Wrapping my head around what is average, big or small

So, I always thought I had a mediocre dick at BEST. I once had a girlfriend tell me it was big, but she also once told me it was small. No one else has ever spoken of it’s size, and I never really felt that it was big. I always, as far as I can remember, felt it was on the smaller size, maybe a bit below average.

My BPFSL is 18cm (just below 7.1”). Apparently this is supposed to be above average, but I cannot for the life of me imagine that it is.

Can you guys help me think clearly regarding this? My NBPFSL is probably something like 15-16cm (I don’t really measure that) - is that supposed to be big? Yeah I have too much fat - I realize that. So would I be a visually big dicked guy if I lost weight? I’m not terribly overweight, maybe 20 pounds. Help me understand this.

I should say, I know there are many studies on this with different results - I don’t really trust them.

I, like you, assumed I was slightly above average, though was never accused by a woman of being small. I knew standard size condoms were incredibly tight, some not even being capable of being rolled over my head (Japanese brands). It really wasn’t until I dove into this site, and into sites that aggregate pretty much all studies that have ever been done world wide, that I “accepted” that by apparently empirical studies I am on the rather large to huge side of things. Who knew? Now that I have gained to be right around 8” BPEL I take pride in those studies, and also, of course, want a bit more…

“So, I always thought I had a mediocre dick at BEST.”
I think this is a common issue amongst people who start PE, but in time most people seem to come to terms with the reality of average. When I was average I often thought I was small and when I was above average I thought I was average. After many years I learned to accept I was actually on the large side, but it did not change my desire to be larger.

Good luck on your journey.
My obsession is what keeps me going, the question is will I ever stop.
Start (Jan 2003) 17cm - 6.7in  BPEL  by 13.5cm - 5.3in MEG, no  BEG
Oct 2022) 19.5cm - 7.7in  BPEL  by 14.5cm - 5.7in MEG , 15.5cm - 6.1in  BEG

Same, I always thought I was tiny due to media etc, I had a few encounters over the years that said something like “you’re bigger than I thought” etc but I just figured they were being nice. I had no idea there were different size condoms, and thought they were all supposed to fit super tight and I must be doing something wrong, I thought magnums were only if you were 8”+. I had always heard basically if you weren’t at least 8” you should just kill yourself. I’ve spent my whole life avoiding one niter’s etc for fear of being laughed at. Once I recently joined here and started doing more research I found out that I’m actually fairly large, and even the biggest condoms barely fit now. Don’t listen to what the media outlines as average.

Imho if one is a solid 7”, your definitely big… look at 7” on a ruler if you disagree… hell even a solid 6 1/2” is very respectable and above average…

Women are horrible at gauging size, first off. And then you have to come to terms with the fact that women live to bring men down a peg, and the easiest target is dick size. Big truck? Small dick. Small car? Small dick. Shorter than 6’? Small dick. Everything women don’t like, or don’t want to admit they like, equates to having a small dick. And all it amounts to is an attack on your pride and confidence. So that whole “if you don’t have 8”, you have a dicklet” thing women love to throw around doesn’t mean a thing. They wouldn’t know 8” if they saw it anyway. I had a chick estimate my size at 9.5”. Way off. But her ex told her he was 8”, and I was 1.5” longer in her opinion.

My current gf likes anal, but says I’m too big. So I got her a dildo I thought would be just right. The first time I pulled it out, her eyes got big and she said it was huge. It’s a good bit smaller than me.

That favorite “8 inch” dildo they love to brag about is most likely only 6.5” insertable. The one I got my gf was advertised as 7.5 x 5.5. In reality, it measures 7” in length and 5” girth at its thickest, and it doesn’t have balls. The ones with balls usually take off another inch. Look at the details from any sex toy retailer and you’ll find 8-9” toys that are only 6-7” insertable and 5” girth. But they’ll brag about being able to take a “thick” 8, 9, 10 inch dildo to make you feel small.

Stop listening to women. And for God’s sake, if you tell them your size, just stop. Don’t send dick pics, either. In general, stop seeking their approval altogether because as soon as you let her know you’re trying to impress her, she’s gonna start hammering away at your pride.

You said it yourself, no one has ever spoken of its size. So how would you know? Maybe you need to start asking.

Go here and select the Western average data set and plug in your numbers:

https://calcsd.info/condoms

Read most of that site while you’re at it, as its mostly about addressing your question.

Also, there was a chart I can’t find right now on Reddit (linked on calcsd) that correlated dick size with height as a percentile, to show you where you stand, so to speak. 7.1 BPEL is the dick equivalent of being 6ft 3 in height.

I’m the exact same length and got a huge size-related ego boost a few weekends ago in a memorable encounter.

I haven’t practiced PE in years and I haven’t measured my dick in years but I’m assuming it hasn’t changed.
This year I have lost 20 pounds, put on some muscle and lost some fat. So basically I’m leaner with more of a V shape.
Yes, visually my dick looks bigger. Plus getting in better shape has improved my EQ, which makes be feel bigger if not actually be bigger.

My best advice to you is stop worrying about your size. Get in the gym and lift weights.
The positive effect it has had on me physically, mentally and emotionally can’t be overstated.

Cheers!