Self Esteem

MMMM well I’ve read through all the replies and I all so took note to the stats that have been posted and let me tell ya all I’m just out to get to “normal” size I’d love to have 6” and 3 plus around I’ll get there but I know it will take some time to do it but so be it eh?. My self esteem has only been badly effected twice in my life by being small, once in a locker room as a grade school-er and another when a girl I was seeing told me just one more inch would have been great. I know now that was a really rotten thing to say but If I can bounce back from that kind of pain then I know I’m stronger than I thought and I will prevail.

jimk the human spirit is resilient if treated with care.

In this regard, our first responsibility is to ourselves. We must take care of ourselves; mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually. After that, how we treat the world will have a direct correlation to how the world treats us.

I appreciate your post and your good faith.

Bouncing back from rejection is one of the hardest things we do in life, particularly when we are invested. Facing rejection and still going on and finding ways to stay positive is a difficult skill.

I admire you for it.

And as far as PE. Slow and steady wins the race. We’re all rooting for you here at Thunder's.

I think I would say I had self esteem problems as a kid. I was shy, red headed, curly haired kid. I remember believing I was not as good as other people, and I really sucked in any kind of social situation.

Something changed in me, and I think a lot of it had to do with weight lifting in high school. It was the first thing I could really do well, better than most other people. As a result, people accepted me, even respected me, which gave me a group of friends. From there, I had a few girls notice me. By the time I was in college, I had been socialized enough to realize that I no longer cared at all what other people thought.

It is quite a blessing to be free of worrying about other people’s scrutiny.

I love myself. I judge my intelligence, my health, my success according to my own standards, not how I compare to other people. People who compare themselves to others usually have low self esteem and need a way to boost their egos. Your self worth has to be defined from within yourself.

I have had a couple of other incidents in my life that have reinforced this attitude in me. I was burned in a fire and had to learn to expose my body and burn scars in the summer in front of others. If you dwell on how people view your scars, you can go mad, but I really go anywhere without ever thinking about it (wearing shorts with scars on my legs.)

The burns happened a few years before my beautiful daughter was born without a hand. I thought I would have to teach her about self esteem but she has taught me more than anyone else ever could. She is a leader in her school, straight A student, sings and performs in plays. Among the other girls in school, she is the leader they follow. When she was born, I worried about her socialization, and thought of the sad times I would have raising her, dealing with her pain from the mean harsh world. To my joy, she is thriving, brilliant, almost too confident of a girl. She is such an inspiration she has been in the newspaper several times and a couple of national publications. How can she have such high self esteem? I don’t know, but what a blessing it is.

We have had versions of this thread before but it has been quite a while. This is a topic that is always worth revisiting so no apologies necessary.

I’m a close to straight A student at a great university, I’m good looking (if I say so myself ;) ), my dick is above average, I have a lot of friends, but I still have problems with self-esteem every once in awhile. Like others have said, try to focus your negative energy into something positive. If I get pissed off that a girl blew me off, I put extra effort into my weightlifting or studying. My “trick” when I’m really down is to remember the times in the past when I was having a really good time and realize that I’m going to feel like that at least *one* more time in my life, so chill out and realize all the advantages I have in life.

Sometimes lying in bed and feeling sorry for yourself seems like the only thing that you can do, but if you can force yourself to go hang out with friends/workout/PE, you’ll feel as if you’ve accomplished something and you might find that your whole attitude might change. Good luck bro

Tony Robbings help me out of my last depression, maybe not entirely all by himself but his Get the edge-program helped me alot, I recommend it.

Thanks for your posts everyone.

jimk37727 - Good luck with your gaining. Keep us updated and remember to ask the Vets if you ever need help.

Mr. Happy - Good words.

mravg - Good story. What you said about your burns and your daughter is very inspiring and everyone can learn so much from that.

iamaru - Thank yee.

Butterbean569 - Yet more good advice, thanks.

AHW! Do you have a purpose in life? Once you find the purpose of life, Nothing, I mean literally Nothing can beat you. Look deep inside. You’ll find it if you dont already have one. Btw, Im not talking about what you like to do or what you want to do 10 years down the line. Im talking about true purpose. I can’t explain it in words.All i can say is that it’s an inner call.

Do you truely know your purpose in life?

Not entirely, but I have a purpose in main lines. It doesn’t matter for me personally. I am sincerely happy with my life and truly enjoying every minute of it. Hope for you that you can say the same thing soon.