Big Girth - The Downside
Since joining the forum I’ve noticed that a lot of men have their girth goal as 6”. As a man who has over 6” girth as a starting point, I thought it might be beneficial to provide a “know what you are getting into” perspective. I’ve thought about starting this thread for a few days now. It’s not my intention for this to come off as a brag thread or being preachy and I sincerely apologize if it does. It’s also not my intention to make big girth seem like some horrible thing. It does have it’s upsides, but sometimes describing the upsides comes off as braggy which I want to avoid and would defeat the purpose of the thread. Additionally, it is not my intention to make light of people’s goals or discourage you from reaching the size you want. Rather, I wanted to provide a little insight so that you can understand the differences that having a 6+” girth can make in your sex life. I’m writing from the perspective of a straight man, so for brevity I’ll be writing in terms of male/female relationship, but I’m sure a lot of what I’ll say applies to male/male relationships.
Let’s start with a quick differentiation between girth and length. I’m sure the majority of us are looking for gains in both areas. However, there is a fundamental difference between girth gains and length gains that is extremely important, and I’m not just talking about the difference in total volume many of you are familiar with. The important difference I’m talking about in this case is in how you use your penis during sex. Let’s say you start out with 6” of length and increase that to 8”. You now have an extremely long penis and are pretty proud of your gains. However, your partner expresses discomfort and tells you that you’re going to deep and it hurts. Simple solution: don’t thrust as deeply. With length you have the option of using less than your full size if necessary to make sex more pleasurable for your partner. The same is not true for girth. You nearly always have to use your entire girth during sex. If you have 6” MSEG, that means using it the whole time. Whereas if your partner is uncomfortable with your length you can use less of it, if your partner is uncomfortable with your girth, well, they have to get used to it.
With that in mind, let’s look at some common situations:
Do you like waking your partner in the morning with a quick, no foreplay romp in the sheets? Ever enjoyed one of those “the moment hit us” sessions where you just dropped your pants, put it in and went at it? I haven’t. Having 6” girth means foreplay. And lube. It means taking the time to get your partner in the mood. Even after foreplay some women find it difficult to take a large girth. Lest you throw out the “but a baby can come through there” argument, remember that a woman’s body goes through MANY changes during child birth. The vagina of a woman giving birth and the vagina of a girl you picked up at the bar are two completely different things. I’ve never engaged in sex where the woman was so turned on she was relaxed enough to pass a child through, so we’re looking at two different things.
When you’re shooting for a girth of 6”, you are going pretty far beyond average and hitting a very large size. Thinking in terms of average, most men have average penises, most women have average vaginas. That being the case, most women will not be expecting or used to being penetrated by something significantly larger than a roll of toilet paper. Insertion can take time and with some women you’ll really have to ease it in. It’s not uncommon for the woman to grimace in discomfort/pain as you first start having sex. Not exactly a turn on. I’ve had relationships break down because the sex was too uncomfortable, no matter how much foreplay we engaged in.
Teeth. You like them? Me neither. Expected to have a lot more teeth rubbing your penis as you get larger in girth. Not terrible mind you, but definitely noticeable. Also, a lot of women have difficulty giving blow jobs for an extended length of time, as it’s harder to keep their mouth open wider.
Nope. This may not be entirely true. I’m not exactly promiscuous, but I’ve had about the average amount of partners. Of them, only one has even mentioned anal sex and she was extremely drunk at the time. When I asked her about it later, she emphatically said no. That’s not to say that anal is completely off the board. I’m sure there are women who do enjoy anal with a thick penis, I just haven’t met any of them.
Sex under ten minutes.
One of the great things about being young is that hormones drive sexual encounters, especially in the beginning of a relationship. One of the great pleasures of being in a new relationship is marathon sex. However, once the newness wears off you have to put in more effort to keep things exciting and interesting. This is true for all relationships. Being married with young kids, my wife and I have trouble finding time for good, full foreplay, satisfying each other sex. Because of this, she becomes sore very quickly and often asks “how much longer” or “are you close to finishing”, on top of some of the pained expressions. Again, not exactly a turn on. Caveat: If you’re lucky enough to have the free time to engage in foreplay I’m sure the sex can last longer. However, my point is that soreness is a very real issue and can dampen the mood.
Sorry for the long thread and I hope you were able to read through it all. Obviously what I’ve said won’t apply to EVERY situation, but these are some of the common issues I’ve come across. I wish you all the best of luck in reaching your goals. As always, feel free to comment with thoughts or questions on the subject.