Hey, i’m 28 and have perfectly healthy bowel movements, but right now i’m crapping my pants…
over the last week it has dawned on me that I have fairly severe ED. Between the age of 18 and 25 I didn’t have sex at all, due to depression/withdrawal from socialising. When I was 16 I was fine, horny as a newt, well up for it, no problems. But now I can’t maintain a decent erection on my own, and I don’t think i’ve managed to get a rock hard erection with a girl in 3 years. Admitedly i’ve only seen any decent amount of action with the ladies in the last year, and only just this past 2 months have I had any kind of sustained sexual involvement with a girl. Hows this for a statistic - between the ages of 18 and 28 no girl made me cum… last month i was having sex and blew my load for the first time in female company for over a decade! That was a good one.
Saying this, although i can usually get it hard enough to have sex, I need a lot of physical stimulation, and I find it hard to maintain the erection and pretty impossible to get it fully hard, although this last girl of 2 months, of whom I actually started getting comfy with, was not very strong in the enthusiasm dept. - I think she expects men to be hardon machines or something.. they don’t realise we need lovin’ too! So maybe if she was really attentive and passionate I would be able to acheive a hard erection. Either way i’d lose it after 5 seconds of non stimulation so whats the point?!… (by the way, she finished it with me yesterday on the grounds that she wasn’t feeling the physical attraction chemistry. She denied it, but i’m pretty sure the sex, or lack thereof, had a very large affect on how sexually attracted she was to me, which of course, piles on more worries about ED!) I can sit there and if im horny enough watch some porn or whatever and get 75% hard, then if i take my hand off and look at it, i’ll just lose it… theres none of this ‘pulsing’ up that I used to experience when i was a kiddie.
The weird thing is, I can’t honestly remember when I lost the ability to get hard. I think it’s due to a degree of denial, and getting used to jerking of when not fully erect, so the lines get blurred as to when it actually happened.
So, i’ve been to the Doc’s and have a blood test on Friday. But i’m really worried that i’ve maybe damaged myself from doing PE a few years ago. I only did it for a few weeks, and bits on and off, and I always warmed up well. I saw slight gains too! However, I think I did something stupid in the stretching dept. Well, you know everyone stretches from the glans, I found it more effective to stretch from the base, grabbing and pulling from where it counts, rather than stretch from the glans and allow all of the stretchy tissues to dissipate the forces, i just got my fingers around the base at the top and pulled from there. I never really hurt myself or anything, maybe little niggling pain but nothing serious. But now i realise there are loads of important nerves round there and i’m really worried I might have damaged them by stretching in this manner.
Any insights into this guys?
I am getting more relaxed with girls and getting aroused but i’m still not seeing full hard erections, and i dont get morning wood, only lazy erections. And even if I do get really hard (point of ejaculation), as soon as i let go i’ll lose it in 10 seconds pretty much.
I’m really stressing here because it’s a lottery whether its mental or physical. If it’s in my head then i’ll be so happy because it’s curable, but I have a feeling that it’s a combination of mental and physiological conditions thats causing it, so I might have this forever, only being able to treat it temporarily with pills etc… i’m only 28, and I haven’t even had a decent sex partner yet… arrrgh!
Anyone got any thoughts on this please?