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Help Please

How much of an effect does stress and anxiety have on erections?
I’ve been dating a girl for the last week and last night her and I were in her bed I was fingering her and she was playing with my dong but it wasn’t near as hard as it should be.. It would only go like 75% hard. I couldn’t tell how big it was because the lights were off but I know it wasn’t a full erection.. And I couldn’t get a full erection. Then this morning in the shower I tried to jerk off and I still couldn’t get an erection..

I am really stressing about finals for college next week and I was probably having some performance anxiety last night.. But could these be enough to not let me get it up?
Because if I get the opportunity to make love to her and this kind of thing happens I will never forgive myself, I don’t want to lose this girl over something like this..
Maybe if I get drunk that will ease some tension and I won’t have any problems.

But I am only 21! How can this be happening?

I’ve also got some 625mg tablets of Tribulus coming from Optimum Nutrition. I wonder if that will do anything.

Don’t sweat it toasty. I had the exact problems you are describing twenty years ago when I was your age and I felt exactly the same way.

My advice is do not drink but try and put your self in a frame of mind where you feel powerful and in control. Do not worry about pleasing her - if you do your anxiety to please will lead you to fail Concentrate on your own pleasure and you are more likely to perform well.


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I had the same problems when I was younger, I was nervous about my size and often couldnt preform with a new woman unless I was drunk. Then later in life you realize that theres SOOO much more to making love than a big dick. Get yourself in a more confident frame of mind.


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Relaxation is the key

Smoke a joint before sex I suggest :D When I’m stoned I’m horny as fuck and I can easily maintain a full erection. Smoke a joint for the exams too, you will definitely do good :P


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Originally Posted by NineInchNails
Smoke a joint before sex I suggest :D When I’m stoned I’m horny as fuck and I can easily maintain a full erection. Smoke a joint for the exams too, you will definitely do good :P

Wise words :)

All I ever wanna do is sleep when I smoke a joint, so therefore I gave that up a long time ago.


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Okay guys, nevermind. I don’t get any performance anxiety now.. Must have just been from the first time. Last night we were basically dry humping (with underwear on) and it’s such a tease. Since we’ve only been seeing eachother for 9 days now we decided to wait until finals are done in two weeks before we go all the way. But I had a great erection last night still could be better ;) . Anyhow, I did make her orgasm with my finger and she said no guy has ever done that to her - I realized some things from what I’ve been reading..

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I took this from askmen.com cause I thought it helped me: “Take the pressure off of yourself; remember it takes two to tango. Don’t rush into having sex, rather take the time to appreciate the woman that you have before your eyes. She’s yours for the taking and if you would simply focus all of your attention on her, you’re nervousness might slowly dissipate.

Keep in mind that performance anxiety affects almost everyone, from the beginner to the most seasoned professional; you’re not a freak and you’re definitely not alone. Keep telling yourself that you are the man; always stay positive and know that you have complete control over your body. Enforce that control.

As well, communicate with your significant other, or better yet, spend the evening talking about all the dirty deeds you imagine doing to one another. It’ll take your mind off your temporary drawback, and may even encourage the sleeping giant to awaken and take his woman, and make love with her like never before.

The power of positive thinking can help you accomplish anything, and if you believe that you will have great sex, you will. And believe it or not, after the first time you overcome this anxiety, you will have the confidence to turn your self-fulfilling prophecy into something positive.

With patience, a clear mind, and a comfortable relationship with a great woman, you’ll be able to free yourself of this vicious cycle and engage in that kick-butt sex you always knew you were destined for.
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