Will a bigger penis satisfy my wife?

You gotta love a women who uses BENWA Balls to keep it tight for her man!

How many of these threads have you seen in your time here?

Ok I’ve never heard of a Benwa ball - learning all sorts of interesting stuff. Looks like some sort anal thing. If thats the case my wife wouldn’t be into it.

BPEL = 7.5” (I wish I was 7.5” NBPEL!)

Yeah, I hear you guys with the kegels. I guess I could bring it up if I just say, “hey you know just doing the same position all the time is really boring”. We could work from there I guess.

She is definitely not insensitive. When I once suggested that maybe my cock was too small she was like “no I don’t think so”. On one hand, I don’t blame her for not knowing about kegels, but on the other hand I do. To me it kind of suggests that she doesn’t care about sex enough to look into this herself. She is already quite conservative in bed so this one position thing makes it worse.

Yeah point taken about it possibly being her problem. Also she has a small frame and is Japanese so yeah..
I just thought perhaps it is my responsibility to step up to the plate and make things happen by making myself bigger.

Lets say a few.

But I take each one with equal concern of, and respect for, the poster. And they’re not all exactly identical either.
Although I was going to be a smart ass and tell you I’ll be right over. But I see Iamaru got here before me.

It sure is “mental” on your wife’s part. Which then, because she’s a woman, makes it an emotional issue as well.
It’s not about “a big dick fantasy” or having someone else come fuck her either. You guys really need to lay off the porn hub for awhile.

My advice is to back way the hell up on this one and first re-open the lines of communication with your wife. It may not be where the “problem” is, but it’s the only way you’re going to find a solution that benefits you, her, your family life, your kids life’s, your marriage, and most importantly your sex life. It can be a thankless job being a husband and a father for sure, but that’s why were who we are.

Sometimes I have to get myself out of the way for a few and sit the ole lady down and talk to her just like we did way back when we first started going out. You know, before kids. Back when you could talk to her like she was your best friend. I tell; look, I love you, I care about you, but there’s some shit we need to talk about. What’s going on? She knows the voice. She knows the inflection.

I always get the straight deal on what’s going on with her. No subject is too off limits. We can still talk some crazy shit one on one.
When it’s over I know a few things: What’s up and what she thinks the solution is. That she still loves me even if it’s the last thing she remembers to express. That there is entirely to much “noise” in our lives and she internalizes ALL of it.

That’s the key anyways. It’s everything I already knew. I don’t have to fix shit. I don’t have to offer any solutions, but I will reign her in a bit if I think she’s getting to off based or overly criticizing me for something. All I have to do is break the ice and then listen with genuine concern. With in 24 hours I get the best fucking a wet horny milf can give out, and she settles down for awhile. It’s the constant lead up (drama) that’s killing me. Took me a long time to figure out that’s her after kids. Shut up and roll with it. Or you best be planning on going fishing again.

EDIT; I just caught the Japanese thing. It could also be an ingrained cultural thing as well. I have a buddy that was married to a Japanese girl for 30 years. They’re getting divorced now. He also only has sex with Japanese girls. Still trying to figure out how he finds so many willing and able. I don’t know what your sex life was like before kids, but there are some definite cultural issues also. I still think with the proper communication skills you could still break past it though.

Want to know something really sad? Getting to a thread like this before anyone else gets a chance to make a stock, smart-ass, comment makes me feel all warm and fuzzy.

Yea but you have to get up mighty early to beat Twatteaser.

Even then he can still trump anyones comment with his own twisted brand of nihilistic reality based humor.

RootCap: It’s always so refreshing when people swoop in and give very straightforward direct advice based on their own life experiences.

Always keeping an open line of communication makes things so much easier.

Hate to break it to you, you have a very big dick. You are not average, you are not a little above average, you are well above average. You have a big dick.

You could do porn with those dimensions.

Your size is my goal.

see: Penis Size - A realistic view

See also Lifestyle condom size study data:

There is a wonderful kegel article from a women’s health site that I have posted before. I will try to find it today. She does not need to use any equipment.

The other thing is my wife and I went through this sex manual together called ESO: How You and Your Lover Can Give Each Other Hours of Extended Sexual Orgasm

I suggested it would be fun to do this, she thought it sounded fun too. There are relationship exercises (just a few don’t get scared) and then sexual exercises that you do together. You will both probably learn some new tricks from it.

Now one of the reasons I am suggesting this is there are exercises that both of you do by yourself, and there is a BIG SECTION on doing kegels and how they are beneficial for both men and women.

It is well written, if she reads it she will not be "insulted".

The book is quite good, if you go thru it with her, I think you will see a big improvement in your sex life. About 15.00 at amazon.

http://www.amaz … /dp/0446677620/

Well,obviously your size is pretty adequate…so its more her issue than yours.But still,im sure you want to satisfy her in more than one position.Talk to her and tell her you want to work on this,to maintain a hot sex life.Tell her you are PEing to see if that helps.Once she realizes you are going out of your way to improve for her,maybe then bringing up the kegels will go over more smoothly.

I know alot of people may say not to,but maybe buy her a dildo(thicker than you)and try that in other positions…see if it produces the right amount of sensation for her.Then at least u will be sure that “size” is the issue

I used to date a girl that for some reason was fairly loose. She had no kids or anything, and as far as I know hadn’t used any large sex toys or been with large guys. I don’t mean that I was bouncing off the walls or anything, it was just nice and smooth with very little friction. If I wanted to tighten it up, I would stick a couple fingers in with my penis and bang away. I liked feeling my penis slide in and out, and I’ve done it occasionally with every girl I’ve dated since.

Sounds like you’ve got a good relationship with your wife. You should have no problem discussing kegels to your wife. If you are uncomfortable talking to your wife about this and your wife has an ob-gyn, you can call the ob-gyn and ask them to discuss it with your wife during her next visit.

Even before our son was born, I talked to my wife about doing kegels to get herself back into shape down there. It takes a while; especially if your wife’s pussy was destroyed like my wife’s during childbirth. It’s been a long road for us but because we have a good relationship & can talk freely with each other, it hasn’t been too bad.

I would suggest not talking to her about it just before, during or right after sex though. That will hurt her feelings and you may never get pussy again.

Good luck!

A little off topic but what does your name “6.5of9” mean. If you don’t ming my asking.

I think it means he came before 7of9.

Lol

LOL tootyfisty! Exactly!

LOL yeah, I thought a godlike PE goal would be like 9x6.5” and it sounds like the very hot Startrek Voyager character, 7 of 9. Lame, I know but couldn’t think of anything better.

Sta-kool,
I like your approach. It makes it sounds like it’s something you can do together. Thats much better. And truth be known, I don’t have the best EQ anyway so I’ve also got some work to do too. I’m seriously considering this. Cheers man!

Grx,
Yeah, well my wife experienced the same thing during the first birth. There was tearing and stuff. But the problems didnt really arise till after the 2nd.