Sexual Stamina

I’m almost 21 and I am a runner. Training for my second marathon right now.. But anyhow, I’ve noticed that I have some crazy sexual stamina. Like even when I’m jerking off I can last too long sometimes.

But it’s becoming a problem for me now, my girlfriend and I started having sex last week and we’ve had sex five times. But 3 of those times I haven’t been able to ejaculate. She says it starts to hurt and we have to stop. I think it must have been about 10 minutes by the time she called it quits but still.. She is my first sexual partner and she’s saying that I shouldn’t be lasting anywhere near as long as I do. The 2 times that I did ejaculate I happened pretty normally I guess, only a few minutes into it.

Now last night she was thinking it’s something that she’s not doing right and sorta blaming it on herself.. And it’s not.. It’s a problem with me and I tried to get her to understand that. So guys - is there anything I can do about this? It will get better when she can last longer obviously but sometimes I just want a quickie and it just won’t finish.

I’m sorry, did I read this right? She calls it quits after 10 Minutes?!?!?!

That is not long at all. In fact, some women would say 10 minutes means you’re a Prem. Ejac.

You might be pounding too hard for the time you are screwing. Be gentler with her, and you’ll be able to ejaculate. Hopefully she will too. This is absolutely normal.

I am no help, I have set out to make your “problem” my goal. Since I have been “saving my seed” and having sex without ejaculating, everything is great, I suppose it is just how both of you shed light on it that creates the “problem”. I do recall that when I started this, the wife started to get frustrated and think it was her fault but when I explained that it was my goal and how I was just receiving great satisfaction from just pleasing her, our sex life has gotten even better.

I just thought I would throw in another angle, instead of making it a problem, use it to your advantage.

I haven’t met a girl that could get me off with a blowjob in under 20 minutes without my help.

Maybe your mind isn’t into it. If not, practice on “thinking sexy thoughts” and this will speed things along.

Well first off, with the hurting problem, try some KY jel, and keep her lubed. As for the time, well I can only speak for myself, the shortest time for me is 30 minutes, but I’m usually around a hour. Hmm, could it be that we both have problems, hahaha, no.

The best thing I can say, there are a lot of woman out there, that want a guy who can stay hard in the sack. As for your girlfriend; I have a funny feeling that she feels that it’s a choir, that it is something that she has to do, if not then why would she only do it for 10 minutes.

As for the quickie, have her blow you.

I’m the same way.it’s been that way with every girl I’ve been with. The way I deal with it is I always make sure she is satisfied then when it gets to the point where she can’t take anymore, then I just have her finish me off. Head, hands, feet, whatever. (Just kidding about the feet) As long as she gets off she’s happy. But in my case I’m talking at least an hour or more. 10 minutes is barely a warm-up. And if you really want to bust a nut fast, convince her to let you stick it in her ass.

I think you mean “chore” not “choir”.

Good advice though.

I didn’t catch that. I thought he meant that he was making her hit those high notes.

“Hit those High ‘Cs’!”

I think 30mins-1hr is pretty normal….If she is getting sore after 10minutes then she either needs more lubrication or you are too rough with her. Go slowly, slower rythm, enjoy the moment, work in different parts of her body….Her body is a wonderland….

I want to reiterate what Mr. Nine has said. First of all, count yourself very lucky. Even if this present gal doesn’t like the fact that you last long, most women will! Second, as others have said, you might need to slow down, change the mood, etc. I’ve known women who could go for hours, if everything is done right. But most of all, perhaps you should reconsider whether you need to get off every time you have sex.

It sounds like your girlfriend is feeling pressured to make you cum, and you are feeling pressure to oblige her. She’s stressed, so she won’t be into it as much, which is part of why she doesn’t want to go or can’t go for more than 10 minutes. You’re stressed, which is going to make it harder for you to ejaculate. This is exactly like the pressure a lot of women feel to have an orgasm, or multiple orgasms, every time they have sex. I think this is silly. Sex is extremely enjoyable even if yo don’t cum. And there are additional benefits from not shooting every time. But this is your choice, and I realize most men think the main goal of having sex is to get off.

Your normal but you need to find why it hurts her and if you can’t find a solution than as cold as it sounds you should move on because sex is a big part of a relationship and you should be compatible.

I would forget about intercourse for the next couple of sessions and just go the foreplay route unless she is begging for it. Your going to have to change up your technique for this gal, she has some sexual limitations that you will have to figure out. Lack of lube, short vagina, frigidity, penis envy, it’s an entire library when your dealing with the female gland. Does she dig your penis or do you have to serve it to her on a plate?

I think she may have the/a problem, mate. Certainly not you :) .

Try it doggy style. That always seems to speed up the juices for me.

Or you could always fake it! :)

When I read “crazy sexual stamina” I was expecting something like 5 hours, not ten minutes.

Your experience in breath control from running may well be part of the “problem”; many guys that have only one partner would swallow live chipmunks to have that “problem”! Actually, plenty of guys twice your age that have had lots of partners would like to go ten minutes so count your blessings. Actually, for only one partner and limited experience you are doing pretty d*mn good. You just need to develop some skills in lighting her up like a Christmas tree; learn to be a big time tease!

Breath control is the gateway to lots of fun sex stuff.