I need help.

Hi, I’m ollabac (horse spelled backwards in Spanish), and this will be my second time returning to this site for some serious workouts.

Last time I did PE, was around February ~ April 2010, and couldn’t really tell if things were working out for me, I’m also a Christian and was having SIGNIFICANT difficulty attempting to PE without being visually stimulated. I ended up quiting and spent the rest of the year pursuing other interest. I remembered this site a couple of days ago and thought about picking this up again since I’ve now got a steady girlfriend and would like for us to have an awesome sex life in the future.

Besides my inconsistency, the only issue I had with a strict PE regiment was the stimulation.Besides my Spiritual beliefs, I always found it problematic to watch pornography, I would feel as if I’m watching other people have all the fun and never really got the allure of the stuff.and not to mention that I live with other people, so my only option is stealth PE during my bath at night! I have tried thinking about women while doing PE, but it just comes down as an immoral act to me..

My question is: Are there any men among us that maybe face the same situation? Any married men that feel it is disrespectful to their wives and children if they watch nude women and masturbate to someone who you do not love? If so, how do you PE without the visual aspect? I just got out of a botched PE session because I could not keep it up during my training.I started out with a good jelq session that rapidly faded since my mind just can’t seem to bring up perverse images.I usually see my girlfriend smiling at me, I get Spiritual thoughts or good times with friends and family.you know, happy thoughts, but when it comes to thinking about naked women, or sex (I’ve been celibate for going 2 years now) they just fade away, along with my boner!

(Sorry for the double post, the site has been giving me a bunch of error messages, so I decided to cut my post into two parts)

My stats: Measured on JAN/11/2011

NBPEL: 6.25”
BPEL: 7”
MSEG: 5.2”

Goals:

NPEL: 7”
BPEL: Whatever I can get
MSEG: 6”+

My routine: (I do all of this in the shower)

5- Minute Warm up (I let warm-hot water hit my junk until it gets soft and manipulable)
5- Stretch in all directions holding for 10 seconds each stretch
15- Jelq (this is where I run into problems, I cannot keep enough blood flow in my penis to last throughout the 15mins, when I used to have sex and masturbate this would not be an issue, but I explained my sort of mental block on this now.)
5- Cool down with kegels

So, yeah, any thoughts? I would also like to add that I respect other peoples views and opinions on faith and life. These are my personal beliefs, so I would appreciate it if they were treated the same way. We are all free to choose what we follow in life.

My main question is this, is there a way to PE without having to use a visual aid? I do not want to buy magazines or watch porn online to successfully reach my goals. What can I do? I thank you for anything that you have to say! God bless.

Many people have difficulty in doing 15 minutes of jelqing. You could try and jelq even with subsiding erection as this will not be harmful and may help length gains.

Really I took some months before I learnt truly how to jelq. And even then only for 5 or so minutes. And I had to build up slowly the time. Concentrate on the high quality of jelqing rather than worry about the time this exercise can be maintained. Your penis will tell you when there has been sufficient jelqing by losing erection level. Why do more than your penis can take?

Remember this is a long term activity so you can go slow and steady and gain safely without harm to your penis.

Good luck! :)

What if you told your wife about PE and had her help you maintain an erection while jelqing?

I guess I’ll have to try things the “tried-and-true” way first, eh? My desires would be to first gain some girth and then switch on to gains later on in my PE career.. I just find it difficult to jelq with such a low erection, I’m talking 10-12% here, my friend. It almost feels as if I’m reverting to my stretch exercises, but once I realize this, my penis goes flaccid again and it’s an uphill battle to try to stimulate it back to a good gorged state to be able to jelq with minimal efficiency.

There wouldn’t be any creams or pills I could take to get a good session in? I just cannot sit down and watch pornography anymore, man.That stuff almost ruined my life a few years ago.

That would be awesome, but I am not married, unfortunately. My girlfriend and I are about to reach 1 year together, and we’ve talked about how our sex life will be, but for the most part.I haven’t even seen her naked! She, too, is a Christian, but neither of us are virgins, so we spend our time together trying to keep the desires at bay by going out to parties, the movies, anywhere really, it’s worked REALLY well! All I have is my imagination right now, and it’s not really helping. I’ve tried thinking about the times I did have sex, all which were enjoyable for the both me and the girl I was with. But, like I said, it all just fades into other thoughts and I end up going limp.

What about erotic literature?

I’m glad for your input, redworm, I’ll definitely take this under advisement! Not to sound ungrateful, or anything, but it would be hard to try to jelq and read at the same time, while being either wet from my shower, or greasy from the petroleum jelly I use. I guess I can try to psych myself into getting hard? Maybe some form of hypnosis? May I ask you how you stay gorged during a session, redworm? Thanks for responding to me.

How about having a sexy picture or two of your girlfriend in front of you for stimulation? They don’t need to be nude, but something that will turn you on…

That is also a good idea, Ram42. Could I ask you how you keep it up throughout your sessions? I just want to get a better understanding of how other men deal with a fading blood level.

I understand yor situation I am married and feel uncomfortable with porn now. I have used non nude and nude photos of my wife for jelg with sucsess. I also just started and found it quite difficult to jelg without her pics. The prob with erotic literature is as a christian your suposed to not think of anyone but your wife for arousal by looking at your gf you would be ok

Ha, good point. That’s a funny thing to picture. Good luck turning the pages!

I try to do it with imagination and if that doesn’t work I use erotic pictures (not porn, met-art, femjoy, or hegre for example) and if that doesn’t work I use the hard stuff.

Met-art, femjoy, and hegre don’t really count as porn to me because they are focused on the beauty of women and don’t degrade them in any way.

I’ve had a similar problem with keeping my penis adequately engorged during the jelq, except I don’t have a big issue with watching porn. When I don’t watch porn (like when I’m pe’ing in the shower), I’m able to maintain some level of arousal by using lube and rubbing the underside of my penis, right underneath the glans.

The other thing that’s helpful is using supplements like l-arginine for increased blood flow that seems to help.

Or ginkgo biloba.

Also try rubbing your glans with the hand you aren’t jelqing with.

Very good, guys, thank you. I will try these things and work with what I have. Is it possible to maybe clamp at this early stage in my PE career? I do a 1 day on 1 day off schedule, and have been feeling pretty conditioned for an increase in the types of exercises that I do. My main interest is getting a big increase in girth since research has shown that women prefer it over length, and my girl has only been with 4 other guys, so I would like to surprise her.