My small penis and insecurities, and my last hope.

Hi guys,

A little background about me,
Objectively I grew with a decent height of 6”1, and a fairly decent athletic physique with an attractive face.
But the only cursing me and my life is my penis size.
Currently my measure are 4.7 BPEL, and 4” GIRTH at the thickest point.

I’m 22 years old and till then, this has affected my self esteem and relationships with women. Having grown up in puberty watching porn, I see all these men with huge dongs pleasuring to orgasms with their big schlongs.
When I look at my little thing I feel so discouraged to even seek a women.

When I look at the mirror the only thing out of proportionate is my penis, it looks like a baby’s dick compared to my body. I don’t know how to live with this, their are some days I feel very depressed because I believe will women reject me as soon as as they see my tool.

I really don’t feel like a man or fill fulfilled with the size I have. I don’t take chances with women or go through that extra step for sex because I believe they will reject me on sight, or after sex.

Well that’s enough of my background, and now I’m here to really change. My ideal goal ATM would be to aim for 6” x 5”. I would also like to get to this measurements (if possible) as quick as possible, even if that means I have to sacrifice hours a day to achieve these lengths. My ideal length would be 7.5x5(which I’ve read on this forum to be ideal), but I’ve been inconsistent on and off with PE and I feel it hasn’t grown one bit.

Do you guys believe I can achieve such a size?, I really feel lack and my manlihood is taken away, I want to be able to give women deep orgasms, but I feel it’s not possible with such a small dick.

I do have a porn addiction, and now I’m trying to quit porn and cut masturbation , cause that also effects my self esteem.

Thanks.

There are a couple important things to keep in mind. First, porn is skewed. The men are chosen for their above average size, and because typically the only other penises we see are in porn our perception of normal becomes skewed as well. We start subconsciously thinking that large is average, average is small, and small is smaller. Additionally, the women in porn are actresses. They’re paid to skwirm and moan and talk about how much they love that big dick. Sometimes it helps to pay attention to the looks on their faces during sex. If you look, you’ll see that their facial expressions often show discomfort rather than pleasure, despite what they may be saying.

Second, most women REALLY don’t care about size. They care about emotional connection. Given there are size queens, but for the most part women just want a lover that is going to pay attention to their needs. I’ve given my fair share of orgasms and not one of them has been through penetration. Not to say that it isn’t possible or anything like that, but all of my partners have been perfectly happy to receive orgasms through oral.

We’re all here because of insecurity about size (at some level). I’m here for a similar reason as you. I’m 6’2”, 240lbs, and I feel like my penis looks small on my body. I want it to be bigger as a means of satisfying my own confidence in my body. For me, it’s not about any sexual benefits, rather it’s about the confidence that comes with being bigger.

All that being said, I’m sure you can reach your goals as long as you stick to the program. My one warning is to not “sacrifice hours per day” in order to try to speed gains. PE is a marathon, not a sprint. You can no more gain an inch in three months than you could start today and be performing 360 dunks on a basketball hoop or be doing double backflips after a couple months of gymnastics. Remember that gaining takes time, just like anything else. If you’re committed to it you’ll see the results. Just don’t get discouraged that it takes time. You’re 22, you’ve got all the time in the world.

I’ll echo that. Slow and steady wins the race. If your goal takes you a year or longer to get to, think of the decades you’ll have to enjoy it.

If you want to succeed with women (and especially at 22 years of age) you are better off spending “hours a day” studying so you can make a lot of money. Spend an hour or less a day on PE.

Also don’t forget that the girls in porn are usually super tiny. Makes the dicks look bigger.

Welcome aboard. Man, you have to understand that most women really want a long term relationship, love, security, trust and physical attraction. Most of those who put out is because they think it will help them get the above. So your dick is big enough to breed them. When you look at yourself in the mirror you have to forget what big cocks look like and accept the fact that you have a working tool! Most people never worry about their size. That’s the confidence a woman wants. As you begin to PE you will become more aware of your penis and how it responds and works. Measure your BPEL, EG, and BPFSL as a minimum and post it here for posterity. Get into the newbie routine and don’t look back for a month at least. Don’t over work your dick! When it is tired it needs rest. If you squeeze to hard and try fully erect jelqing you almost certainly will have some bruising, ruptured capillaries, or blood spots and a sore dick. Try to just be cool and follow the routine without extra force. Be consistant and learn to perfect the techniques. Jelqing should always feel good and leave your dick in decent shape. Read, read, read. There is tons of info here. Learn to use the search tool. Try to follow the rules and good luck with gaining. You have to think positive. You will gain.

One thing I forgot to mention with going to fast is risk of injury. If you do too much too fast you might hurt your dick. You wouldn’t go try to bench press 400lbs right out of the gate would you? If you did, you could do significant damage to yourself requiring months of downtime to heal, only to find yourself having to take it super easy just to get rehabbed. You’ve only got one dick. There is risk involved in PE and if you do things wrong you could be setting yourself up for a life time of erectile dysfunction. Take it slow.

First, virtually all women that I’ve met, sexually or otherwise, have told me that size is not high in their priorities when they judge a man. Intelligence, wit, a good sense of humor (they love to laugh almost as much as fucking), sensitivity, success, attitude, confidence (this one is very, very important), come first.

True story.

Several years ago I posted about a sexual encounter with two sisters, one 25 the other 36. In the preliminary conversation over some wine, the 25 year old, who was very experienced (and I suspect that even did some prostitution), confided to me that she had had a relationship with a very successful entrepreneur whom she enjoyed very much notwithstanding the fact that his dick was 3.125” in length and about the girth of her thin thumb (she actually said “believe or not, he was the size of my thumb”, showing it). She said: “His bitchy wife is unfaithful to him because of that, but I wouldn’t change that man for anybody, whatever their dick size, he is great”.

So, do believe that there are sensitive and caring women. Don’t abstain form sex because of this issue, and besides PE, work in your self-confidence.

Fdjamaan, begin with the newbie routine and stick with it. If you are truly dedicated two basic things will happen.

Firstly, your dick will get bigger, and secondly you will stop caring about dick size and sex. The women you will meet in your life will care much more about the size of your wallet than the size of your dick.

I am a reasonably handsome guy a shade under six foot two inches and at my advanced age of 51 women will still go for the ugly short guy over the athlete for money.

Why? Security and bragging rights mostly.

Oh yeah, and one other thing; do the PE for yourself, because women will always compare you if you try to play the dick card, and that will crucify you.

Women will not reject you for penis size. Not saying that I don’t understand how you feel though.

This is an inspirational thread
2-inch Growth Comparative Pictures

as you see, you don’t really need to do much to have big gains - being consistent, and a reasoned approach will give a lot of gains if you are blessed for gains. So, do a very basic routine consistently.

Pumping wisely and wearing a cock ring can give a temporary increase in size that can make you feel more confident about your size.

First off you need to realize you have a normal average penis. And second is yes you can grow. It just takes time, effort, and consistency.

Hey fdjamaan welcome to the forums. As you can see in my signature my length is right where you are and my girth is a little larger. I too shared many of the same insecurities that you do but a large majority of them come from a girl whom I really liked who turned me down because of my size. However, it is important to realize that for every girl that would reject you on size alone there are 20+ that would not. As others have said you are very young (I am also 22) and you have plenty of time to experience sex. Just keep a positive attitude about PE and focus on building your self confidence. Finally, as others have echoed being successful in life is much more than having a large penis. Focus on finding a career that will allow you to become financially stable and possibly wealthy. That is much more attractive than some guy with a huge dong that is still living with his parents because he is a loser.

And inch in girth? Very doable. An inch and some change in length? Again doable, but you need to stay dedicated and consistent. It comes down to how much you want it.

Be a better man. Don’t ever be satisfied with how you treat her. Let me be VERY straight forward when I say DO NOT BECOME A WELCOME MAT. Just be chivalrous, be kind and helpful. Women are very forgiving creatures. They will look past things we tend to call less than average. You want to be a super star in bed? Learn oral sex. Get great at it. You know how much you love getting blown? I’ll bet she likes it too. I’ve heard many women say “if he’s good at oral, nothing else matters in bed”. PE is great, and if it works, 6”x5.5” will drive her crazy.

Now also keep in mind that the woman’s body matters too. I’ve been with 7 women in my life. Using the same sexual techniques, I’ve had women orgasm an average of 3-5 times, one even came 11 times in an hour and a half, and my current wife is only able to cum once. Only 3 times have I been able to make her cum twice. My point is; once you reach your goal size, don’t take it too hard if she won’t scream your name.

PE success can hinge on psychological factors. The mind is a POWERFUL tool, more powerful than an 8”x6” jackhammer. You can think your way to blowing early, or convince yourself to last longer. Hell, I’ve thought myself soft during sex before. Get your mind right, and your tool will no longer be a blockade, instead it will be your wing man as you take her to the pinnacle of physical pleasure.

Preachy? Maybe.. But inspiration can be found in any form. Good luck man!

Thanks guys for your insight and helping change my attitude in this matter, I’ll be looking forward read more into this hobby and post updates on my progress. And wow at the 2-inch grown comparison link, very inspiring.