, I didn’t mean it.

It’s true, a majority of women prefer big dicks. The idea of the perfect dick might be different depending on the girl but above average is better than below average. Yeah that’s why we are all here: to be bigger. I am sorry you are black and don’t fit the stereotype, you were born that way and you are going to have to man up and accept that fact. Accept it.

Accept also that you can improve upon what you were born with bro! If you keep telling yourself that you can’t possibly be good in bed because of the dick you were born: news flash, it will be true. With all the PE in the world you might never become 8x6, you might never have the perfect dick you dream to have. But hasn’t thunders place shown you that there is a way to closer to that goal? Also work on being a better lover, the dick is a major component in sex but there are so many other tools to consider. I dare say if you lack in other departments just having a big dick won’t be enough. Being a good kisser, knowing how to touch a woman, make her want you so bad without even taking your clothes off, you have won.

Yah some guys have all those skills and a big dick, lucky them, we all can’t be the GOAT. The idea is to improve improve improve, life is unfair, get over it. You want to just give up and die? No brother! Rise! You will surprise yourself! Consume the next woman you meet with the enormity of your built up desire to please! She will come back for more bro! Chin up, man up!

Man… Think about people who loves you, your family mother, friends ! What are you talking about ? Imagine their reactions if you die ?
You need to be successful, you need to improve your health, YOU NEED TO BE BETTER YOU !
I say that because you need to prove that all these girls didn’t deserve you, and the goal isn’t to just have a girlfriend but a girlfriend that loves you.
Realize that a girl want a man that is confident.

I want you to do an exercice : you need to make an introspection take a white paper and a pen, take 30 min without perturbation like sound, etc. Stay calm and just write you’re "dream story", like if you die and you put a paper for future generation what story of you would you tell them, "what is the "you" that you want to be", what you want to accomplish.
Same exercice take 30 min and notes your Quality and your Defaults and try to correct your weakness and take advantage of your qualities.

I’m black like you, and I was average but thanks to PE and TP members I was consistant for 1 year I rarely missed a day of PE so, with dedication you can reach your goals.
You want an awesome girlfriend, be an awesome man ! :)

1. Be Healthy, don’t focus your mind on PE don’t stress, eat good, do some sports, become muscular etc.
2. Be consistant in PE never missed a day of PE, 3 months of the Newbie Routine relate your results, if you’ve a problem the community is here !
3. Read posts of the section : Life, Love and Fantasies , you can give an orgasm, be a beast of sex with the good advice.
4. After you read a lot of post, lot of motivation, lot of advice. Do some training in front of a mirror, you know there is people who are naturally good at talking with women but certain people need training !
5. Just hang out, take confidence, be simple.

Sorry, for my English if you have a question don’t hesitate.