How hard to jelq?

Does anyone have any advice on jelq grip and strength?

I’ve got a pretty thin penis - about 4.5” - and I think it might be a detriment to my jelq grip. It is pretty hard to get a tight grip without getting too tight. The regular OK grip is far too loose for my penis. I have a hard time finding the right balance, and I never know whether I’m doing it right.

Everyone says to ‘move blood around’, but I’m not exactly sure what that means. I don’t really feel like blood is rushing through my penis if that’s the idea. I feel like I’m basically pushing skin with a looser grip, and when I go tighter I feel like I’m giving my penis a deep tissue massage. What is correct?

By the way, I’m circumcised - I just thought I should mention that in case it has any bearing on the technique I should use.

As you jelq with one hand, you should be able to put a finger of your other hand on your glans and feel a change in its firmness as the stroke progresses. You do not need to go so tight that you are giving your penis a deep tissue massage.

Try modifying your grip. Have the web between your thumb and forefinger at the top of the shaft, with the thumb on one side and the forefinger on the other, but do not close them together into a circle. Call it a “C-clamp” grip. You should be able to exert enough pressure on your shaft to be able to move blood and feel that increased firmness in the glans.

Give that a try, and let us know how that works for you.

Using KY instead of regular lotion or soap (ouch) made all the difference for me. Use it if you can and you’ll be able to get a much better “feel” for if you’re doing it correctly.

I think this is a really help comment, and just feeling the pressure in the glans as the jelq stroke progresses is more usful than trying to squeeze your penis too tight.

Hmmm good words of advice Lampwick. I’m honored that a pro like you replied to my post! I’m assuming that it should just get slightly firmer, not necessarily much bigger to the eye, right?

Also, I use water-based lube from ID lamptime. It is good stuff and you can order it in large amounts online for cheap. I don’t want to link anything, but do a google search for cheap lubes. You’ll find a great selection on the cheap - good for PE and the sex life : )

I’m going to have to try this C-grip method. I too have a 4.5” girth and feel like its too easy for me to apply too much pressure. I also use aloe vera as a lube, but it’s been working ok.

well that was unsuccessful,lol,

yes, it’s hard to find out even though I have been PE for months,

In your case I think your erection level is too high, so there’s no more space for the blood flow.

I barely notice anything different when I do a light jelqing,

but after my session I got better woods which feel harder and larger so I am sure now I am doing right thing.

I’d also like to know where to apply the most pressure. Top, bottom or sides?

This is an interesting topic. I really don’t know what’s “proper.” This is what I know:

I’ve been doing dry jelqs, mostly with a tight grip, alternating hands in intervals focusing the pressure on the tunica (?), or hard chambers. The tight grip has given me no girth gains what-so-ever. I’ve gained an inch+ length.. But girth is generally more desirable.

It might also be important to note that I jelq with erections of like 90-100% firmness as opposed to 80%, which I think is generally recommended.

I’d say the majority of the pressure should be evenly spaced along the sides and top with a little along the bottom. I don’t know how easy it is to damage the urethra, but I wouldn’t want to find out.