No desire for sex

OK guys, this is my first thread and I hope I do everything right…

First of all I want to thank you all for making this the most supportive community when it comes to men’s health.

Let’s come to the point here is my situation: I am about to start a new relationship with a women who is very in love with me. I like her looks and personality but I am not in love. Nevertheless I would fuck her under normal circumstances.

We had a date, went to her place afterward and everything was ready for sex when I realized that I had absolutely no desire for sex and nothing happened.

She drove me home, disappointed and I am frustrated about not being able to take “my chance”.
The following day, she wrote me a mail, saying she can’t figure me out and that she don’t know if we should meet again.

I never had such a bad situation before.

Something about my background. I am 24 years old, started PE in summer last year for 3 months, took a break and started back again when I joined Thunders in November.

During the break I had to start taking Propecia due to obvious reasons.

I started with a 3 days on 1 day off schedule and went to a 7 days on schedule.

I do 1 hour a day, a mixture of stretching, jelqing, bending, Ulis and clamping with the “Peter Dick” method.

I made average gains and besides from some bruises never had any injuries.

The last 2 months I had much stress due to my final exams at the university.

My question to you guys: What should I do??

I stopped my PE and I don’t know what causes my lack of sex drive.

Maybe the stress at the university, maybe PE, maybe Propecia or maybe all of it.

I really don’t know if I should forget about the girl, tell her about my problem or whatever???

What would you guys recommend?

Dam dude, didn’t you read the side effects on Propecia!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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As for the girl, move on, find somebody worth your while.

I do know about that…but the alternative is getting bald which isn’t a good option!

In addition I thought “Each of these side effects occurred in less than 2% of men” and I hoped to be in the lucky majority :-(

If you are not in love with the girl you can’t pretend to be or force yourself to be. If she loves you as you say then fucking her would undoubtedly lead her on to believe that you may have strong feelings for her too.

Maybe your dick did you a favour. I should move on.

You seem to have been under a lot of stress for various reasons which will have contributed to your lowered libido. Deal with the stress and the Propecia and your dick should return to normal

Isn’t there other stuff out there for baldness, or making your hair fuller? Dam what would happen if the meds made it permanent? Not the hair, but the limp dick. Which one is more important to you?

I had telogen effluvium and was misdiagnosed with Male pattern baldness by the first dermatologist I went to. He prescribed Propecia and after taking it, it made me COMPLETELY impotent. The sex drive was gone and i couldn’t even get myself hard with my hand by myself. I also had an embarrassing encounter with a girl during that time. So it may be the Propecia.

Are you getting a decent amount of sleep?
eating regularly?
are you depressed?

If these things aren’t the case then you can try going off Propecia for a while and seeing what happens. I would personally rather be bald then impotent. Make sure to be taking rogain, as it has no sexual side effects. Maybe the rogain on its own will suffice.

Gentle,

I would definitely be concerned if the meds you are on is causing this, there are worse things in life than being bald. Also, try reducing the stress factor in your life, stress is a killer (literally) and will wreck havoc in your life.

Talk to your doctor about the impotence and see what other options are available.

What Sunny said.

And while talking with your doctor, ask that a blood hormone panel be done: T, free T, prolactin, etc. Some of the hair meds can throw everything off in a percentage of users. The results, even if excellent, will give you a good base-line read for the future in case you do encounter hormonal problems.

Meanwhile, there are a number of good choices among erectile medications that may get you over the current hump.

And, our heads - the one with the brain inside - do tell us a lot that we should listen to regarding relationships, but we have to listen.

Guys and girls I really appreciate your help!

I have no problem with impotence - I just don’t want to use it…
I do get enough sleep, eat sufficient and I am happy with the rest of my life.

I will definitely talk to my doctor, try to reduce my stress and terminate the relationship thing.

Wish you all the best

GG

Start using vitamin supplements and in addition zinc supplements. Zinc will increase your testosterone and sex drive this way.

I also was on propecia for a couple months. I took it off and on since 18, but things escalated recently, and I started taking them regularly. I think it’s BS when they say it affects 2% of users. I’ve read reports where up to 45% reported impotentcy. My physician family members all said that the side effects won’t last after you stop using the meds, but still, a healthy penis and libido seemed more valuable. A lot of baldness is caused by dandruff. I could go into the correlation bw the two if you’d like. Try controlling that first, see if it helps. It won’t stop hairloss, but it will put it on hold. Good Luck with everything, buddy.

I think we need more details. Do you want to fuck her or not? In other words, when you are home by yourself, do you masturbate? Any problems? When you do, do you think about this woman?

I think that maybe what happened is that you were in a stiuation where you knew that sex was inevitable, and you had performance anxiety. In other words, the woman is giving you the signals, and your dick feels like a limp piece of linguini, and you think to yourself, “why am I not twitching down there? What if she grabs my dick and it doesn’t jump to attention?”, so you freak out, assume you have some kind of problem, and run away. Is this the case?

Another possibility is that you really just don’t want to fuck her. There is nothing wrong if she is just not your type, or if you just don’t feel like getting intimate with her. So, why don’t you tell us what YOU think the problem is?

You know Propecia blocks the creation of DHT, the chef male androgen?

I took it for hair loss, gave me erections problems. I posted about it here, a long time ago.
I only take it now when I inject more Testosterone then my body makes.

I don’t know about women, sex, and all that shit, but get your own car. It’s gotta suck being drove
around by a skirt like it’s your mom or something.

Stress with the exams. What mravg said. Maybe you just don’t want to fuck her. Nothing wrong with that man. Nobody is keeping score here. Oh. My boss is bald and he is with many different hot ladies. It’s all in his attitude. Nothing else. He has more confidence than I could ever wish to strive for.

Mrag, these are really good questions.
I haven’t masturbated for weeks for other reasons than for getting a hard one for PE but I thought about her before that time.
I just don’t feel like masturbating right now.

I think there is some truth in your point about performance anxiety but it wasn’t really fear that stopped me.

I thought the problem was the Propecia and the stress but maybe I am just to scared to admit to myself that I don’t want to fuck her.I don’t know and it is this uncertainty that really drives me crazy.

“…get your own car. It’s gotta suck being drove
around by a skirt like it’s your mom or something.”

UD this is Germany.You can’t compare having a car here to having a car in the states.It is really expensive, the car, the taxes and the fuel and being a student I just can’t afford it.But yes, it does suck!

” My boss is bald and he is with many different hot ladies. It’s all in his attitude.”
I know about this BR but I really don’t want to get bald - i don’t like the look.