My story, any advice helps

You guys are prooooooobaly going to laugh when you first read this which is fine, since iv also learned to laugh at it lol.

When I was 17 years old,(21 now), I was at home alone a lot and being a young teenager very horny, I masturbated for about 3-4 hours a day, for a whole week and as you know that can’t be good for the penis as it makes it weak and can hurt it, but I had no girlfriend and again I was really horny, so I kept going and going and going until the last day my penis just well “broke”, I don’t know how to describe it cause it was so long ago, but I had a really weird feeling that didn’t feel good and my erection went away and so I panicked, I tried getting it up again, but it didn’t work and so I became very depressed and it only worsened when I tried grinding with a girl at a dance and I couldn’t get it up, I felt horribly and believed that my life was over and my confidence took a huge nose dive, even worse I wasn’t the most confident guy already, and so for the next several months I couldn’t get an erection and for the next year or 2 I spent countless hours trying to find answers to fix my problem, but I dint really find anything useful and only made my situation worse by finding things that could be the problem, which it wasn’t, and just scared the living hell out of my self, after the next year or 2 of not really having any erections it came back, but unfortunately my confidence was still scared and I have only been able to grind with 1 girl in January when I went to ACTF and I met a really nice girl,( she was in a slutty school girl outfit, but she seemed really nice, since she was an actor and we danced for 2 yours), I was able to keep my erection up, so I know that I can still get erections like I use to, but I think I either get really nervous and get “performance anxiety” or something else, but I think I get horny still?, I don’t know when the last time I got morning wood was, but I am doing PE and I can get erections perfectly fine with the help of some thoughts and porn, I have gained some girt, no length unfortunately, I think I am in good shape just need to fix my ticker I believe.

I’m trying this thing called EFT, to see if it will work, because I really wanna be able to go to a dance and show a girl a good time and in turn give me a good time, I just wanna be able to be that fun, cool, and confident guy you know. I am going to try this EFT thing for a while to see if it helps and if anyone has any other advice please comment, and also I know theres an EFT post on here and if someone could send a link to me of, because I can’t find it, but thank you to anyone that can help or wishes me luck on getting my confidence back.

I’ve never heard anyone to get a broken penis from masturbation, not to mention a broken one for two years. I used to have edging sessions of 5-6 hours daily and it never did anything to my pecker except helping me to delay ejaculation. May I suggest that your original problem was either psychological in which case there is nothing wrong with your ding or because of something else rather than masturbation in which case may I suggest going to an urologist. Also what is EFT?

Well it didn’t literally break, its a figure of speech, as in I just didn’t work, and It wasn’t broken for a whole year I just had very weak erections and my penis felt overheated and it was very floppy. I did consider going to a urologist, but you know its embarrassing, I did ask my doctor he examined my unit and although he didn’t really do much he couldn’t find anything wrong with it. So I am hoping it is psychological, in which case I can do EFT and possibly some self hypnosis.

EFT: Emotional Freedom Technique, there are several points on the body and your supposed to tap on them while saying out loud what your problems with anxiety or whatever is and you give yourself positive reinforcement about it
Example: I would be tapping on my knife of my hand telling myself that I accept myself and I can get over this problem I have then move to another point start tapping there and say some more stuff.

First go to an urologist, there is nothing embarrassing about it, he sees hundreds of people like you everyday. Once you are sure there is nothing wrong physiologically with you try this EFT thing but if that doesn’t work ( I don’t really think it will) go to a licensed therapist. Also may I add that if grinding is not slang for fucking and it really is just “grinding” then there might be nothing wrong with you, not everyone gets an erection while dancing. Does it get up when you watch porn?

Ok, ill try urologist, well the thing is the previous year when I went to prom I grinded with my date no problem, but then this happened and I couldn’t, I do get erections from porn, but I think I need to to detox on that a bit lol

So you have erections just not while dancing? Dude chill, there is nothing wrong with you pecker, maybe it just doesn’t like loud music

Lol ya I think iv come to realize that after my ACTF trip, I’m thinking maybe iv developed a type of performance anxiety, since it was really embarrasing not getting it up when it “broke” I’m just thinking “gotta get it up” and that puts pressure on my, but at ACTF we were all drinking so we were all kinda relaxed and having a good time and me and that girl had actually talked for a bit before the dance so I felt comfortable with her you know, no pressure or fear, and I was able to get it up just fine and we had an amazing night, that was the best night I had since my episode.

So all in all, I believe I just need to get my confidence back and not put so much pressure on my self and I have to learn to go with the flow and have a good time, which is why I wanted to try this EFT thing so that it kinda helps me to keep calm and not worry about it, because I don’t wanna have to drink before each dance just to calm myself down.

thatguy241, you’re just going to have to realize that you’re not that guy with all the problems you think you’re going to have because that stuff all plays out in your mind before it even happens. Like a loop you’ve got yourself stuck in the situation by concentrating and focusing on the problem and becoming obsessed with it instead of fantasizing and seeing the opportunities and amazing experiences and situations that you are going to find yourself in and respond to in the moment. In a positive way.

The openness in your thinking is what is going to create the opportunities for you. You just have to take one step at a time and not carry failure around with you like it’s your job description. If you put yourself through ‘tests’ to see where you’re at now, you have one eye on yourself and not living or experiencing the moment as it’s happening right now.

Life is unpredictable and you don’t know what’s going to happen and because of that it’s exciting and it might even turn you on a bit because some great sexual experiences are going to come out of it that are going to be amazing.

See, why not believe that, just as much as you want to believe ideas about failure that never happened. Stuck on one moment of failure cannot measure against the a great amount of success that is already happening to you now.

If you want to hypnotize yourself, you better tell yourself good stuff while you’re doing it. Then you can be excited about what you’re telling yourself. Don’t look for reasons to fact check. Fact checking is only you trying to confirm the crap you already told yourself before.

If it was a physical problem you most probably would’ve found that out already. I think it’s psychological and I think you’re the one who was after the fact doing it to yourself. Also, see what other changes you can make in your life to feel like you’re in charge and taking responsibility. It might help change your perspective about you.