Question about hardness

I have an embarrassing question about hardness. My girl friend pointed out a few things to me. I do not have a “rock hard” penis as she put it. I can when completely erect I can hold the head of my penis and bend it down to between my legs. She said that was not normal. I have been able to do that all my life. She also pointed out that my penis did not feel as hard as other she had been with. Almost like I was not getting fully hard. Here are my questions

1. Is the act of pinching off an orgasm a cause for that?

2. Could it be from poor blood circulation?

3. Does anyone know if the exercises work on hardness?

Sorry about being so blunt but I figured this was the place to be blunt about it. Thank you in advance for your advice.

I’ll try to help, but I’m new so it might not be right. I did do a lot of research though.
From what I know, it could be from poor circulation, or from what you described, you have very loose or stretchy ligaments. This allows you to bend your penis down. I personally can’t go any farther down than perpendicular to my body before it starts to hurt. I kinda wish this wasn’t the case, but I’ll deal with it. I’m not sure about the pinching off orgasms though, I thought that was supposed to be helpful, and I haven’t heard any negative comments about it yet. Also, I think Kegals work to help hardness and penis strength. These could help with your hardness and perhaps even your control over your penis so you might not have to pinch off orgasms as often.

Hope I helped! :P

I had the same problem, I could get “hard” but not HARD! Jelqing really helps but make sure you do your rest days. After several months of PE I found my EQ dropping, morning word rarely happened and if it did it was very meager. So I upped the anti, started clamping, lengthy jelq sessions etc. But to no avail. Till one day I started doing the 2 days on 1 day off routine, before that I was doing 5 on 2 off and what would you know. My erections came back with a vengeance! Definately give the exercises a go and make sure to take it easy!

Oh wow, Okay then. I’m definitely going through with my thoughts of 3 on 1 off. I was thinking about doing 6 on and 1 off, but if that’s gonna happen. No way. I’ll keep my erections, thanks. :D

I get hard erections and I can bend my penis down dude. Don’t worry about it. It isn’t abnormal. Also, if you watch porn you will see porn stars who bend their dicks down like that, when the girl is on her shoulders with her ass in the air, while fucking in a sort of squat like motion. A flexible dick is a good attribute in my book…That I could be biased though.

Also determine if you are harder when masturbating, than when having sex.

If you are harder while masturbating, it may take a while before you get used to your new lady.

That’s happened to me before. [Personal experience] When I first tried going with a guy, I wasn’t hard at all. After I got past the nerves, now it’s the same for me. [/End Personal Experience]

For sure man. Some guys get crazy hard from the excitement, some get a little cock-shy from the nerves of performing in a new situation.

I didn’t have this problem myself though, I found I had spent so much time doing it myself, without lube, that my penis wasn’t sensitive to the feel of a woman.

Also make sure your not over doing it in the porn department and masturbating too much. If so look take a break from porn or as it is called here time for porn detox.

Yeah haha, whenever I’m seeing someone, I don’t watch porn, and I try to jerk off less. I don’t stop, usually only in the mornings when I have morning wood, but still, it’s a lot less. I try to save the best for my partner :)

Welcome aboard, Altarune.

First thing, if you always had that kind of penis when erected, I think it’s unlikely a matter of poor blood circulation.

Said that, what it’s not clear to me is this : can you bend the shaft while erect?

Doing the linear routine (try searching for) will get you harder erections near for sure, and likely will carry some gains in size also.

Lol! Exactly.

Altarune,

What you dick does maybe normal for you. Your girl friend will get accustomed to it.

Having said that, you may want to try exercising your PC muscle by doing kegel exercises. You can do an advanced search on “Kegel” to find out more information.

Hope this helps,

Well, I thought I was unlucky. Mine is too hard and stiff when erect that it points up the sky. I thought guys like you are more normal.

I have a similar condition, as I can bend while erect, and I too have a hardness that does not seem fully HARD, and so I am PE’ing and not masturbating for an entire month to see how hard I become over the course of February, I will let you know what differences I see, whether or not I become much harder at the end of this cycle. I do agree with the other members that this may be a norm for some and that kegels will make your erections stronger.