I just wanted to share that after 15 years of practicing ejaculation control and some Dao, as described in the excellent cheeva’s thread Dick Control: A Primer, I unexpectedly learned dry orgasms. Not that I haven’t had a lot of fun before, and not that I now have much more fun, but this is just a completely different stuff. Way different. Let me explain my experience:
Ejaculation control, edging, riding the plateau, all feel good. You can have sex for hours, and at a different pace after some practice. You will feel lots of energy, and after half an hour of such sex you will feel a good partial relief, and after an hour or two of it you should even experience a satisfaction. This is good stuff. Gives you lots of energy, sense of well-being, confidence, and huge bonus points with women.
Dry orgasms seems to me just like the usual wet orgasms. Except no ejaculation. I have to keep the prostate tight, but also be relaxed to not have the muscle spasms that cause the ejaculation. Weird, and I never believed it was possible, but turns out I have been so very close to this for years without realizing it.
How do I do it? When going over the PONR (point of no return) I just relax, but I keep the prostate tight, and channel the energy up my spine (see the cheeva’s thread). I get an orgasm, which feels pretty much like a normal orgasm, and I get an immediate relief with some loss of erection if I am fully satisfied. The standard thing. The main thing that is different about dry orgasms is that I am not getting the full-blown fatigue that I get after wet orgasms.
I can have 3-5 of these distinct dry orgasms in a session, if I try. Masturbation or real sex, doesn’t matter. When masturbating, I can pause for 3-5 seconds, then stimulate myself a little more and have another full orgasm right away. Really cool stuff, I thought only a few girls can do something like this. The best is getting an oral while having a dry orgasm. The girl does not change her pace because there is no risk for her to choke or drown, LOL, and the oral stimulation is so gentle that I can relax better and have more fun. Try it!
I am just a newbie in this area, so maybe others can share their thoughts and experiences. I think I have one muscle tight but most others relaxed. Maybe the prostate tight, and all others relaxed. Or maybe the prostate and the PC muscle tight, and all others relaxed.
I had experiences similar to this many times before, but I wasn’t doing it right. Somehow it my brain I had it that if I go over the PONR, then ejaculation is inevitable, and stopping the semen flow is a bad thing. I tried stopping the semen, but I was contracting way too many muscles, and it did not feel good at all, and it did not work very well, and it hurt, and it felt terrible, and I wished I’d rather ejaculated. What I did not do is relax properly and channel the energy up the spine. I am doing it better now.
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