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Thanks sparkyx you make good points. I do think she gets too carried away and sometimes I think it’s not carried away in her pleasure, but more pleasure in my pleasure. I’ve gotta convince her to let her get wrapped up in her own pleasure, I think that’s the biggest problem that she can’t relax. The environment hurts it as well, because we both live in our parents homes, and rarely get privacy. however this past week we were alone and had sex many times but still nothing happend. she is the sensitive type so maybe she needs candles and dinner. hard to do living at home


machtenx

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I don’t know what the drinking age is in your area, but I think for the woman a glass of wine does wonders for relaxing her. I don’t know what it is about alcohol and woman…but it does seem to relax their inhibitions. Women, especially young woman sometimes (like guys) think too damn much during sex. For a guy, it can result in worry, which results in loss of erection. For a gal, it can prevent them from cumming. The art of sexuality for a woman is the art of totally letting go of all control. So here’s the winning combination… a sober guy and a girl with one or two mild drinks. More than that is no good, just enough to relax her. Once she is relaxed, proceed with nice moderate to slow speed like I said in my last post. Forget about what she is telling you to do as far as speed…she may have it all wrong! Really, I learned this early on (I’m 46) by watching women masturbate. The ones that really can get themselves off, tend to set a moderate to slow pace and keep that pace. The ones who can’t really get themselves off tend to “chase”their orgasm…that is as they get aroused they go faster and harder. This causes a numbing of sensation which then causes them to go harder and faster to try and catch their decreasing arousal. Finally they can’t keep up the pace, or just get frustrated as their arousal drops drastically. Remember, just cuz’ shes telling what to do doesn’t mean she knows what to do. I think the fact that she isn’t cumming tells me she doesn’t know what she needs! You take the reins here, do what I said, get her one glass of wine, have a few laughs, relax, don’t take the whole thing so seriously, be playful. Tell her you just want to enjoy being in her,and it’s not important if either of you cum. Of course this is just to put her at ease, as well as yourself. Now that you’ve set the psychological tone you can proceed. Take your time with her, kiss her deeply and long. Slowly tease her out of her clothes. Suck her nipples and mouth gently and take time. Get her to the point she is desperately trying to get your pants off. Once you are both naked, take dirty to her (if she likes it) tell her you are going to fuck her nice and slow and enjoy her pussy as long as you want to. Then put her on her back and rub you cock against the outside of her pussy until she is begging for you to put it in. Actually make her beg!!! Make her say it, for many women it is a huge turn on to be made to be slutty (they love it!). Then take your time and fuck her slow. She will try to speed you up…DON’T DO IT!!! Continue at a moderate to slow pace until she cums. If she is just on the edge but won’t go over…DON’T PANIC…keep the same pace and experiment with the kicker, the thing that will put her over. For my gal (I think most women) it varies, what works today may not work tomorrow, but will work at some other time. I’ll tell you some of the things that work for my gal.

1 Gently finger her ass, (sometimes she doesn’t like it, other times she begs to be fuck anally…women are moving targets!)

2 Pound her hard. (time limit here, refer to the first post)

3 Talk dirty to her. This takes experimentation to see what ‘gets’ to her. Sometimes she likes for me to play “daddy”. Sometimes its her being “mommy” (god I love that one!) Sometimes its me asking her how would she like to see some stranger gal suck me off, or watch me fuck her. The thing is, like I said what may totally turn her on today, may turn her off tomorrow, like I said,’moving target’!

4 Suck or bite her neck, kiss her, suck her nipples, gently pull her hair.

These are just some of the things that work on my gal, actually one of these will work on most women. The key to being a good lover is to do your exploration with your gal. Sometimes you will get lucky and you can ask,and she can tell you, but not always. Its worth a try. The main thing is to take the anxiety down 5 notches! This is not hostage negotiations, if you don’t get it perfect today… so what? Go about with an attitude of sexy playfulness, enjoy exploring your woman’s mind and body. What fun it is to explore all over her to find what gets her hot, its great to probe her mind and find her nasty little secrets. Do you know how many woman have fantasies about being “taken against their will” or getting fucked by fido, or doing their dads or moms? This is all stuff that is the hidden sexuality of women that once you tap into it, you take the whole thing to another level no one may have ever taken them to. Most of these fantasies are just that fantasies. Many women get off on fantasizing about being raped, I doubt any really want to be raped for real, whole different ball game.

So have FUN!!! Be safe, wrap that rascal,don’t get her pregnant, and start enjoying this process instead of turning into a chore to be worried about.

Regards,

Sparkyx

I just re-read your last post. Forget about convincing her of anything! Too damn much talk between two people who are thinking too much already! Just DO what I’ve recommended, and tell her you’re gonna just enjoy her pussy and she should just lay back and enjoy the ride! I heard one woman put it exactly right (to set the perfect psychological tone for the man) she said,”fuck me like you don’t give a shit about me!” Do you get that? Thats why so many of these gals go off and fuck the bad boys on the first date (date hell, the guys comes over after 1100pm and just fucks’em), and keep coming back for more, even though the guys treat em’ like crap. When you don’t give a crap about the women, you have your head on straight to properly enjoy yourself. So the ideal is to fuck her like your there for yourself, with one eye on how she is responding so she gets hers BIGTIME!

Sparkyx

Originally Posted by sparkyx
“fuck me like you don’t give a shit about me!”

Coolest thing I’ve heard all day…

Thanks Sparkyx that was a great post, really appreciate it.

Good news though, this past Saturday we had sex. My girl is extremely sensitive and caring. People commented here that something different works for everyone. My girl cried at Spiderman 2 the previous night so I thought, this girl is the most sensitive person in the world, maybe she wants to hear that she is loved. So I told her over and over while we had sex, I think it made her feel good about herself (she also has low self esteem.) We had been talking dirty and fuckign hard recently which she liked, but was not giving her orgasm.

That night we fucked gently but deeply to the point where I was massaging her insides. Then she got on top, and road me very slowly, sliding back to something that felt like my dick was rubbing on it. She was quivering the whole time looking into my eyes, and I felt goosebumps on her arms and legs. She was extremely wet, almost felt like she released something. She didn’t go into convultions but she stopped and leaned over on me and made a face like something had just happened, she came for the first time from sex!!!

SOOOOO moral of the story I guess is to just keep trying different things and look at the personality of your own girl and think about what she would want. For a sensitive girl, I now know it is to feel loved.

Thanks for all your tips guys, if it wasn’t for you folks I might have never made a girl orgasm in my life :)

That said, anyone have tips for making love to a sensitive girl? :)


machtenx

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Congrats machtenx!

It’s great to hear that. A truly inspiring story, especially for me as I’m walking in the same shoes you were once in.

-Pingpang

Originally Posted by pingpang
Congrats machtenx!

It’s great to hear that. A truly inspiring story, especially for me as I’m walking in the same shoes you were once in.
-Pingpang

Thanks pingpang!

I’m sure you’ll get it man. I used to think my girlfriend needed a 12 incher to orgasm, but it was just me saying I love you for her! How ridiculous I was! It really depends on the girl for what works to get her off. Think about what kind of a person she is, and what she craves in life, and that’s probably what she craves in bed. Just my experience :) Good luck man


machtenx

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Excellent!

The key here other than her feeling loved, was the slow pace. Slow to moderate STEADY pace is what will get them there or at least very close. Just keep up with that approach and it will start to be more frequent and intense for both of you.

Regards,

Sparkyx

Congrats!

It is constantly changing.

It really is constantly changing. Lately my girlfriend has been a little distant so I’m trying new things. I told her how bad I wanted to eat her out until she came and this got her super wet. Then I told her I wasn’t going to do anything until she masterbated. Then when I finally went down on her I got really into it and made moaning noises. She got off HARDCORE, To the point that she is hypoglycimic and passed out afterwards…..Hey what about me? I guess thats licking her brains out?!?

Before this she enjoyed hard sex but it was still always very emotional, not dirty.

well you can strengthen yourself by masturbating, everytime you are about to climax.. try and hold on to dear life.. and repeat

It’s all in your head. Keep on kegeling. And change your mindset when having sex, for example think, “How much pleasure can I give her” and just enjoy the adventure

Try a condom. It will desensitize.

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