The one-man-orgy feels better than sex...

I meant to discuss this on Reddit, but 90% of Reddit doesn’t have the experience we do, so all their discussions end up with things like “find a man who’s into you for you” and stuff.

I’ve always noticed that I can make myself orgasm much harder that sex can and it’s only intensified as I’ve practiced clamping, pumping, and wearing the right cock rings. Scientifically this is a no-brainer as intense pressure increases sensitivity and a lot of my personal fetishes involve engorgement and enlargement. There is also an aspect of edging alone that falls under “porn addiction” in the mainstream verbiage, but put simply, you can’t deny the enjoyment of adding variety to the mental stimulation.

For the longest time, I’ve kept my most intense masturbation and fetishes to myself. I happen to have a partner who embraces the fetishes I have shared and is often turned on watching me pump or edge, but for some reason I can’t completely let go and go on a bender the same way with her around. When I was single I might enjoy a great weekend of vaso-dilation and edging and soft-core, hard-core and whatever I felt like, but in a relationship you seem to forget about it.

When she goes away overnight on a sleepover or something, I find myself enjoying the best weekend in years, of nearly non stop edging and indulgence. Obviously that couldn’t be 24/7 but why would you not wish to pursue a lifestyle where you can enjoy intensity like that every other week or more?\

What do you guys think… should I try to share that orgy experience with her or prioritize a relationship situation where we don’t live together every night? On the one hand, I can see my hedonism outpacing her open-mindedness and driving her crazy with non-stop masturbation wouldn’t be fun for either of us. On the other hand, no girlfriend is going to want to sleep together during the week and make meals together only to go be alone on the weekend. Even if I wasn’t in her face about why I want to be alone, the weekend is when girls want to go out late the most.

Focus on your relationship. That must be more important than pulling your dick for hours.

Not to mention that pulling your dick for hours is counterproductive

None of that is the point of this.

Not everyone is wired the same, but for me there’s zero reason to PE outside of increasing pleasure. If the hog is swollen and it turns her on, sure that counts. But in the end, this isn’t a fertility forum or even a relationship forum. None of that affects the fun of pumping, or my sexual drive, etc.

i.e. if I was looking for more fulfillment in a relationship, I wouldn’t be here. That’s a completely different world with plenty of value, but doesn’t change the fact that my sexual craving is focused inward in some sense, and it’s kind of fascinating to me, because it’s completely counter-culture, but it isn’t really a negative thing if it is what gives us our own fulfilment in life.

If she loves you she will eventually walk away from you trying to set weekly guidelines around when she can be home and when she can’t.

Relationships are compromise. What we can’t compromise on is our personal make or breaks.

No one can really help you here. It’s unique to you and your eventual partner.

If she wants her space every weekend perfect. If she wants to be around while you indulge, perfect.

If she wants you to stop, well, I guess then no dice.

Lay your cards on the table and see where the chips fall.