Performance Anxiety or What?
The first time I almost got laid with this girl I couldn’t get it up. But I also had a lot of alcohol that time. The second time, I had a lot of alcohol too… so I couldn’t get it up either. We then cuddled naked and slept and I woke up with a raging erection and we had sex with a condom. This was actually the first time I had sex. But after penetration, I knew for sure that I wasn’t at my hardest and I was worried about it. But my orgasm came nonetheless (which surprised me).
So tonight with this girl, I was hard, but she was sleepy so after a little fooling around, we slept. I was pretty much through varying stages of hardness while we were cuddling and I found it hard to sleep because of it. But anyways like 5 hours later we start fooling around again. I was hard off and on through this. Then she asked me whether or not if I was just going to tease her the whole night. So I went got a condom. I was only like 1/3 hard though mentally turned on. I willed myself into an erection. Then when I put my cock in her, it felt really good but the second I pulled out to change position, I went limp.
Ugh. She was very understanding and all but I felt like shit. Whenever I managed to get myself erect (by manual stimulation), it would go away like 2 seconds after I stopped.
So I’m wondering if it’s fully perfomance anxiety or what? The other thing I can think of is the fact that she likes the lights really low which means I can’t really see much. But the thing is when she left, I tried to jerk off, and I couldn’t get hard. Then I tried watching some porn and it was still REALLY difficult to get hard. Whatever it is, any way to help it?