Lasting longer with oral sex

Alot of what we talk about with premature ejaculation usually revolves around intercourse. I absolutely love it when a girl is going down on me and I tend to lose it very quickly. It’s not like sex where I can be in control of the rhythm and pace myself however I will tell my g/f to back off a bit or go lighter. But I’d just love it for her to grab onto my penis and go to town. Are there any tips or techniques that I can tell my g/f to do or things I can do so that I last longer in that situation. And yes, I know about desensitizing creams.

Tell her to grow a mustache.

I also suggest you to read this great thread Dick Control, a primer by Cheeva.

I find it just about impossible to come from getting head, god I wish I had this problem.

Heh, I wish I could cum from a girl sucking me.

This is an interesting topic. i have a few friends who can’t get off from a girl giving them head. out of all the girls in my life I have gotten head from (around 15 maybe?) only 2 have not made me cum. One was due to too much teeth, the other from poor technique. I wonder if some guys just cannot ever get off from blowjobs, no matter how good it is? I think as you get older and more experienced you might get used to the feeling. Are you new to sex or blowjobs? I know when I first started getting them in high school it didn’t take anything special to get me off. If you’re new to it you might be getting used to the feeling. If the girl does it well, she might be providing you with more forms of stimulus than sex does. If she is sucking you, stroking with her hand and rubbing your balls, that’s three different forms of stimulation. Sex provides warmth and friction, but so does head. I think you may just not be used to all the stimulation a good blowjob can provide.

So 1. Congrats, your girl sounds like she gives good head.
2. I have tried to build stamina in blowjobs, as practice for sex, and especially when it’s foreplay before sex. Doing kegels, breath control, reverse kegels, etc have all helped my stamina in holding back during a blowjob.

I honestly don’t think its the girl. I’ve have 3 different girls give me a blow job and one of those was really bad but still I got off from the stimulation alone.

Kegels and breathing my friend. How old are you? How long have you been getting head for?

Count me in with those who cannot get off from a good ole’ penis sucking.

If you learn to last 30 minutes by yourself, you can last as long as you want with your girlfriend.

Do the exercises here:

Edging - enhance your orgasm

Then advance to these if you want to:

Dick Control: A Primer

Hint — use a good slick lube when you do the exercises to make it more "realistic"

Just my humble opinion, but it is a damn good one. GOOD LUCK!

You’re one lucky guy, why would you want to last longer when it comes to blowjobs?

I can’t really orgasm from blowjobs and I hate it! It makes my girlfriend think that she is lousy at it although I tell her that it feels good and that she doesn’t suck (no pun intended).

Don’t do it man, don’t do it.
Just my opinion.

I thought of something else — if you want to train yourself and don’t mind spending a little cash (Worth every penny even at 10 times the price), pick up a fleshlight at fleshlight.com

Get the “Speed Bump” texture — very blowjob like. Mouth entrance would make sense but it doesn’t really matter.

All great advice. I’ve read through the dick control primer before and most of the premature ejaculation threads. I also have the stamina trainer fleshlight but don’t use it really. I’m 28 and I’ve probably had about 50 blowjobs in my lifetime. Majority from one girl and this was back in 2001 or so and after having her go down on me alot, I started to gain a little more control. And then I went on a dry spell from 2002 to now without getting one. My current girlfriend has gone down on me maybe 5 times so far and each time I feel like I will ejaculate pretty darn quickly. She is pretty good and goes slow and listens to me but I know she really likes doing it and taking me in her mouth. And when I get stimulated on the head of my penis, it drives me over the edge quickly. Maybe I just need to get a little more used to it since it’s been so long, but its just frustrating because its a whole new experience with this new girl and I don’t want to be disappointing in bed. She already gets thrown off track when I have to kegel for like 20 seconds after only a minute or so of sex to hold in my orgasm and try and continue.

Yeah you’re getting used to it again, same thing happened to me when I started a new relationship after being in a sex-less one for a long time. The only time I didn’t cum too fast was dating a girl having sex at least once a day. I now think this was strengthening my kegel muscle as a by product of being erect during all the sex.

It does suck having to pull out after one minute to kegel and hold it back. Especially when you know that sliding back in isn’t going to last much longer anyway.

tmar89 - quite frankly she sounds fantastic. I dunno talk to her, maybe she doesn’t care if you blast of quickly from oral — maybe she takes it as a compliment.

Another thing to try is the Scrotal Stretch — make a circle of your (her) fingers around your scrotum and above the balls - and tug gently when your testicle start drawing close to your body:

http://www.whit elotuseast.com/ … Ejaculation.htm

Whats wrong with cumming quick the first time, take a break while working on her, then you’ll be ready for round 2, where you should last much longer?