Wife doesn’t lIke PE

I was kind of proud of myself. After pumping for about a month, I have grown from 4.0 flaccid to 4.5 and from 4.75 to 5.25 (almost) erect.

So, after pumping, I proudly displayed my manhood to my wife. Her reaction?

“Ooooh, GROSS! It looks like a big red beet”!

I don’t like that puffy look. It doesn’t look normal”.

I said, “Well, my Little Chickadee, when a dick is thicker it does look more puffy. Haven’t you noticed that most porn stars are thick”.

“Well”, she responded, “I don’t want to be married to a porn star. You are a crazy man”.

So, isn’t this a fine how do you do?

All of that work and mercilessly shot down.

I am not doing this just for size. My urologist told me to pump to improve blood flow to help remedy my ED. You guys whose wives fawn over your big dicks are lucky. My wife may be undemanding. She may be perfectly content with “average”, but she can be just no fun at all.

Amerikanisch,

Sorry to read of your wife’s not so positive reactions to your pumped cock.

When I first started pumping I was amazed at how fat I could get my cock. I was also curious to see how sex would go with my now very swollen penis. Like yours, my wife was also not so pleased with my cock having been overtaken by significant levels of edema. While she was receptive and willing, she let me know that she didn’t prefer my cock being so “puffy”.

Since that time I have learned to pump in a manner that provides me with maybe just a bit more than 5% expansion, as compared to the 20% I was trying to throw at her when I was just starting out. So I have learned to keep both pumping set durations and vacuum levels lower, such as 10-15 minute sets at 5 Hg with spikes up to 8 Hg that I will allow to drift down. Generally, staying in the 5 Hg or lower range is safest bet, which you probably know.

My current style of pumping has allowed me to gain the additional expansion during sex without my wife grabbing my cock and asking herself, “what doesn’t feel right here?” Instead I can tell she is enjoying the experience and while she might notice it seems a bit thicker from time to time, she’s not entirely thrown off her game by the distortion of “puffiness”.

The discoloration is a little more challenging to control. My wife knows and accepts that I PE, so I think she just lives with my war torn dick:-) . I have battle scars and discoloration from regular PE.

Our women might be similar in that they really have no need for us to increase our size, so they look at us like we are insane. I get roasted by her over PE regularly, fortunately it is in that flirty comedic way.

Long story short, are you throwing to much edema at her? Might changing the process get you to the sweet spot?

Just wanted to share my personal experience on this with you, maybe something in it might help here.

Big gains to us all brother!

Thank you for your empathetic response.
My dick did not look all that red to me after I took it out of the tube and showed it to her, but I just now pumped again and it’s pretty damn discolored and red. I don’t think that it looks ugly or gross, but it definitely looks engorged with blood and a much different color that it’s usual hue of kind of a dark pink.
Anyway, I took a shot of Mr. Happy after I pumped him up in the tube. Part of my 6 1/2 inches is hidden under my fat pad as you can see by the deep indentations made by the tube into my public pad (he is pretty husky, though, I have got to admit).
Further, I am happy to report that my glans will no longer fit into the large size Phallosan bell, so I ordered an extra large. I don’t know how common it is not to fit into the “large” bell but it does show some progress anyway 😊.
P.S. I have never uploaded a pic of my junk before so I have no idea if it will post, but oh well….if it doesn’t, I tried.

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That erect 5.25 in. (almost) that I mentioned in an earlier post is MSEG, not length (Thank God).

My wife was weirded out and insecure/ paranoid AT FIRST. But I told her if she thinks we will have a sex life in 10 years without me pumping and doing PE, that she is sorely mistaken.
That’s because I had horrible ED once upon a time. Not like “oh I get 70% chubby”
No, my dick was broken. Broken broken. So I reminded her. And she gets it.
Funny thing is she is down with PE but not down for me masturbating. And I do not care at all!

Now she asks “did you have a good PE workout?” Just to show she accepts and supports me doing it.

Including them and showing the benefits works well. When you hide it, they feel like it’s a secret and that doesn’t help.

Without a doubt.

Little Engine The same thing happened to me, my wife does not like the fluffy feeling. So to lower the time and raise the pressure, and perform the exercises about 5 hours in advance.

Totally agree. My GF has this exercise tool to do her kegels. She is proud of having a tight one and brags about it. It’s no different from what I do, and she totally gets it. :-D

I can’t blame her for her initial, and honest reaction. I wouldn’t go showing her what it looks like straight out of the pump…it does look pretty gross. I’m sure that if you showed it to her 10-15 min after, the reaction would be different because some of the initial puffiness would’ve gone down and the color would have improved and things would’ve looked more normal. I’m siding with your wife on this one.

My ex didn’t care for the redness and puffy look either but her first question was can you get that hard enough for sex and can we fuck with that thing that fat?

So that worked out but when she was blowing me she said it felt odd and she didn’t like it so flabby feeling. Now that I got rid of the high-pressure water pump and use low pressure air I don’t have any discoloration anymore and I stop before I get Edema. Win win.

Thank you for your enthusiastic responses. I do appreciate them very much.

The edema does go away after a bit-completely.

Unlike the dicks that I have seen in porn, mine reverts back to only a slightly darker color than the rest of me.

Personally , I like the thicker look.

The problem is filling it up with blood and getting it hard so it’s not just attractive but also functional.

One of you guys mentioned that you switched from a water pump to an air pump, which solved your edema. Why didn’t you just lower the pressure on your water pump?

Also, how did you solve the hardness issue?

I want to turn this fluffy issue into a rock hard issue. Not being ashamed while peeing at the urinal is a plus but not nearly enough.

How long have you been Pumping? Maybe it’s a conditioning thing. Initially I remember I couldn’t pump for over 15 minutes if I wanted a real hard erection. It was still functionally hard enough, but once or twice I had to desperately resort to the good old “choke the base” trick, which I’d rather not. Over time though it doesn’t seem to be the case, but I very rarely pump (warm water) for over 15-20 minutes anyhow.

While on the subject of “fluffy”:

I have mentioned this once before but did not get much of a response.

I have wondered at how these porn chicks can take these donkey-size dicks. Even up the backside!

One female porn star was asked how she could take Ron Jeremy’s 9 plus incher . Her response: “it doesn’t get very hard, so it doesn’t hurt”.

Okay, so, is that what we are experiencing with “fluffy” dick after pumping for girth?

Squishy dick?

I forgot to mention that Jeremy’s inserted erection was described as “feeling like a ‘sponge’”.

That’s exactly how my dick feels-like a soft loofah sponge. I can get it off. I just can’t get it up. Not exactly the feel that I am going for.