I Need Help, Problems GettingKeeping an Erection
Hello guys, I am 26 years old, I dated my ex girlfriend for 2 years and we broke 7 months ago, since that time I have not had sex until today, I tried to get laid with a girl and I couldn’t get my penis to get hard enough to penetrate her vagina.
I will tell a little bit more about me, my ex was my the first and only woman I’ve had sex with, and even with her I had problems keeping my penis hard. On the beginning of the relationship I was very hard to get an erection I was always nervous and so on, then she didn’t wanted me to use condom and I was always afraid of that, not all the time we had sex I could get to ejaculate or get an orgasm, I could get my penis hard for 15/20 mins then I would get tired or the erection would just go away, if I remember correctly I could only ejaculate inside her like 6 times, all the other times she had to give me oral sex and even while she was on that I would lose the erection, One thing that helped me to keep the erection was to give her oral sex at the same time that would turn me on more than coitus.
You may think its a physical problem. I don’t think so because I used to and still do masturbate watching porn videos, Its the only way I can easily get a full erection, I think my body and brain needs porn videos to get me exited, if I try to masturbate on the shower or without anything its hard for me to get an erection or even get an orgasm and ejaculate.. While I am watching a porn video I can easily keep erections for more than 30 minutes or even rush it to ejaculate in 2 or 3 minutes.
My problem is that a real girl won’t turn me on as much as a porn video does. Because I started masturbating like this since I was like 16 years old and I had sex for the first time when I was 24.
When I was dating my girlfriend I stopped masturbating and would do it some times on weekends, but I had problems 3 of every 5 times we had sex. I would always be nervous because of something, on the beginning I blame it that I was afraid of not being good enough for my my girl who had some boyfriends before me and I was always insecure or something, then I started to get a little of confidence, I even used Cialis that although I did not needed it helped me a lot to get confident, I just used that on the beginning, then I was nervous about her not wanting me to use condom, she got pregnant twice but we managed to get a legal abortion. I always wanted to feel ok having sex without any fears or getting her pregnant again.
When we broke I started masturbating again with my porn videos and never had any problem to get my penis hard to masturbate.
Last night I masturbated for a long time, and today at 4 pm I went with this girl, when we kissed and so on I felt that my penis wanted to get hard but didn’t got it. We went to the hotel and I was already afraid of not being able to get an erection and it happened, I like to give oral sex as it turns me on a lot but she did not wanted me to do it so I just played with her pussy and managed to get a soft erection, I put on my condom and started coitus but not lasted more than 5 minutes when my penis went totally soft, if I already was nervous I got really sad and mad at myself.
I know watching porn and masturbating is causing this. I need help to focus my toughs, I don’t know how to masturbate without watching porn, I don’t know if I need to quit masturbating but I don’t how to focus myself, my brain or whatever it is, to get me turned on with a girl. I know of men who can get erections with girls that are ugly and fat and last long. I don’t get turned on my fat and ugly girls..
Actually, my ex, was very hot. Pretty face, big tits.. I loved her body but when we were on the bed it would not help me.. With this girl I wanted to get some action today, she is very hot, slim body, nice ass and breast, I really like her, but when we got naked my penis just did not noticed her..
I hope there is someone that can give me some help, I feel really bad, ashamed and depressed. I don’t know how to see this girl to the face again and even try to do it again. I though of buying Cialis but I knew I did not needed it but maybe if I had bought it and knew that it helped it may have given me a placebo effect thing like it always did.
While I was with my ex I used to be 350 pounds, didn’t worked out and taked care of me..
Now after we broke I started working out, I exercise for 1:30 hours 5 days a week, eat 2000 calories or less a day and drink only water no more coke or any other drink. Now I weigh 265 pounds. So although I’m over weigh I am in way better shape than before.
I don’t drink, smoke or use any drugs or take any medication.