Stealth vs. Full Disclosure

I’m completely stealth. Married almost 4 years.
My wife has found my gear once, just a tube I use sort of a clamp. I explained it’s something I use like a cock ring to prevent shrinkage etc. with aging.
I think a lot about how I would even begin to express my fixation on my penis.
If she ever found me mid session I’m not sure how she’d react. I’m a pretty aggressive/vocal PE’er .
I’d surely just explain exactly what and why I was doing this. Then figure it out.

I am still in STEALTH mode started in 2011 and then again in 2012. 2 newbie routines at that time. I just got back at it in 2023. I only jelq and Ulis. Minimal gains but really happy with results.

The first time around she just said it was BIG/hard and went from 5.5 NBPEL (6.5 BP) to 5.75 NBPEL (6.75 BP) and she was the one that thought she was just getting me extra excited with wearing heels. Sex was great and I felt great for 10 years.

This last time around in 2023. I recently had a revelation that I wish someone here would have told me to do when I started PE.

My suggestion:
1. Do not start PE unless you are going to work out and get bigger ARMS and grow your ARMS by at least 1 inch. If you want to be a stud, you can’t just do PE. Growing arms is a long process, just like PE, so I think they go together perfectly. Research it but big guns are what will get the ladies hot for you and in bed, she will be feeling you up way more.
2. Skinny guys- Consider growing your neck by around half inch to 1 inch. Do some searches about it but you will look way more attractive with a thicker neck. Growing your neck is fast so while you are doing your arms and PE you will have more instant gratification with your neck.
3. If you do these things and you still want to be Stealth, you can literally just say you are working out/losing weight and that makes total sense and is actually a true statement

I don’t think I will ever tell my wife, I just started working out more and she started getting more excited for me. I also tell her that it must be that time of the month when her Cervix is low so that might be why she feels it a bit bigger.

So, I’m out of Stealth mode. Kinda liberating! She says she appreciates what I am doing to satisfy her. I thought she was going to be upset.

I will note that I have told her that water pumping improved my EQ by a lot, and I mean a lot. I’m in my 40’s. Even if I never jelq again, I will continue to pump from now on. Cock rings are also a blessing.

She did make it a point to say, even though your jealousy brought you to this because of my past, from now on you do this for you and me. She put me in my place and we all need to remember that, even though many of us started here with goals to compete, we later turned to do this for ourselves and our partners. What started us on the journey is not the reason we stuck with it. We have grown, let’s hope we all grow safely.

-side note, I know my BP’s are all messed up in my post before, I have fixed that and I am measuring correctly now.

This is the real start to your progress! Can’t wait to hear of your new adventures in PE. It is wonderful having support of your partner. Keep it up brother!

I started my journey around three months ago, in full stealth. There are a few reasons for this, first, my wife would never admit that I’m smaller than what she prefers (she is nice). But I have an issue with my size due to some events in the past and getting slightly larger will solve this, feeling a lot better already. My wife would never understand and probably suggest I work on self confidence instead, which I of course do as well.

One of the coolest things I’m looking forward to is when she comments on my size during intercourse, sometime in the future. Then I will most likely tell her what’s going on. And I already have a good story to tell, which is that PE is a way to handle ED, which she is aware that I have been struggling with last year and something ended up being on TRT since this autumn. I will most likely not tell her the full story though, that I spend around two hours per day working out my unit.

Decade thanks for sharing. If you do decide to divulge your secret penis exercises to the wife you most likely will not regret it. Most guys that share with their partner get support and space to practice. You have to find that right moment when you are both vulnerable. Usually after an awesome love making session. Good luck 👍

Earlier in the year, when buying a bunch of toys, I chucked a basic pump in the basket and when it arrived, we both had a laugh about it. She didn’t know I’d started on the PE Path. The subject came up recently in what I can only describe as an out-of-character marathon session, we broke out all of her toys etc and spent hours going at it. I mentioned that I wanted to be bigger and her reaction was not what I expected at all.

For context, my goal is to be as big as her biggest toy - it’s not a monster at 7.5x5.5, and not too far off where I am now. But when the subject came up, she dismissed it as ‘a weird problem that’s totally on you’.

To say I was a bit disappointed is an understatement, but it did make me realise that I don’t need to do this for her, and I’m not doing it for her, I’m doing it for me, to clear up years of foolish insecurity. I’ve always been above average both ways, but always wanted to be bigger. And for her, I’m enough. But not for me. So I guess it remains stealth for now, despite it being sort of out there. I don’t want to be judged for what I believe to be self-improvement. If anything, it’s brought me some much needed discipline for any goals I set myself, PE or otherwise. So all in all a good thing for me, but not something she even really cares about. That said, sex in general has slipped off her radar for the last few years, perhaps I was desperately hoping a bigger dick would solve that. Ultimately, though, I think it’s, you know. A weird problem that’s totally on her.

Good suggestion BF. Space to practice will be tougher when I switch over to girth so having her onboard should help.

My story too. My wife said I was fine and more than enough. I got my biggest wow factors after the latest PE 5 months in on my 3rd newbie routine and then the last two months with water pumping (my EQ has dramatically improved) plus cock rings put us over the edge. She still tells me that even without the rings I’m thick now. She NEVER said that before.

How she described it was, "Before, sex was always great but now I feel the motions we are doing and thrusting are with more with intention. Like, we are focusing on the areas of pleasure, from my side and yours, I’m moving with it more now. It’s not just banging away but there is a point of getting to the OMG moments when I feel you in there so deep, hard, and excited." If I can try and explain it better, most women say a big dick gets them "full," the way my wife described it was that, it feels like something you can engage with more.

For all, if you don’t grow anything in PE you can still satisfy her 110%. Had I not grown at all, I would be fine as a multi-orgasm man, a pump and a cock ring, and lot’s of sex toys, plus I would always demand anal since she can’t give me the I’m too big excuse.

They all say the same thing! Get your PE on and she will be so happy and thank you for the improvements once you are closer to your objectives.