Girlfriend thinks I'm nuts

Hey Fish,

My girlfriend knows, and has mixed feelings about it. Like most (I think,) she’s worried that it’ll get too big for her to handle. Also, she’s a little uncomfortable with fact that her normally confidant man isn’t big enough to her liking. She certainly has noticed the difference though, especially from the clamping. Of that, she does not complain :D

One thing we share is a respect for each other’s privacy. She won’t walk in on me when I’m doing my thing. I don’t want her seeing 9-10 lbs. hanging from my dick anyway. I want her to see the end result, not what I did to get there. :D

Sounds like your girlfriend is really worried or insecure about cheating. In my experience, some women are generally like this. She’s definitely associating it to a negative thing. Not to pry, but does she have a reason to worry (i.e. you’ve cheated in the past,) or was she cheated on by someone in her past? May just be a sensitivity that you can reassure her on.

This is borderline relationship advice, as opposed to physiology where I know what I’m talking about. So take it with a grain of salt. But while most women don’t care much about dick size, they care A LOT about men who are insecure about their dick size. Most of women’s dick size jokes are jokes about male insecurity—the whole small dick expensive car phenomenon. Many women have been with men who are so insecure about their size that it affects men’s sexual performance. Women like really confident men—a sign of high testosterone.

So it might be best in this situation, unless you are really very very comfortable with the woman, to say the exercises are tantric exercises to improve orgasmic potential, or some such thing like that. And PE does actually help with erection quality from what I’ve been reading here, so it wouldn’t technically be lying. If she notices your dick getting bigger, you can just say, “Oh, that’s a side effect of the tantric exercises I’ve been doing. I hope you don’t mind.”

It’s a female psychology thing. We want to be with a guy who thinks his dick is already big. My two cents, feel free to tell me to go jump in a lake, not really sure of my ground here.

Once one stupid girlfriend told me; you may choose me or the beer. My answer was off course; ok i take the beer, bye. And that was the end of that relationship :)

My wife knows i do what i want so she is not complaining about my PE, she thinks it is funny…

Exactly what I was going to suggest, perhaps more on a Penile health tip because as we all know this stuff does make the willie well. I find the correlation to PC kegels a fairly simple illustration that soothes any doubts.

And for those in a relationship it may well present the perfect opportunity to bring up the Kegelator 6000 ;) without causing her any concerns about being ‘loose’. After all, if she sees that you’re doing exercises for wee wee health, it isn’t a big leap to her doing exercises for her coochie, is it?

The whole confidence thing that zaneblue noted is key- if you tell her you think you have a small one, then she will think so too. Reframe your perception of the circumstance- you are doing this as an improvement on your fine unit, not to compensate for any lack there. She’ll pick up on your vibe and follow your lead.

Tell her a version of the truth:

You are doing PE where PE stands for Prostate Excercises. You will be a healthier male for doing them…what’s not to like?

Thank you everyone for the advice. I’ve gotten some really interesting points here.

In response to some questions:
-No, I have never cheated on her, but her friends flirt with me a lot and that’s starting to get to her.
-I’m not uncomfortable with my penis size, just the shape. It’s one of those that’s huge at the end and skinny at the base.
-We have talked a little more, and I think it’s going to be like anything else in the relationship.. I can do what I want, but I know what she doesn’t want to see me doing.

Fish

Keep on with the talking! Talking is one of the best threatments for problems in a relationship!

I didn’t really have to do any convincing, my wife really was more worried about my mental health in regards to insecurities. She became supportive as I went along, I quit a lot of hobbies and interests and zeroed in on PE. IMO, anyone that performs PE more than casually has issues, life must have balance. Enlarging my cock has manifested my mind greatly.

My wife was most happy when I was a 7. She really would get wild so I thought I needed more. It really is natural to get something good and want more, more and more. The more I gained the more sex was uncomfortable to her and the more I had to learn. Banging at full thrusts became a faint memory, even full thrusts doggie style were irresponsible. The CDS stimulation was hit and miss, it depends on monthly cycle. At the highest point of my career I recorded a hard 9 BPEL and 6.5 base girth.

Some time ago, I began a successful removal of a large wart on my shaft. Some of you may have seen it in some of my pics. I was in denial calling it a skin tag. I have been healing for now 3 or 4 weeks and hope to lose enough gains so both of us can enjoy sex again. I am speculating a “done” 7.75-8.00 BPEL and 6.0 base girth, which I hope will allow full thrusts and the banging to resume.

Fish, sorry for the long reply. Good luck with your girl, I’m sure she will come around. I think the exercise angle would be the most relevant for the same reason a guy wants to get a larger chest or arms the same applies to the penis.

A very honest and sobering post Nine…nice to see you’re around and about here from time to time still..:)

Now that’s something you don’t see everyday around here. :D

Glad you’re still alive and kickin’ Mr. Nine!

Some things she can do to get a little tiny bit bigger:

Northpole is showing…

Let me guess: she gets unreasonable about things other than your PE as well, right? In which case: your PE is not the problem.

My wife thinks I’m sick for doing it. She thinks it’s wierd. I tried to justify it to her but she just doesn’t understand. She will joke about it. “You gonna go tug on it again” etc. I think she has noticed it bigger because I see her glancing at it when I’m nude. She’d like to get a boob job because after two kids, she thinks they are smaller and has a desire to get them bigger. I told her that if they had something as simple as an implant to make it longer and thicker, I’d do it. I know they have something like that but nothing is as guaranteed as a boob job ya know. And a boob job is more routine for plastic surgeons. Oh well…I’m going to continue to do it until I gain another 1.25” in length and .5” in girth. Then it’s on to maintenance.

Just my option but most women will think you are just masturbating and calling it PE. It won’t be till after they see the gains that they start to get interested.

Hey nine, your going to have to change your name again.