lately my performance has sucked

Just go back to basics, stop thinking while you’re fucking.

There could be a couple of reasons for your problem my friend. Like you I came into PE with pretty good dick control, but after some training I found that I was becoming more sensitive and cumming sooner. In Exercising The Penis by Arron Kemmer he says that kegeling can make you more sensitive and give you temporary premature ejaculation. For this he recommends a little edging from time to time. He also said that kegeling during sex can cause this problem. Next time you’re having sex try to focus on your BC muscles and see if they are contracting. This can happen subconsciously, which was the case for me. If you are contracting your BC muscles during sex focus on relaxing them. Its not hard to do once you’re thinking about it, and it can really improve your stamina. I was having trouble lasting for 15 minutes of good stroking, but as soon as I started focusing on relaxing my BC muscles I can beat it up for as long as I want, and keep from cumming until I flex them. I hope this helps.

I’m going to try this out tonight, well actually here in about an hour. Lately I have been drinking whiskey on the weekends just so I can last forever, but damn, I don’t want to drink whiskey to fix this problem. I will try relaxing the bc muscle tonight and I will also stop thinking about my clamped dick inside of her while we fuck. Man, I feel like im asking out for help, like im dieing or something.

Tomorrow I will report back on how this all works out. This is strange that I joined this forum because I have a small dick, but now im asking how to stop from cumming so quick when this was never a problem before. Fuck off PE…….j/k

I wish there was a section for home videos on this site. Believe me I would post one of tonight and many other nights. Guess I would need to see if the fiance was up for me filming us fucking, then have her sign release papers for thunders. I don’t know, it would be cool though. Later guys.

Well its a horrible feeling when you see that look of disappointment on your lover’s face. Its enough to drive any man crazy. Also, PE is not just about a bigger penis, but a healthier, harder penis too. I hope this solves your problem. Please let us know.

I think this issue is about conquered. Well, I focused on the BC muscle ( hope it was the BC muscle ) from contracting while we were fucking last night and this worked. We were fucking for a good 15 mins with me keeping decent control from the muscle flexing, then she get on me and starts riding me really hard. I start to feel the muscle flexing, so I kinda like did a push out kinda thing, like I was trying to piss and it stopped flexing. Anyways, 30 mins into sex, I started to fuck her doggy style and she came within 2 mins, and I didn’t even cum yet. I stayed in control by not flexing that BC muscle, it fuckin’ crazy something so simple can ruin someones sex life.

What I need to do, is become more focused with the muscle. There were 3 or 4 times during sex that the muscle started flexing without me knowing, which would have led to a really short fuck. Every time it happened, I would relax down there while doing this push out thing and it stopped. I definitely need some more practice with this so I can master the technique

Oh.. thank you for mentioning this! Since I started to kegel a lot for my routine, I have becoming extremely sensitive—easy to cum. I was never like this… LOL

So edging is supposed to take off the “edge” to cum?

I edged last night before bed… boi, I woke up so early with a huge woody.

Did Arron Kemmer mention about hormonal changes from withholding ejaculation? Ever since I tried to withhold ejaculation (from 2-3 times a day to 2-3 a week), my sleep pattern has completely changed. I can’t seem to sleep more than 6 years.. and I always wake up with a wood… being disturbed by it.

You may want to relieve some pressure man. Whats important to remember is that edging and masturbation are two different things, but both are good for you. Masturbating or having sex once a day is completely natural and healthy. In fact it increases penis fitness and can help increase gains. One of the reasons the penis can get smaller as you age is because most men use it less.

I don’t know if holding back your ejaculation can alter hormone levels.

Over masturbating can cause a bunch of problems. It can slow down or even stop gains, it can cause sexual exhaustion which can lead to temporary premature ejaculation, and it can even cause you penis to bend slightly. As a general rule try to keep it down to once a day.

I think the problem with your BC muscle is that you can’t control it well enough. People who
don’t Kegel everyday have less control over the muscle itself. By increasing it’s strength you
also increase it’s sensibility. And a well-trained BC muscle means control over both erections
and ejaculations - the ultimate sexual tool.

What you are doing now - trying hard to keep your BC muscle from suddenly “vibrating”, is
very psychologically stressful. For the ultimate sexual experience you need to be able to
relax and not think about such technical details. If you keep on doing this, you will grow
tired of having sex and start making up excuses for not doing it (I speak this from experience).

So - do Kegels. A LOT of them!

I don’t find it hard to control the BC muscles, but I do kegels regularly and I do think that has given me the control I have. I have to disagree with the statement you made about thinking of such technical details as psychologically stressful and that it can lead you to grow tired of sex. I don’t think there is anything stressful about having complete control over your ejaculation just by focusing on relaxing your BC muscles. Women want a man that can control his own desires long enough to fulfill theirs. And I never get tired of hearing my wife moan and scream with pleasure.

Hi man, and thanks for your post. YES> by all accounts I understand, this is “edging”.

And it’s not all that easy to accomplish! But, I’m assured by senior members, it’s worth it in the end — esp when using as exercise.

PN

Nicely done! I have had to push out (down with my abs) rather than flex the BC also during sex to keep from cumming too soon (or not at all). My wife varies in times it takes her to climax, so it’s always important for me to read Her.

PN

Usually stress makes me cum fatser. If I’m all stressed out I only last a few minutes. If I’m fresh and care free I can pound forever.