Is it really uncomfortable for her

Hey!

I am continuing to work with my wife on our sex life.
As she has become more comfortable talking about sex, she has brought up a few things that I would like a second opinion on

I am not sure how to poll female members but I have a question for them.

Is it possible for the girth of a thingy to cause discomfort?

If it is uncomfortable, is it a bad type of pain ?

Do you think this discomfort could turn into a turn-on?

What do you think of an inverted vagina? Is there such a thing that makes sex unappealing?

Not sure if this will post but I would like to hear your thought

My ex had sex with a guy with huge girth; she said it felt like menstrual cramps afterwords.

Is it possible for too much girth to cause discomfort? Yes.

Depends on the “thingy” but yes, anything over 6 to 6.5 inches causes PAIN and that is a bad thing if you ever want sex again. I once attempted sex with a guy who was 7 inches in girth (long long time ago), he tore me and that was not fun thank you very much. We did not stay together very long, I didn’t want sex to be painful, kinda takes the fun and enjoyment out of it.

What kind of pain, well, take your nuts place on table smack with hammer. I think you will get the idea.

Pain a turn on??? I suppose for some yes, most hell no. If it hurts we tend to avoid it. I’m allergic to pain.

To the best of my knowledge, there is no such thing as an inverted vagina, they only go one direction and that is in. You can however have a tipped uterus which can cause discomfort (uncomfortable sensation) during sex.

I would like to if I was a judge, prosecute the porn industry for filling our heads with girth bull shit. Anything over 6” girth would be painful for a lot of women. Studlyness is not the size of your dick it is a state of mind. What is the point of having a dick if you can’t use it to love someone.

I would recommend better communication with your wife, we males tend to neglect this side of the relationship. Longer foreplay, I’m thinking a good lube would come in handy as well.

Garghhh, you made your point!!!

I am 5.75 Eg right now, a good 6.1 at the root. If I do 2 sets in the tube at 3-4 Hg for 20 minutes I can get to 6.5 mid shaft and ALMOST 7 at the root. The difference in my wife during sex is very noticeable. She does a fairly good job of taking me normal (5.75) but if I go too deep, She winces or does something else to let me know to be easy. When I am pumped I have to VERY carefull. Also, at the present (5.75) oral becomes very “teethy” after about 5 minutes or so. Think about what you are asking her to do Gentlemen………and be nice about it.

Sunshine —your answer has brought more than sunshine onto my relationship—-thanks .

King -We are trying Vaseline as a lubricant but it’s messy. Any other suggestions?

Stroker - I can tell you are not married. Have you ever heard the old joke on why brides are always smiling on their wedding day? Because they know they have given their last BJ! True story for me!
But on the other hand.I thought I needed a new pair of shoes until I came across someone that had no shoes on at all.

Best:

There are lots of lubes out there. Vaseline may not be the best choice. Have you ever tried K-Y Jelly (or the generic equivalent frequently available under a variety of names), or Astroglide?

I dont know. I am at 6 in girth mid shaft, and 6.26 at the base. I have been with a few women and I have never had a problem. So I tend to think that it would take a bit more than what I have to cause any problems with most women.

I think we too often downplay the individual differences in women. But if you’re woman says it’s uncomfortable, then it is, really no reason to lie about that. But there are men on here that are near 7” girth and have regular, comfortable sex, other men may be 5.25” and cause discomfort. It’s just about finding a good match between the guy and the girl’s organs.

Personally, I hate KY. It feels sticky. You can get a lube that feels like real pussy juice- or close to it- from Adam&Eve. It’s great for anal after the anal easy has had time to numb her ass a bit.

It also depends on how worked up she is. I always like to make sure the GF has a lot of orgasms during foreplay. It makes sure she is soaking wet and relaxed. Plus , if you get her cumming before sex, it’s far easier to keep her cumming during sex, than if you just get her wet and stick it in.

I am 6” in girth, have been with a good amount of women and never really had a problem till my current gf who does tear occasionally if we have sex and she is not very wet beforehand. My best advice would be to make sure she is very turned on an “open” before starting.

It’s amazing how far we’ve come to think that there’s a one-size-fits-all theory for sex. I know we’re all here to get ‘bigger,’ with the underlying theory that sex will ultimately be better, we tend to forget and/or leave out the other part of the equation, and that’s our significant other.

As sunshine has stated, there is a point where a certain size will cause pain. That point is different for every woman, and even with the same woman, different at certain times. We must temper our goals with the reality that our increase may do more harm than good. Our increases may give us bragging rights, but if that’s at the expense of pain for your SO, what’s the point?

bestdayever2006-

Glad to hear things have picked up.

One thing that stood out from your previous thread is that you need to get a really good lube. We like KY - we don’t need it all the time, but towards the end of the “month” things get a little dryer. I have to confess, I was not keen to start using it, because I felt it was my fault she was not wet, but when other guys my age started making comments about needing lube, I realised I had to get with the programme!

Has she dropped that business of comparing your sex life to her sister’s?