Hey everyone, I wanted to give a little background info and hopefully get some insight as to why my EQ has always been not so great. I remember back when I was fourteen my mother would wake me up for school and I would be afraid of getting out of bed because I didn’t want her to see my morning wood. I got this girlfriend towards the beginning of high school and she took my virginity and wound up cheating on me which led me to a very severe depressive state. During this time I got into masturbation and pornography quite heavily. Well, senior year of high school came around and this girl I knew basically told me she wanted to fuck, I believe it to now be performance anxiety coupled with pornography addiction, but I couldn’t get it up which led me to this site. I remember posting on a different account (which I can’t recall the log-in information on) because I was convinced I had the dreaded ED. I remember starting to get into PE and my EQ got quite a bit better, but at the time I really wasn’t concerned because I honestly didn’t plan on having sex again for a long while so I quit. For the last few years I have still not really experienced morning/night wood, but I could get a suitable erection for the purposes of masturbation with or without pornography (the quality always was a few points higher with pornography.) Anyways, so I finally had sex again, I really had no issues getting an erection, not really sure of the quality but it was good enough for sex. I should also mention that for the last 2-3 months I have been on a caloric deficit (around 1800 Cal’s) to lose weight and I am nearly happy with my physical appearance. I have lifted weights for 2.5 years now but never been able to see the muscle I was growing, because I truly was not monitoring my nutrition. Anyways, this girl and I had sex (she has had a kid, and 5 partners before me) and I am 21 years old. I am very inexperienced with sex, but basically she broke it off with me telling me the sex was bad. She even had given me her toy and asked me to use it on her, but I obviously wasn’t doing it right seeing as she took it from me to do it herself haha. When I asked for specifics she told me “the size of the boat was the problem.” The thing is I really don’t feel like I am that small, I believe I am average (and according to the statistics on these forums, I am on the lower side of average.) So, I sum the problem up to being 1)inexperience and 2) possible poor EQ, but at the same time I feel growing above average won’t hurt anything.
So I have some questions
1) is it normal for a 21 year old to not experience morning wood on a regular basis? And if not can it be masturbation that is the problem? (I probably masturbate every other day on average)
2)could it be my caloric deficit that is currently affecting my lack of EQ? (I have done PE both today and yesterday, and I struggle to get/keep the erection level required for jelqing on my own and I refuse to use porn)
3) should I continue with my PE seeing as I am struggling with my EQ?
4) what advice can I get for improving my EQ? I am willing to bump up the calories seeing as I am nearly at my goal weight I want to be and should start bulking soon again anyways. (Currently at a light flexed 4pack, I was shooting for the 6 pack.)
Thanks for all of your responses! =)
My current measurements are BPEL-5.75 EG-4.25