Anyone know good ways to PE secretly?

So let me explain my situation.

My S.O. of 7 years is thuroughly against me doing ANY kind of PE. Whether that is my foreskin restoration or PE for length or girth.

My concern is, well this is my body, my life, my experience, get over it. But I also don’t want my S.O. pissed off.

I mostly do ADS at work. JELQ in shower. Edge at work or while S.O. is sleeping. Stretch at work or in bathroom or while S.O. is sleeping etc. any free moment I can but obviously while at home there are very little opportunities.

On top of that. Buying things like sleeves, clamps, IR sleeves etc is basically impossible to keep secret.

We do not see eye to eye on this at all but has anyone else had this issue with their S.O.? Thanks brothers.

s.o. ????

Just tell him or her (i guess) that you will do whatever you want, this is your penis, your life, your decision.

What is she gonna do ? leave you ?

If she leaves you then you lost nothing.

I can PE in front of my wife everydays, i dont ask her, i do it.

What do you risk ?

It’s gonna be fun when your s.o. who doesn’t think you’re doing anything and then catches you lying! How about being a grownup and say this is what you want to do end of story!

My wife knows about my PE, but not really my schedule. She walks by my standing desk while I’m hanging and doesn’t notice. That said I hang while wearing flannel lounge pants. My homemade weights go right down the pants leg.

Good point JB. You are right. I guess the whole lying does weigh down a lot. And SF3000, it is not so much the leaving that worries me I guess. As I know that is not what would happen. But thanks guys.

I don’t share my PE with my wife. I told her about it once when we were newly married and she seemed indifferent. I like my privacy and it does get in the way of my workouts. Typically I wake up at about 3 am and jelq quietly for a half hour or so but I haven’t found a way of doing anything else discreetly.

Thanks 5.5 and Brawndo. I will keep that in mind. I appreciate it brothers.

“Significant other”. Older generic term for girlfriend/lover/wife. It is fading away as the new term “partner” is being pushed very hard.

French has Académie Française, which tries to control spelling, pronunciation, and vocabulary of the French language. There is no real equivalent in any English-speaking country, where all that shifts randomly. Eventually all the corners will get worn off English and it will devolve to a single word (“huh?”, “fuck!”, or “ugh” have been proposed) inflected in different ways.

You’re not doing anything that will harm or embarrass her. If she’s going to throw a fit big enough to get you to stop or hide what you’re doing, your relationship has a much bigger problem than PE. That’s a chickenshit control measure.

You’re the judge of your life, and you might choose to live with it, but I’ve seen the control freaks in operation before, and it never gets any better. What are you going to do next time something sets her off?

Explain it is for overall penis health and function and not just for gains. Also don’t be secretive with your partner. My girlfriend objected to me getting any bigger and I told her I want to do it for me and I will know when to stop, and she accepted the terms. She doesn’t know I’m posting active Dick measurements on here though. But if she asks I will explain the importance of a peer reviewed journal.

Ok thank you for this precision !

Privacy and open mindedness are not available for all of us. And many people who are not into PE have a hard time to understand. Thus many of us share their thoughts and feelings on PE exclusively here. For many it’s the only safe place to do so.

The question has come to my mind too: Are we all freaks here? Prefer to not search for the answer…

Jelqs and stretches can be done while using the rest room. Often sessions of several minutes are sufficient. Can do such short sessions several times during the day. I had a PE episode when I stretched every time I went to the rest room. This approach was very efficient.

Now I wear cock rings many hours during the day, have edging sessions in between. In baggy pants this can also be done relatively unnoticed.

Mad, Andy, and Bangel.

First, just want to say thank you all for your well worded and thoroughly thought out input. I really appreciate it.

So my partner and I don’t have THAT level of trust unfortunately. We also have a history of very aggressive fights. Which is why I am hesitant.

TP has been a safe place where I have found other like minded brothers who just want to better themselves which is why I am here and I want to be Descartes because I don’t want my partner to go into a rage state.

We have been working on things and have gotten through much of our issues but I just don’t think he is ready for new things without being able to control the feelings afterwards.

It is just a tough place I guess. But yeah I will keep at it regardless every opportunity I have. Thanks brothers.

Mmmm…If I were you I wouldnt share that with her. Imagine if both of you get mad and she starts laughing at you for doing P.E and goes out of her way to make fun of you in public. The general public do not understand what us guys are doing in this forum, so why bother.

- Try to find some time or space.

- If you cant really speak with her about this, well keep it at secret. No one needs to know besides you and your penis.