I think it’s different for men because prostate stimulation is the big attraction to getting fucked. Women don’t have a prostate, so it’s a non issue for them. Really a dick isn’t the best thing to give good prostate stimulation with, so size helps. It needs to be long enough to reach the spot in the first place, and should be long enough to reach past so the head isn’t hammering it with each stroke, the shaft is sliding across it. I’ve been told a short dick just feels like it’s poking or jabbing, not a great feeling. A thicker dick does a better job of rubbing the prostate, the thicker it is the more pressure you can create. It also gives a full feeling that a lot of bottoms enjoy.
A bigger is physically harder to take, but the better sensations more than make up for it. They say getting fucked always hurts a little at first, but that doesn’t last long. And when it stops hurting at all, I think you got a problem.
Since women aren’t getting the same kind of physical sensations as men, a bigger dick is just harder to handle, without really giving them anything better than a smaller dick would.
“I was like, Am I gay? Am I straight? And I realized...I'm just slutty. Where's my parade? What about slut pride?”
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