The recent success of penis pill companies just goes to show you how brainwashed we have become over penis size. Many of us will abandon reason in our hopes to be better endowed.
How much of this obsession is due to brainwashing by the entertainment, drug, merchandising industries? 25 years ago the topic of penis size was a taboo on TV and in movies. It is the most personal and potentially emasculating of issues. Today it is everywhere. We see it now in TV shows, movies, commercials… allusions to the guy with a big package. A local radio show here is dubbed “Big All Night”. An occasional lover of one of the characters in “Sex in the City” is called “Big”.
Even mainstream TV commonly shows a scene like this… A woman mistakenly opening a bathroom door on a man who’s towel accidentally drops to the floor, looks at his package, and leers, or bites her lip, or appears visibly intrigued or excited or usually all of the above. In reality, most women faced with a situation like that would be embarrassed and look away so quickly that they would not see much of anything. The racy reaction we so commonly see on TV and in movies is designed to fool us into thinking that women are obsessed with the male member. Is it my imagination or is the penis size issue popping up (no pun intended) all the time these days? My current girlfriend knows I struggle with the issue, and she is irritated and appalled by how often the issue is presented on TV when we’re watching together. It makes for some awkward moments. In hindsight, we’ve talked a bit too much about her former lovers (our mutual faults) and she knows I have anxiety over a former “Mr Big” of hers. Shows like “Sex in the City” on HBO are downright unwatchable for us. I worry that this inundation on the penis size topic will brainwash women into caring more about size. Insidious.
My experience is that women are about 1/100th as obsessed with penis size as we are. My last two girlfriends were befuddled that I even cared about the issue. Of course there are a few women for whom penis size is a big issue. Those women may be bigger vaginally or just be very turned on by a big unit. I’d wager that nearly all women are MORE turned on by a lean and muscular male physique coupled (witness many of the ripped but not “huge” male pics posted by female members of this forum) with a good mind and heart. When my girlfriend and I are in sync, making love actually has very little to do with my penis. It’s more along for the ride.
Even understanding the above, I am a classic example of a soul tortured by the issue, and I’m not “small”. I am trying like hell to stop being a victim of this obsession. It makes me a much less happy man. It is unreasonable but there is something basic, something animal about the obsession. No doubt there is an instinctive Neanderthal connection between a man’s physicality (including penis size) and whether he feels secure. “If I am bigger, better looking, stronger, healthier, wealthier, and better endowed, I will be able to attract and keep women.” Some of the above is simply a fact of the animal world. Better endowed isn’t really one of them, except in OUR minds. We keep telling ourselves, and we keep being told by the media, that it matters.
Marketers want us to feel inadequate, because inadequate people will buy a lot of shit trying to become less inadequate. In a sense men are becoming victims of the same vicious marketing cycle that women have been exposed to for decades (EG, related to weight, wrinkles, etc.).
Why is it so hard to just believe my girlfriend when she tells me that sex with me is incomparably better than it ever was with anyone else. Why does my crazed dome meander to thoughts of “Yeah, but imagine if I was bigger.” or “But what if Mr Big had loved you in some of the ways I do?” or “How could Mr Big’s bigger, thicker erection not have been more fulfilling and exciting to you?” Why is it so hard to accept her acceptance? Why do I sag at the thought of being smaller than he? Why do I wallow in these feelings of inadequacy? Simple. Because I’m BRAINWASHED.