Loss of pressure and Glans size during sex

Hi guys,

I have been experiencing this for a while and didn’t realize that it was bothering my girlfriends in the past till recently.

I noticed that when I’m laying on my back and my girlfriend is on top, my glans is not able to maintain any pressure whatsoever and the blood only remains in my shaft. This leads to a HUGE decrease in feeling for her. I kept wondering why she, and my ex, always wanted me on top and I guess its because the gravity pulled the blood into my glans and made it larger. Does anyone else experience this, and if so, how did you fix it?

My theory is that because I am uncircumcised, when I masturbate, I pull the skin over the glans, thus squeezing the blood out of the head. Over many years of masturbating, I guess the valve that keeps the blood in the glans is weak or open?

I would appreciate any of your thoughts on how to fix this because I really like my girl to be on top but not if she isn’t feeling/enjoying it too.

-Toolegit

Can you pull the skin back from the glans and leave it that way? Flaccid.

I have similar problem and my glans is only about 1/3 of it used to be. My case is quite unusual as I have 3 large strands of internal scar tissue in my glans as a result of using a silicone cup hanging device. I would really feel your glans next time your in the shower to see if you may have scarring also :/.

Hi, yea I am one of those who retracted and left it out for the last few years. Now mine looks more or less circumcised when flaccid. The problem is when I’m erect and masturbate. I am so used to using the foreskin as a medium to masturbate dry(?).I don’t need to use any lotion. I think if you are cut you really need lotion or something to deal with the friction. Not sure if that is clear or not. Basically, when I masturbate the foreskin basically covers and retracts from the glans over and over again.

I am going to try this, wet-jelqing while laying on my back and at times(not during PE) masturbate while on my back using jelq juice or the likes. Hopefully the jelqs will help me maintain EQ while in that position.

Hey Mikey, How exactly do I go about checking for scar tissue in the shower? Can I feel for it?

Also, would scar tissue affect how the glans ability to retain blood when erect?

Another thing to try is a lot of kegels. Since I started to doing kegels basically everyday, I have the ability to “pump” my glans and fully engorge it with blood even when my shaft fully erect. I should probably add that I am circumcised.

How many do you do thebestone? Also, do you do the kegel and hold for 5-seconds or just quick flexes?

I’m having trouble figuring out if my PC muscle is doing most of the flexing or my anus.. I put a finger on the perineum to feel and did a 5 second hold. I could feel a muscle tighten for a second then loosened up almost immediately and the flexing was happening mostly at my ass.

Yes just turn your glans sideways and feel for hard spots like really try all different directions, if there is tissue you will surely notice, it is not viable to the naked eye, as if it was I would have noticed a long time ago.
Also I have problem with my anus contracting also if I am attempting kegels. I am just going to wait until my next appointment with the urologist to see if I have actual leakage.

Cool, thanks man I’ll check it out today.

Are you going to do the dye test with the urologist? Maybe I should go to the urologist too. I bought a cock ring today and I’m going to try it out with my girl. Maybe it will help, I’ll post it here!

I think the gland being a bit smaller in that position is probably normal ? , I know mine is a bit smaller when I’m on my back

I agree just because gravity is working against it, but mine is significantly smaller like 30-40% of its normal size. The shaft is at 100% though which is why it doesn’t make sense to me.

This is pretty normal unless you are having a 95% erection or are just about to ejaculate. The spongiosum has less resistance to outflow than the cavernosa, so gravity will have an effect. It is very unlikely that you need to undergo an invasive “dye” procedure to diagnose a vascular problem because it sounds like you don’t have one.

Essentially, the advice here is all good. Kegels for increased pressure will help, as will a properly fitted cock ring. If you are shy about a ring (which I hope you overcome—I wear one pretty much every time I have sex or masturbate because it feels so great to be at 110% erection during all of sex—they feel great!) you can grasp the base of your cock and squeeze while your girl is on top, which will have the same effect.

Hope this helps. Good luck and have some fun figuring it out!
TD

I’m going to have to try a cock ring durring sex !!

Thanks for the advice man! She was around for the last two weeks so I haven’t been on my PE routine in the meantime. I am not at all opposed to the cock ring, in fact, I wear one-all day. Unfortunately my all-day is way too tight for sex because it is trapping the blood flow when its flaccid. I jerked off with it once and the glans and shaft were so huge I thought it was going to burst. Plus it started to turn a funny color so I didn’t continue. I’ll buy a new one and make it a bit loser for sex.

Great idea and thanks again!