Settle in and take your time. You have obtainable goals. Exhaust the newbie routine and gains that will come from it before moving on.
Let go of the notion of her new guy being bigger. I wouldn’t expect her to say otherwise. One thing for sure is you will never know, so do your best to let it go. I too heard the same thing and let it set me back far too long.
Thank you for the advice. I’m sorry you’ve been in the same position. It sucks to say the least but I’ll be moving on one day at a time.