Talking about PE in real life?

Just curious, do any of you talk about your PE experiences outside this forum; for example, to friends, family, co-workers? I personally have only told my wife. I don’t know how I would feel about telling friends.

Hey spectral,

Welcome to the forum!

My wife absolutely knows. Outside of that, I discuss it frequently with my brother. We’re both cut, he mentioned some years ago attempting foreskin restoration. Potentially surgery. Kinda brought us here. Far as I know, he’s still a lurker.

In any other situation, it hasn’t come up. If anyone asked “hey, how can I make dick bigger?”, I’d direct them “here” for sure. I don’t have a problem talking about it. It just is what it is.

Although, I’d avoid the coworker bit… even if it came up. Coworkers are coworkers, not friends nor family…and I don’t mean the mindless add’s on Facebook. I mean real friends. There’s a big difference.

That’s some good insight. I don’t think I would ever tell a co-worker. Although I feel like I could talk to a few people I work with about PE, anything you say on the job site can and will be used against you.

Even off the job site, after a couple beers, and hanging out. Some people just shouldn’t be trusted. That’s a category of person I don’t trust. Been there, done that; over other topics. Never again.

This forum is about as anonymous and true to fact as you can get. There’s not much, if anything, a person can say without getting a “real” response from other people living life just the same.

It’s good to have you around. Thanks for the topic. I’m interested to see where it goes.

Really just this forum. While my wife knows, she is not supportive, of pumping at least… so I don’t bring it up…

only my wife

I agree with all of this. I’ll also add that, at the least manuals may be a good conversation to have with your son during that puberty stage. I didn’t b/c I had never heard of PE.

My gf and I also have never talked about it, but she’s not clueless, there are too many things lying around.

Unfortunately for me, no one. I know my wife knows, because she caught me red handed pumping while I was shaving, about 2 months ago. She just shook her head and walked out of the bathroom. Also probably, 2 years ago I left 2 clamps on the tub after showering/clamping. She showered the next morning. I know she saw them, but never said a word.

I wish it wasn’t this way, but she’s told me many a times she doesn’t care about size. But, I can tell a difference in her reactions during sex, compared to when we first got together. And the last couple times we’ve had sex, I’ve actually pumped during the foreplay, put the ring on, and I know I’m thicker than ever before and she loves it! I’ve started to do that, one for the pleasure and to hopefully force the honest talk about PE, that should happen. I just don’t start it because I know she will think I’m crazy/stupid.

Some people in my life knows, others that are not in my life also knows. One of my best friends wanted to know more about it and we had good conversations, through teachings of mine he overcame ED and gained 1,5cm in BPEL through manuals.

It’s not something I’m embarrassed about, but it’s not something I’d share without a specific reason.

My wife knows; her eyes cross with boredom when I explain what I’m doing. On the other hand, she bought me a Bib Hanger, so I don’t think she objects.

Couple of years ago when I went to therapy due to not having my shit together I tried to talk to an male psychologist about it. He told me that if it works and i don’t hurt myself then why stop or feel bad about it. Come to think about it he thought my PE stuff was an non-issue and was avoiding discussing it.

Told my current SO pretty early on about it after 3 months. I think at around this point she got serious with me. Maybe the whole thing me being so open about it was one of the reasons why she is with me. She likes the whole idea if I try to combine meditation with it and she’s noticed that if I do my PE right after work I am much more relaxed and has recommended me to do so. Only thing she is worried about me getting hurt so occasional blisters and discoloration has scared her a bit.

She helped me to renovate the closet in my office so I can do the stuff there and lock it with ease if there are visitors coming.

I don’t understand the point of telling my friends about it. Whats the end goal with it?

Maybe I should tell my sons about it when they are older. How do you guys think about telling them? What age is ok or not telling them at all? AFAIK for example bib just gave his son(s?) the tools and told them do what you want with them.

When I’m among people, and penis size comes up, I’m the first to say I have a small one and hang weights on my penis for it to grow.

My wife knows (and rolls her eyes, but lets me do what makes me happy), but I haven’t told anyone else about it.
There are people I would feel comfortable telling, but it’s never come up and there is no reason for me to bring it up out of the blue.

I have a 1 year old boy and I think about whether I will tell him about PE one day, but how does one do that without also necessarily driving home the idea that size is something to worry about, which I definitely don’t want to put in his head.

I mean, I’ve always liked my penis aesthetically, and it was external sources that put the idea in my head that it may not be big enough. Now even though I know that statistically it’s longer and thicker than the average, I can give my wife vaginal orgasms and I’ve never had anyone complain about my size, yet I still occasionally experience size insecurity.
I don’t want that for my son. I certainly don’t want to be the source of that insecurity by putting the idea in his head.

Wife knows. But I told her with an ED angle.

I guess it depends on what type of person you are! I’d be somewhat embarrassed about some such a thing, I believe most people would assume you are either tiny, or some kind of freak, so you’d be opening yourself up to lifelong jokes! I believe most folks just wouldn’t get it and I lack the energy and motivation to explain it. Not that it matters what they think, I was emancipated years ago from other folks criticism when I observed so many examples of hypocrisy time sand time again. Still, for me it’s personal.