I never used to be a premature ejaculator

But now I am.

Me and my girlfriend have been together for a bit over a year now, but over the past couple of months I’ve noticed a trend in our sex that I’m cumming a lot quicker than I used to.

We never used to have an issue with me cumming too quick, but now we do, and I hate it. I feel very embarrassed, vulnerable and lesser.

I have 2 questions:

1. Can you lead me to the most popular threads regarding overcoming premature ejaculation, or regarding how to last longer.

2. Can anybody relate to this? It seems a bit strange to me that I would start cumming quicker than normal when, 4 or so months ago I never used to. Does anybody have any explanation for this, or know of any stories that are similar?

Thanks,
Nick.

There is a wealth of information on this subject here in the Men’s Sexual Health Forum.

In answer to your second question, there are a few possible reasons. If you’re under stress or dealing with other psychological issues, that could effect your performance. Are you on any medications?

Sadly, this is affecting me as well. I am still with the girl that was my first and in the beginning I would last upwards of 20 minites.

Now, I would be lucky to last 5. :( The other day I was getting a BJ and I couldn’t even last 1 minute . It was pretty embarassing on my part.

And you should :P

Nick - I am in your same exact boat. I acquired premature ejaculation out of no where about 5 months ago. Prior to that I could last as long as I wanted. I have yet to find a cure for my problem.

Just search for premature ejaculation (make sure you sure within title, you will find more direct threads) and you will find numerous threads on it. Different things work for different people but I have yet to find the thing that works for me.

I don’t know about you guys, but for me, PE makes me more sensitive. For me, however, its a good thing. I was actually less sensitive than I wanted to be, and it is a good thing for me to be more sensitive.

Its my opinion, that if you are only now after PE finding its become a problem, its probably you aren’t used to the TIMING of your new sensitivity.

You are used to having more time and control, so if probably sneeks up on you and pushes you over the “edge” before you realize it.

I think this is different than a long term premature problem…its not really ingrained yet.

Just go far slower in the beginning, with frequent stops when you start to get anywhere near close to cumming. You will find, if you let yourself get close, then cool off a few times, you will get to a place where it is far more controllable, and you and your gal can have fun.

Just tell your gals they need to let you settle down for a few minutes before you can get serious. It’ll will actually get them more ready to cum themselves.

Give this a try and I think you will see what I mean, and bring it back under control.

I used to be able to go for hours and not cum. Now, if I go too fast, I’ll pop in the first few minutes!

My wife loves this, and it feels great for me too, but really, I will have to stop several times in the first 10 minutes to get every thing to settle down myself.

Don’t worry, it’ll be fine.

Check out the Fleshlight “Stamina Training Unit.” Apparently very good for helping train yourself to have more control.

related page re exercises:

Pre-PE I lasted long whenever I wanted to. Then a few months in, I had premature ejaculation always. Now I’ll have it usually if I’ve gone awhile without sex, sometimes less than a day though. I remember blaming it on kegels because I got my premature ejaculation shortly after I started doing kegels and getting involuntary contractions.

That brings up an old fashioned approach, try an cum a few hours before you are going to be with your gals and see if that helps. Try and find the amount and timing that puts you at the sensitivity level that works best for you.

I believe it may also have something to do with your feelings for the lady in question. What I mean is, the deeper your feelings toward the girl, the better the sex feels. It may not be love exactly, but the more emotionally attached you are to a woman the more intense the sexual feeling as well. That’s my take on it anyway.

In my personal case, PE isn’t to blame.

I haven’t PE’d since August 2007, back when I was longer laster.

I am taking finasteride to combat hair loss. That’s the only thing I can think to blame it on at the moment.

The same thing still applies, take it easy for the first few minutes until your sensitivity decreases, then it should be better.

Prostate infection/inflammation can cause premature ejaculation and/or erection problems. Might want to have your doc check your prostate.

I’m having this issue as well. Honestly, before PE, I could easily last 20-25 minutes with my lady. After starting to Jelq, it feels as if the nerve in my penis at the tip of my head is extremely sensitive. To my disbelief, I think I have permanently ruined my dick due to PE. Although I increased a bit in size, it completely made me a premature ejaculator, something I NEVER was.now I barely last 10 minutes, and it’s seriously depressing. Ironic.something you do in order to increase sexual performance, actually hindered me worse. Something is seriously f*cked up.

I have the same problem also, I was a virgin with my gf n used to be able to go for ages.. Like seriously without a problem, now I have been doing kegals n I am also talking rogaine to combat hair loss. Now days I am going faster and faster without anything to stop it..

The problem is two fold because as soon as you notice that ur cumming faster you get worried and in turn get more stressed and cum faster once again.. It’s horrible