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I've cured my premature ejaculation

Originally Posted by King_G
GENERAL UPDATE

Everything is going perfectly. I have virtually complete control of orgasm. I can last as long as want. I have no refractory period, so I can cum and then immediately start over and cum again. I haven’t tried for a third time yet, but will soon.

And do you attribute the “no refractory” period to the paxil?

My refractory period has always been, even when I was young and hot, many HOURS if not DAYS!

Originally Posted by King_G
Thanks for sharing your exerience in that regard.

Funny! A few years ago I would have felt really bad about admitting, even to myself, that really hot orgasmic women make my cock feel small and inadequate… Now, it’s just a less than happy fact. Back to my V-stretches!

Originally Posted by King_G
Yeah, she find most things gross with sex. Oral, anal, fingers, vibrators. She has very occasionally given me oral and once or twice over the years I’ve given her oral but she says she doesn’t like it. She enjoys straight forward missionary and variations of the missionary but nothing else, although she does them more often now than ever before.

Recently I cut down on initiating sex and just did it when she initiated, result was we have less sex, but better quality. She has started enjoying doing it twice in a row and has started initiating other positions and a couple of things she previously labelled as gross.
So I think giving her the space to initiate has been useful in helping her discover her own sex drive. I think she is realising that she wants to do these gross things as long as she doesn’t feel pushed into it when she’s not in the mood. Unfortunately she’s only in the mood a few times a month. But I’d rather have quality than quantity.

It’s a long process to undo a prudish upbringing but “slowly slowly catch the monkey”. We’ve made tons of progress over the last few months, mainly down to changes in things I can control, such as not initiating sex so frequently.

This may seem weird KG but it seems like you ans I are somewhat kind of in the same boat with this. My wife doesn’t like sex. I may get it twice a month. I’m lucky if I get it more. But I guess since Ive been taking Zoloft, I haven’t been that much concerned although my sex drive is still very high and I want to f*ck ever woman I see. I guess that may have come from being more confident in knowing that I wont cum as quickly and I can go again sooner. But in terms of my wife, it seem now that she too as yours is now beginning to try more things and is now doing things that I wouldn’t have never imagined. Like giving me oral sex more often even without me asking for it. It makes me think that world is about to come to an end. But as you said,” It’s a long process to undo a prudish upbringing” and I must agree.


If you stretch it, it will grow. If you clamp it, she will know.

Originally Posted by King_G
GENERAL UPDATE

Everything is going perfectly. I have virtually complete control of orgasm. I can last as long as want. I have no refractory period, so I can cum and then immediately start over and cum again. I haven’t tried for a third time yet, but will soon. My sex drive is at a much lower and more comfortable level. This is the thing that has improved my sex life the most. Sounds strange but it’s true. My wife is initiating now and is more horny and she’s initiating sex acts that she said she hated before.

So for me Paxil/seroxat has worked in more ways than I expected and has facilitated changes in my sexual behaviour that have greatly improved the quality of sex with my wife. Last night I had sex for about half an hour, I used to be a 2 minute man. I had to really concentrate in order to cum. Yes there have been side effects but nothing to worry about. I can conclude it has worked for me with better than expected results.

So your taking the Paxil/seroxat every day or just as needed before sex?

Originally Posted by mravg
She has never had an orgasm, even by herself? If not, I think that is where she needs to start. She needs to learn how to give herself an orgasm, by herself, so there is no pressure. While you are not around.

Yes, I totally agree, that is the text-book way to do it. Unfortunately my wife think masturbation is disgusting. She is repulsed at the thought of touching herself. It has to do with the whole prudish upringing thing.
So it’s difficult….
I’m trying to make her feel more comfortable with her own body but it’s a long road…

The key seems to be to remove the pressure. So it’s quite tricky encouraging her to be more sexually liberal without putting on any pressure. Especially as she’s so sensetive about it, the slightest hint is taken as pressure. So it’s a very subtle and careful road I travel.


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Originally Posted by Lloyd Baker
And do you attribute the “no refractory” period to the paxil?

My refractory period has always been, even when I was young and hot, many HOURS if not DAYS!

I definitely attribute it to the Paxil. Before Paxil I would need 15-30 mins before I could get another solid hard-on.

But others have also experienced it, see MGUS post earlier in this thread. He had a similar result with his paxil experience.


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Originally Posted by iwillbbigger
This may seem weird KG but it seems like you ans I are somewhat kind of in the same boat with this. My wife doesn’t like sex. I may get it twice a month. I’m lucky if I get it more. But I guess since Ive been taking Zoloft, I haven’t been that much concerned although my sex drive is still very high and I want to f*ck ever woman I see. I guess that may have come from being more confident in knowing that I wont cum as quickly and I can go again sooner. But in terms of my wife, it seem now that she too as yours is now beginning to try more things and is now doing things that I wouldn’t have never imagined. Like giving me oral sex more often even without me asking for it. It makes me think that world is about to come to an end. But as you said,” It’s a long process to undo a prudish upbringing” and I must agree.

Hey iwillbigger, how long you been married?

The key is to remove pressure. The pressure to have sex and also the pressure to perform certain sexual acts. I found that by letting my wife initiate, we are only having sex when she is horny. Now the difference between having sex with a woman who is not horny and one who is horny is about 5000% better sexual experience. Would you rather have 10 crap shags a month. Or two amazing memorable sexual experiences and 8 masturabations.

I started this routine and it meant only having sex twice in one month to begin with. But the sex was HOT!! The sex was creative. She was really present and I felt so much more fulfilled afterwards. But the next month she initiated twice as many times and was horny a lot more in general behaviour, conversation, grabbing my package in passing and stuff like that. After 6 years of giving sex on demand and never having a long enough break for her to build up any sexual tension and thinking she was not a sexual person, just a sexual object for me, she is now discovering that she is actually a sexual person. Given the chance, she does have sexual feelings that build inside her and she has a husband who is not intent on on satisfying himself regardless of whether she’s in the mood or not.

If she has sex only when she’s horny, she is always enjoying sex. If she enjoys sex every time, she may wish to indulge in sex even when she’s only slightly horny, becuase she has learned that sex is enjoyable.
The key is keeping sex enjoyable for your wife, then she will want more. I know this is very hard in practise, but never never push her into having sex when she doesn’t want it. If that means you never get any for months then sit down and have a chat with her about it, but if she’s like my wife, she’ll start inititating. She will probably never initiate as frequently as you’d like. But she will want it more than you think and it will be the kind of sex that’s worth waiting for.

Check out this link. http://net-burst.net/marital/abuse.htm

PS: Get her off the birth control pills if she’s on them. They kill sexual desire.


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Originally Posted by Formula1
So your taking the Paxil/seroxat every day or just as needed before sex?

I’m taking it daily. I think it would work for other people on an as needed basis, but the doses would need to be larger.


Cheers, G Started at 6 x 4.5 - Jan 05 Current 7.1 x 5.1 Goal 8 x 6

Ok guys looking for advice. To date I have been on 10mg paxil/day for the last 32 days. About 10 days ago I’ve switched from taking it in the AM to early evening, hoping it would make a difference. As of today I have noticed no diffference in the time it takes me to get off. Still about the same 2-4 minutes. I was wandering if I should up my dosage to 20mg/day to see if that has any effect, and if not maybe I need to switch medications. I have had no side effects what so ever on the 10mg/day even taking it in the evening. So my question is should I up my dosage? I am an occassional drinker and smoker but I don’t see how that can have any negative effect.

Try 15mg for a couple of weeks. If you still don’t see results, then try 20mg. If you are not experiencing any side effects at these doses (at least during the first week or so), your body is probably tolerating the stuff well. But I wouldn’t go over 20mg, unless supervised by a doctor.

See what happens with the 15mg, then report back. Good luck.

Originally Posted by King_G
Hey iwillbigger, how long you been married?

The key is to remove pressure. The pressure to have sex and also the pressure to perform certain sexual acts. I found that by letting my wife initiate, we are only having sex when she is horny. Now the difference between having sex with a woman who is not horny and one who is horny is about 5000% better sexual experience. Would you rather have 10 crap shags a month. Or two amazing memorable sexual experiences and 8 masturbation’s.

I started this routine and it meant only having sex twice in one month to begin with. But the sex was HOT!! The sex was creative. She was really present and I felt so much more fulfilled afterwards. But the next month she initiated twice as many times and was horny a lot more in general behaviour, conversation, grabbing my package in passing and stuff like that. After 6 years of giving sex on demand and never having a long enough break for her to build up any sexual tension and thinking she was not a sexual person, just a sexual object for me, she is now discovering that she is actually a sexual person. Given the chance, she does have sexual feelings that build inside her and she has a husband who is not intent on on satisfying himself regardless of whether she’s in the mood or not.

If she has sex only when she’s horny, she is always enjoying sex. If she enjoys sex every time, she may wish to indulge in sex even when she’s only slightly horny, because she has learned that sex is enjoyable.
The key is keeping sex enjoyable for your wife, then she will want more. I know this is very hard in practise, but never never push her into having sex when she doesn’t want it. If that means you never get any for months then sit down and have a chat with her about it, but if she’s like my wife, she’ll start inititating. She will probably never initiate as frequently as you’d like. But she will want it more than you think and it will be the kind of sex that’s worth waiting for.

Check out this link. http://net-burst.net/marital/abuse.htm

PS: Get her off the birth control pills if she’s on them. They kill sexual desire.

I have been married for 14 years. By the way she isn’t on birth control, I had a vasectomy. But as of lately shes been the one to initiate sex. Well at least I let her. And I must agree that it has been more often. I haven’t lost any of my desire though. I am still as horny as I was before taking Zoloft. Also I am having no more side effects and I’m still doing well taking it. I also feel like I have hit a plateau as well and I may have to increase dosage. But I’m still able to go longer than 15 min.


If you stretch it, it will grow. If you clamp it, she will know.

Originally Posted by gram40
Ok guys looking for advice. To date I have been on 10mg paxil/day for the last 32 days. About 10 days ago I’ve switched from taking it in the AM to early evening, hoping it would make a difference. As of today I have noticed no diffference in the time it takes me to get off. Still about the same 2-4 minutes. I was wandering if I should up my dosage to 20mg/day to see if that has any effect, and if not maybe I need to switch medications. I have had no side effects what so ever on the 10mg/day even taking it in the evening. So my question is should I up my dosage? I am an occassional drinker and smoker but I don’t see how that can have any negative effect.

Yeah, I agree with motivated, try 15mg per day for 10 days then report back. The fact you aren’t getting any side effects does make me think your body is handling it too well. You definitely need a stronger dose. I hope 15 mg works for ya.


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Originally Posted by iwillbbigger
I have been married for 14 years. By the way she isn’t on birth control, I had a vasectomy. But as of lately shes been the one to initiate sex. Well at least I let her. And I must agree that it has been more often. I haven’t lost any of my desire though. I am still as horny as I was before taking Zoloft. Also I am having no more side effects and I’m still doing well taking it. I also feel like I have hit a plateau as well and I may have to increase dosage. But I’m still able to go longer than 15 min.

Dude did you should check this out, good advice I reckon…

Sexual “take-away” strategy


Cheers, G Started at 6 x 4.5 - Jan 05 Current 7.1 x 5.1 Goal 8 x 6

Thanks guys, I’ll give that a go and let you know how it works.

Today is my second day giving the 20mg Paxil a try and so far I would say I don’t like it. Too much upset stomach and feeling of anxiety. I know my doctor said to give it two weeks to take effect but I don’t know if I can hold out that long unless things get better quickly. Last night for about 5 hours I kept feeling like I wanted to throw up.

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