Dilemma with the Wife

Okay guys, so here is my dilemma. My wife is very petite, around 4’11, 100lbs.. I’m not a big guy, 6’0, with BPEL 5.8in, Girth, 6.1 inch midshaft, 6.3 bottom shaft.

I started doing PE a year ago because quite simply, when I think about my member.. I think of a thick stump lol.. And I wanted to be a redwood.

Long story short, she found out and said that it hurts whenever we have sex now, and I do notice the frequency of sex going down dramatically.. From 3-4/week to 1-2/week

I told her I stopped, but I kept doing hanging sessions of about an hour /day.

Lately, I noticed a definite length increase.. Even without the measuring tape.

So last night, we start fooling around, and its been awhile so I get real horny. She claims that my cock was much longer (by the amount of lube she needed to apply to up). We continued, and I had one of the best session I’ve had for quite some time.

The next day, she complains that her labia was swollen.

So here’s the kicker.. When I asked if I caused her pain during sex, she told me no, and that the experience was actually quite amazing. She was hesitant to give me any positive indicators because I figured she does not want to reinforce the idea that I needed a bigger cock to satisfy her (which I know I really don’t).

So the question is, do I continue to secretly hang, and get longer.. Or just stop all together.

I don’t want to be a huge 9x7monster.. Maybe just 6.5x6.5,.. (Lol a box).

So fellow thunders guys. What to do?

I would say to take a break for maybe 6 months to let her adjust. Once it becomes less of an issue (i.e. quickies are possible) then start some stretching if you feel you need it.

Ugh.. 6 months is a lifetime in PE.. Decisions, decisions.. Wouldn’t her adjusting to my size be faster than me gaining significant length? .. Id hate to stop if I don’t have to, especially with the gains (after doing this for so long)

Women are animals who give birth to children with heads the size of grapefruit.

She already said she enjoyed the experience of your larger unit, so why deprive yourself the pleasure of growing?

She will adapt.

I will wait for tnt to come and give you the reasons for stopping. In fact, it wouldn’t hurt if you just read his thread. Getting too big is not a great thing everytime.

I think that a possible decondition break won’t be bad for either of you as WTBT suggested. Helps your PE and helps not hurt your wife.

I am wondering if it is possible you just need different lube?

I do not think it is the lube. Her needing more lube, meant that when she applies it to me, its a longer distance to go from tip to base.

Dang you have a thick ass penis bro. I say you keep secretly lengthening that sucker. If anything hurts here it’s probably your girth, you’re probably not hitting the CDS are you?

Yep, I have a tree stump.. Works to satisfy, but looking at it because it’s thick, makes it seem shorter than it actually is

I would kill you to steal some of that girth :P

I see what you mean, the thickness visually makes it look a bit shorter even though it’s still a good length.
I gained almost half an inch in like a month using a Vac Extender, wore it 5 hours a day, 4 days a week. Of course you wanna take it off every hour or so for about 5 mins. Try that out. Try doing it while you’re at work (if you have a desk job)

I already envy your girth, man :-)

Ok, now to your question: no, I would not stop PE. She already shows highly pleasurable (to her!) signs of adaptation. Maybe you can slow down a little bit in frequency of the training units, but I know that a womans vagina is highly flexible.

The other way, and this is a very pleasurable road by the way too, is to double and triple the foreplay. Size has it’s prize, and when I am in the mood to simply bang my Madame to shere dumbness, I have to make her get an orgasm or two before I even think of entering her.

But once she is dripping an fully relaxed, then Wha-bamm, no limits and the CDS is somewhere lost - and she loves it. If I did the same thing unprepared, I’d probably face a charge for rape.

So it’s no, don’t stop PE, in my opinion.

If you’ve been doing PE consistently for a year, it might be good to take a break anyway. PE is a long term life choice. It won’t hurt to stop for a few months and may spur further gains when you start again.

My wife has adjusted over the (four) years I have been doing PE. She can tell each and every time I put on length and lets me know it isn’t her preference. I have gone slowly though to let her adjust for a good long while and then put just a tad more on at a time. She notices and I stop.

It is a fine line. Good luck walking it.

I had similar issues, but the wife adapted quickly and now sex is the best it has ever been. Keep going but just be cautious, you are developing a weapon lol.

Hey gobig,
I have a thought based on my own personal experience with this. Whenever I would discuss pe with my wife she would poo poo it. Didn’t take me too seriously about it, probably because I would more talk about it in passing. She was always like “you’re perfect, it’s big enough” followed by you are a “master” at using it so why change?

I really kind of stealth pe’d for a little while coming up from 6.5x4.75 to 7.25x5.25. She absolutely noticed the change but wasn’t completely on board. The reason for that is coming up in a minute. She loves the change, but here is what I am sure she thinks about it now based on conversations here and there. In a nutshell my wife just about worships the ground I walk on. Married 25 yrs last week and empty nesters as of last year. We are acting like teenagers again and loving every minute of it. Our sex is nothing short of earth shattering most of the time. Even when it’s off a bit it is still damn good. My wife has ZERO complaints about my size, before and after pe. But what would, and had concerned her in the past, is if she thought that I thought she was enjoying it more than she did pre-pe…she would worry I would think I wasn’t what I thought I was. Make sense? My girl is so concerned with my ego that she would try to make it a negative thing getting a bigger, better working cock, than to have me think less of myself. Again, she is loving it…in fact she is having more fun playing with it than ever before. She gets fascinated and fixated on it sometimes which cracks me up. All of that didn’t come about because a little size increase. Some also came from the sweeeeeeet place we are in being alone again and have time to “play” a lot more.

Her thoughts all came out when I told her I am about to stop farting around with it and grow an inch in both directions. She understands that as a guy 6’2” I want a unit that for appearances sake to be more proportionate to my size. Now I don’t think I am small by any stretch…well maybe compared to a few guys up here.LOL But I do know I am on the larger size of avg. She now helps me clamp when I need it hard, she’ll dive right in and help. I believe some of this is for her, but mostly she see’s what I am gaining from it and she loves that for me….and a few mind blowing orgasms are of course a benefit to her.

Longwinded…sorry.

Gobig, it COULD be that she would rather tell you a small white lie (not maliciously of course) and keep your ego in tact, than to have you think you’re not big enough and bruise your pride. THAT is the kind of chick I’m married to, and THAT is why she’ll go right along and get involved when I need her to…or she just wants to. She’ll just keep running the bases with me for as long as I want to run them…

Well…maybe up until it’s 10 inches and then all bets will probably be off. She is petite and sometimes too much of a good thing might not be too good. Later
JV

Sorry I didn’t answer your question about continuing…I say yes, BUT with her full knowledge of it. We had a couple hour conversation and I pulled all my pe paraphernalia out and we got on the same page. So now I hang with her in the room. She helps me clamp by sucking me if I want, or she’ll just show me her big tits. She even chuckles when I’m trying new stuff. When she comments about changes during sex I laugh and reaffirm that I am gaining ground. Not to sound corny but there is some freedom when it’s all out in the open!!!

JV

I don’t think there is a woman in the world that can’t take at least 7” of length. It’s the girth that she needs to adapt to, obviously you’ve gained there too.

My advice: Work on length only for now. As for whether to tell her or not - that’s an aspect of how you want your relationship to be.