Hello everyone.

Hi.I stumbled across this site a few months ago, and have been stopping in pretty consistently. I have a problem and I’m not sure how to face it.

I have usually dated small, petite girls. I am not a big guy down there, 7.5BPEL, 5EW mid shaft, and 5.5 at my base. Most, not all, of these girls have complained that I went into their cervix, which always gave me a little bit of an ego boost. But now, I’m with this girl who is curvier and I think I may be in love.

My dilemma.She took my fist a few days ago. I mean, I have done my fair share of out there sex acts, but NEVER with someone I had an emotional attachment to. It has all been in an S&M setting. But I was down there with my fingers, and got a little excited, and before I knew what was up, BAM. In. And she LOVED it.

I have never felt so inadequate in my entire life. I had to talk to her about this, because I felt like I would die if I didn’t say something, and her exact words to me were “Darling, I don’t think you have any place to worry about your size.” Which gave me an ego boost for about 5 seconds, until I realized what she DIDN’T say. She didn’t say I was big, and although she can count all her parters on one hand, I’m willing to bet that one of her guys was bigger than I am. I am falling apart. I have never had a problem with my size until this incident. Now it is all I can think about. I can’t stand the thought of someone I care so much about not getting the pleasure that she is so accustomed to. She claims that I am the best sex she has ever had, hands down, and said that she has never had sex last longer than 10 minutes (we usually go at it for 30 min-1+hours). She has also said that she has never been vocal during sex, and I can’t get the girl to shut up.

But as we all know, they can say whatever they want, but it doesn’t mean we will accept it. So that is why I started PE the day after this incident. I know that ultimately I am doing this for me, so I don’t end up ruining a good thing just because I have insecurities about my member, but I feel so alone. There really isn’t anyone I can talk to about this except her, and I don’t want her thinking I’m going crazy about this, but I am.
If anyone has any useful comments, fire away.

It`s all in your head. Do you really give a shit about the other guy? You dont. Trust me that if she never had sex more than 10 min. and now she is having it with you 30+ min. you`re the best she`s ever had. You have 7.5 BP !!!!!! Get real man. It`s not like you have a 4-5 BP one… And if a girl tells you that youre the best, she`s not doing it without a reason.

I agree with Nick666. 7.5BP is nothing to sneeze at and why do we all let our egos get in the way and assume women carry a measuring stick around in their heads (or pussies) and do a comparison with past lovers? (I suppose it’s in our makeup!). We shouldn’t be defensive and let them be judge, jury and executioner we should take affirmative action and perhaps tell them they have nothing to worry about their size or “you’re a little looser then I’m used to! Oh I’m a male chauvinist pig oink oink! And BTW, half you’re luck if she’s vocal as that’s a great turn on but a lot of women just don’t realise this.

You and only you have to deceide if you want to continue with PE.

If you are concerned about your size, keep your fist out of it.

You do realise that your 7.5” BPEL measurement means you have a bigger penis than over 95% of all other guys? There is nothing to worry. I don’t personally believe PE is necessary for you, but by no means will I look down on you for it. If you feel you need this, you’ve come to the right place.

Welcome :)

Save the Sane

All the above posts say your 7.5” is big etc etc, but they seem to have passed over your girth.

Am I right in saying that you are more interested in increasing your girth than your length? The fact that you can fit your fist in her, makes you feel your dick is small, but thats a girth issue right?

Or am I just going crazy, and reading things that no one else is?!? (:

Yeah, girth is the issue. I wouldn’t mind being longer, but girth is definitely what I want to work on.

Most girth exersizes are a little intense for the untrained dick, slack what should he do?

Maybe semi erect jelqs?

Man, I hope she never has a baby. You’ll really feel inadequate!
The vagina is about 5inches deep but can stretch when aroused to accommodate any partner.. Large or small.. And the majority of nerve endings are in the first 3-4inches in so you don’t need to be a porn star to get her off.

You weren’t going “into” her cervix. The cervix has a tiny pin prick opening, you either hit it or you extend past it.. The cervix isn’t the “top” there is actually an area past it which is why some of these teeny porn star chicks can take 14inch monsters. Think of it like missing your exit on a freeway.. The exit was the cervix and you drive past it. ;)

In the end it is INFINITELY easier for HER to do kegels every day to tighten up that snapper than it is for you to lengthen your rod.. So if she feels like you’re pounding away at a warm cup of water.. No friction.. Teach her about kegels.

And one other important thing you’re missing here.. A girls most erogenous zone is between her ears.. You could have a 1” cock and decent tongue skills but if she’s in love with you.. You’re golden.. She would choose you over some horse hung stud. So get over your insecurities and be her confident man.. That provides more stimulation than any dick in the world.

Here are a few diagrams right out of a medstudents textbook.
(see the area past where the uterus comes down into that vaginal canal? Now you know where Mandingo goes. ;) )
Here is a diagram of where all the nerve endings are in the vagina.

Well, yesterday we got on the subject of past lovers, and she mentioned that the only thing her ex had going for him sexually were his magnums, and that he wasn’t great in bed.

That was a little hard to hear, considering girth is where I feel I am lacking. Granted, she said he wasn’t great in bed, but she is a nice girl and I’m starting to believe that was for my benefit.

Maybe I am just paranoid, but my paranoia is something I would like to squash through PE.

What I don’t get is how you don’t have a probem shoving your fist up a woman’s twat in a S&M setting but you do have a problem if it’s your girl ?!!? I mean obviously you’re into that kind of stuff, so what’s the problem ?

From what you say she seems to like you. You must decide if it’s cool with you to be with a fisting freak/size queen.

I wouldn’t really worry about well-endowed ex-lovers if you feel inadequate, i’d worry about the fist. Points to that she’s into that ‘being filled up’ thing very much.

I don’t mean to be rude, but I see few chances that you can improve your girth by PE’ing so that it could compete with a grown man’s hand. So you’ll have to see if you can live with that fetish she might be having or you better head for the next girl.

my 2 c,

T.

The girls that I have practiced fisting with were only with me to be fisted. It was a purely sexual fetish being played out, ZERO intercourse, and “getting attached” is usually frowned upon. And it always helped me to know that even if I did get attached, it wouldn’t be something I would pursue simply because I knew my cock wouldn’t be enough to give her the pleasure she desires. Vain? Maybe. I frankly don’t care if I come off here as vain, seeing as how this is a site dedicated to men trying to enhance their members.

Now, more than anything, I am just a little weirded out. I have been having sex with this girl for months now, and it has always been amazing. I fell in love with her. Then, one day, she gets really relaxed, we crack out the lube, and .The rest is history. It was the first time she has done it, but she told me afterwards that she was always curious.

And as far as trying to compete with a grown man’s hand.I don’t know how much you know about fisting, but you can VERY RARELY fuck a woman with your fist the same way you would fuck her with your cock. And if you can, run for the hills before it swallows you whole. No matter what your size, you don’t really have to worry about a girls vagina ripping on you, whereas with fisting, you have to be very careful not to “break” the vagina.

Lastly.Most any girl can be fisted with a good warm-up. Usually, the only thing stopping it is a psychological fear of being able to fit a fist in there. Yes, this is a generalization. But you need to work in generalizations to see the big picture.

:rolling: You’ll have to forgive me Save, but I found these bits of your post hilarious, given the circumstances.

Now then, what advice can I give you, to smooth things over (bearing in mind I’m not really very good, with regards to advice) no, but I’ll take a good stab at it (sorry), now let me see, hmmn :-k

How about a bird in the hand is worth two in the :uhuh: !!! Here’s me! Whoa!

How about you take the problem in hand and turn it to your advantage, be forceful and roll up your sleeves to show you mean business, but also be gentle and handle her with kid gloves :eek: !!! (I thought I was on a roller there).

How about you just play along for now, put it on the long finger as it were and :faint:

Sorry Save, I seem to have put my foot right into it, but I did warn you I wasn’t very good on advice.

Tell you what, I’ll ask Tit for you when I see him (he would be our resident expert on everything), that’s if I don’t forget, which is very unlikely.

Seeing as I’ve written it down on the back of my hand :gulp:

Believe me, you don’t squash your paranoia through PE. You have to do that with your own ‘head’, so to speak