Hey there,
I thought I’d reply to your thread as I am in a similar case to yours. I’m 22, 165cm (5’5) tall, 70kg (150 pounds roughly), athletically built and uncircumsised. I also attend university. Bone pressed my penis probably averages at 4.5 inches and my girth is probably only around 4.5” as well (last time I measured).
Firstly, I just want to say that I know how you feel about not being able to reciprocate feelings for women due to the insecurity of your penis size. When I was younger I was always afraid of getting into a relationship with a girl or hooking up with girls because I was afraid that things would go too far and that they would mock me for my penis size. Then one day I decided to stop caring and I started having one night stands. My penis size wasn’t an issue at all (at first I was worried about the condom slipping off but I had purchased smaller sized condoms so they worked fine). While the girls did not seem that impressed when they first saw my penis, they did enjoy themselves.
After a few one night stands I went into a massive drought: I went two whole years without sex. This was mostly because I believed I could not give girls what they wanted unless I had a bigger penis. This was a vicious mental cycle that stopped me from getting with girls and eventually I just stopped trying.
Then one day (roughly two years ago now) a girl pursued me. No matter how stand-off-ish or uninterested I seemed, she still pursued me. Eventually I caved and we had sex. She giggled when she first saw my penis as I wasn’t erect and this was a bit of a confidence killer. I couldn’t get hard the entire time because I was constantly thinking about why she giggled when I took my pants off, so for the entire night I fingered her and licked her out. We caught up again a couple of days later and I was able to get hard the second time as I was much more confident (due to the fact that she still wanted to see me again). I have now been in a relationship with this girl for almost two years and our sex life is stellar. She has been with a number of guys (apparently less than 10 though) and though she won’t directly answer the question, I assume I am the smallest she has been with. However, size isn’t everything. One of the reasons we are still together is due to the fact that we have such an amazing sex life. I’ve been the only person to give her multiple orgasms and make her squirt (just the one time), this proves that it’s not the size but how you use it.
I cannot stress enough that size is not as important as technique. Sure a bigger penis might make things easier but most of the time a girl will take a guy with a small dick that can make her orgasm over a guy with a large dick that can’t any day. The benefits of having a smaller penis is that guys with a smaller penis will often try harder to please the girl due to their own insecurities of being able to pleasure the girl. We’ll often fuck for longer and make sure she cums before we do.
The reason I am telling you all of this is that a majority of sex is a mental game. It’s all about having the confidence that you can perform in bed and not worrying about the size of your tool. Sex is such a great part of life and you shouldn’t shy away from it because you are afraid you will be mocked for your penis size. My advice for your first time would probably be to sleep with somebody nice, somebody that wouldn’t go blabbing about your penis size to everyone in the world. Also, try to get an erection before you take off your pants so that the girl you’re with will see the best of you!
In regards to PE, I have only pe’d for a very short amount of time. There was a period where I did the newbie routine for 2 months straight and I saw some newbie gains (4.5 to 4.8 inches bone pressed and girth gains that I could feel with my hands - I didn’t measure at the time sorry). I have since stopped though as I do not have the time or the privacy to continue with pe. There was a definite improvement in erection quality (I was very proud of how my penis looked when I pe’d).
I too was worried about dry jelqs due to my size but it is definitely something you shouldn’t worry about. Jelqing is easy, but maybe I was doing it wrong?
Recently, I have purchased a cheap $2 rubber cock ring and it makes my penis ENGORGE! I have been using it when I masturbate and I find that the day after, my erection quality is still amazing, sometimes hitting 5 inches! It also makes the head of my penis much larger and my shaft is much thicker. My girlfriend actually commented on my penis size the day after I had masturbated with my cock ring. She said it looked bigger which gave me a bit of a rush. If I don’t use it for a while my penis goes back to it’s normal size (between 4 to 4.5 inches bone pressed). Perhaps a rubber cock ring is something you could invest in to gain some confidence with your penis size?
Sorry for the long post but I thought I’d tell you as much as I could about sex and pe.
So in summary:
1: FOCUS ON SEX TIPS AND TRICKS! Just because you have a small penis doesn’t mean you can’t pleasure a girl! You can actually do better than guys with bigger penises! Learn how to give good oral, fingering and focus on your movements during sex!! Learn about different positions that are good for guys with smaller penises.
2: Your penis is just one part of your body, STOP FREAKING OUT ABOUT THE SIZE OF IT. If a girl likes you, she WILL like you for more reasons than your penis. Things will work out! Not every girl wants a big penis.
3: PE works, but it does take a long time (years in some cases). You are better off accepting who you are and making the BEST OF IT - refer to point 1. The temporary gains I got probably were just a result of better erection quality. My penis ranges from 4” to 5” in length (a massive variance) depending on the erection quality. A cock ring might help you see your penis at it’s FULL size, be careful not to use it for too long though as you might cause an injury.
4: KEGELS ARE GOOD FOR YOU, they help you last longer by controlling your orgasm and they improve erection quality.
