The psychology of male sexuality

Hello all,

Just signed up and I am thinking of whether or not to start practising. The information here looks interesting.

I would, however, like to hear your thoughts and experiences about the role of psychological factors on size.

My story: I am 43 and have had a “normal” sex life. During the years something like 20 partners, both younger and older than me. Sex has always been important for me and I have watched my share of porn. When I was younger I Never had any ED-issues, not even when pretty drunk. My penis is small, well not large anyway. Current erect stats something like 6.88 / 4.72. During my “peak years” I never worried about size, the loyal friend was always rock hard and I had many women who I met just for sex and they asked me to come over often. I always performed well. I don’t remember what my stats were when I was younger, but I was happy with my erect size. I masturbated or had sex perhaps 3 times a week.

Current situation. I am a father of three young children. Nasty divorce 3.5 years ago. I married another woman 2 years ago (she was not related to divorce). When we were dating the sex was great. But my current sex life is horrible.
First of all, premature ejaculation. I once came when fingering my wife, without her touching me. What the hell? Second, I truly feel that my Dick is shrinking. Flaccid size at worst: 4.72 / 3.34. Erect still 6.69/ 4.72. At time I cannot believe that the ridiculous flaccid dwarf can get as big as it does. I don’t like what I see in the mirror. I used to be very muscular but now I am just thin. After the divorce I have been having muscle pain, hips are very tight, lower back hurts etc. I have been complaining this to doctor(s) but all tests came back more or less ok. Testosterone levels normal. The doctor prescribed Cialis and I have been taking it. It works and helps with the small flaccid as well. But when I don’t take it, I feel like the dick is slowly fading away. Can this be psychological or is there some rare disease that could cause this?

Sometimes I am sure that it is more or less psychological, anxiety based, together with tight pelvis muscles. As I said Cialis works well, but I am also concerned that it can mess up something permanently. I would definitely like to get back to being the “old me” through natural method, if possible. It is just amazing how the man who used to confidently seduce women and was ready to fuck immediately after meeting a stranger is now feeling worthless and is convinced that every man has a bigger penis than yours truly.

It should be noted also that at the moment there are certain relationship issues, which can play a role. But I have reached a point when I cannot tell anymore what is the cause and what is the effect.

So my question to you is: what experiences do you have on the effect of psychological factors on size? And should I start practicing? :)