I have some questions before I start anything related to PE, if you could be so kind.
Thank you for taking the time to check on this thread. I am new to this forum, and I had some questions before I start any type of routine. To start, I am not quite sure if I need PE, but the amount I have obsessed over penis size in my 33 years of life would probably indicate that I will do it regardless if I “need” it, which is rather subjective in itself. The first thing I did was read the warning to newbies, and since I am a very neurotic person, I do have some slight trepidation in regards to PE. But before anything else, I need to explain my situation and what exactly I am trying to achieve; I will make it short.
For most of my life I have had clinical depression and an anxiety disorder. I am dealing with it, but it is still very difficult to get through. Anxiety made it so that my failures had a great effect on me, and I have never gotten past asking two girls out and being rejected. My depression also tied into that, leaving me with no motivation and not caring for myself, as well as being very overweight. The one “relationship” I had was with a Norwegian woman who I met in a game. Emotional relationship formed, talked about many things, but could never work out due to money, distance, and the one time she was actually vacationing where I was living I was without internet. I still talk to her today, but I obsessed over her and worried about a lot of things pertaining her life (Which should have been none of my business, but I was young, insecure, and inexperienced as opposed to older, insecure, and inexperienced with a bit more knowledge and restraint).
I am dealing with those and getting better at it, but maybe I should have not inquired when she was supposed to be online for an event on a game (Told me she was sleeping with a guy, very honest person apparently), or about what she thinks about large penis sizes, (In her words “It’s not a bad thing”, followed by me asking the smallest she’s been with (6 inches) and what is too much (9 inches). I think the reason it bothers me so much is because I never had any relationships besides that if you can call it that, and it feels like I lost my chance, even though logically this may not be the case. Just to say this before the questions, yes, I want to increase my size and girth mainly due to insecurities (But most importantly function), I can admit that. But I also want to do it for myself, as I am 6’3, large structured, and have a lot of muscle even before I worked out, I fear that even if I become slim (Which would be 250-280lbs for my build/height) that looking in the mirror would haunt me every time, regardless of what a woman would think.
So, on to the questions since the back-story is taken care of:
1) Part of my confidence issues is my erection quality. Before even starting PE, I want to look into exercises to help with that. This is probably due to me being considerably overweight, but working on it while I am determined to lose the weight as I am cannot hurt I presume. I literally cannot get a full erection, and it is lost very quickly. Would that be a bad idea? Would doing a beginner PE routine also be a bad idea? Or would it be best to do nothing and wait till I get the weight off?
2) .I have a large fat pad, a little over two inches. Once I lose all my weight (Which I am down 30lbs or so), does it usually go down from anyone’s experience that was overweight then lost a lot of it? I read a lot of people saying it was an issue during sex, but I am more inclined to believe the suggestion that most of the BPEL would be used in certain positions. But with my fat pad, it would be an issue, aside from the EQ.
3) Synonymous with the erection quality issues, I do not know what my true size is and it scares the hell out of me, even though I know it should not. Referencing the conversation I had with aforementioned woman, she personally has never been with anyone smaller than 6 inches (which is within average range) and said 9 inches was too much. This means of course she has had larger, but it also means that anywhere from 6-9 inches she considers large. But considering she said 9 is too large, it may not be her preferred size as most people have a range, so I am going to assume 7-8.5 is her preferred (Not going to ask her again, she made it very clear not to ask personal questions unless we actually meet and things work). That being said, I would like to be at least 7.5 x 5 .5, but the best I can do when measuring is a expedited attempt to get erect and then trying to measure. My flaccid bone pressed length is 5.4 inches, while the girth is around 5.12 inches besides the head, which is slightly smaller. Erect the best I could manage was 6.2 EBPL and 5.2 EG with no assistance.
I used a cock ring to measure my girth recently out of curiosity (Was still not fully erect, rock solid) and my girth was 5.62, which is not bad if that measurement means potential when EG is ever good (Please let me know). The other odd thing is that while I can theoretically cover my EBPL I listed with my hands, when I get as erect as I can and attempt to grab my penis to see if I can “Two-hand” it, time and time again I can fit it in two hands with about and inch left out. Why this is odd? Because even when I am not fully erect, that comes out to about me “grabbing” 6.9 inches with an inch left over pushing me to 7.9 and I cannot figure out why exactly this happens other than me squeezing it and it extending.
So the questions for this one is, should I bother measuring with my EQ all messed up? Do the two instances I mentioned have any value to them (Cock ring “EG” and Two-hand length)?
I cannot think of anything else at the moment. I am working very hard to get my weight off, get in shape again, actually work on approaching women and not dying a virgin. The issues involving my penis will have to come down to advice that is given, research, dedication and time. But I am at the point in my life where I need to get a move on before my life ends, be it by health, addiction, or voluntarily (don’t worry too much, perks of having depression: therapists. I appreciate any help that is given and the time taken to answer said questions. Thank you.