I'm the smallest they've had....

I would say most women would call that average och maybe on the bigger side of average.

You’re wasting your breath (metaphorically) here Patrik. He doesn’t believe in statistics, scientifically reported or not. Even though you’re right

Thank you for all of your responses.

I know the real issue here is my own insecurities. If I was more confident I would make up for the average penis (or small penis according to some women) with oral, foreplay etc. But due to those insecurities and lack of confidence I avoid in depth sexual encounters. When I have sex it is very basic, kissing, a finger or two then sex in missionary. I avoid anything more exploratory than this due to fears of getting it wrong and demonstrating my lack of experience/inadequacies.

I don’t get into long term relationships for those same reasons. So the ppl I have sex with are usual one off encounters. I don’t have any problems getting women but my sex clearly isn’t great due to the issues I’ve mentioned so most relationships are short lived.

I have the opposite problem to many and I suppose it is a nice problem to have, in that I am very good looking according to most women and they expect me to be experienced/good in bed due to my looks but in fact when it comes to it the opposite is true, I’m smallish, and lack experience, so their high expectations come crashing down.

Not sure where I’m really going with this but I’ve just always felt inadequate and some women have reaffirmed that. Not sure I can ever be confident with my penis. I know it shouldn’t be such a big thing but I feel I’d need to be 7x5 to have any sort of confidence sexualy.

You know the mistake I’ve been making guys. I’ve no idea why I thought I was 4.3 inches in girth or now I got to that figure when I measured years ago.

I just thought to myself right I’m going to update my states on here and really go for it with PE.

I’ve measured and my girth is 3.5 inches.

I’m totally and utterly ashamed of my penis, no wonder I’ve been told I’m the smallest they’ve had. I am.

Just be careful with the PE. From what I’ve read it can be beneficial but it could also be very risky if done incorrectly. I actually learned quit a bit by reading through the injuries forum.

Don’t let what they say about your dick detour you from seeking out sex. Fuck what they say. Get yours. Eventually you’ll find the one who is crazy about you, no matter your size. I suggest you practice your oral skills until you perfect it. Practice any oral technique you can think up until she responds well to it. You’ll know when you are doing it right. Drive her crazy with that until the gets off. Right as she gets off.. Climb on or pull her to you, stick it in and go to town. Chances are she’ll be feeling so go because you just got her off orally, she’ll go crazy when you stick it in.

That’s been my move for years and it works every damn time.

It sucks to hear, but I’ve heard some women say the best sex they’ve ever had was from a guy with a smaller unit.

Learn to worship her body and focus on her pleasure. You might end up surprising yourself.

I’m handsome too lol right on. 3.5 is pretty slim I would imagine I started at five girth and now six and it’s a huge difference for some reason. Be diligent with your PE and the shame is gonna go away. My shame was the love of my life wasn’t compatible with me but that’s not my fault or hers. All I know is that I could have loved her like no other. Everythings gonna be ok op I promise

Thanks again guys.

Not sure why I’m struggling so much with the girth measurements. It seems my girth is 3.5 just below the head, with a big mushroom tip! Then 4 inches midshaft and around 4.5 at the base. So I suppose I have the opposite to a baseball bat!

If I’m jelqing is that going to increase the girth of the shaft to catch up with the mushroom head or will the mushroom head gain most of the size? Ideally my penis would look less mushroom like!

That is absolutely true if you hand over your definition of value to others.

Might you have some say in what is beautiful?

Exactly. Who can really say what beauty looks like? Beauty is made up like psychology economics or statistics. Statistically you’re more likely to die on you’re way to buy a scratchy than to win something, but that hasn’t anything to do with playing. Statistically a white male black female marriage has high success rate but really wtf lol.

To the OP read everything you can about eating pussy. Become the best at it in the whole world. Do PE while improving your pussy eating skills and try not to fret about your dick size. Trust me I am in my sixties, women go crazy for a good carpet muncher. If you think you are good now, get better.

I want to relate a personal story to help you OP. Back in the 1980’s I worked with a lot of women, many african american ladies. We could talk freely about sex without worrying about sexual harassment lawsuits. One particular conversation about penis size and ethnicity took a turn about eating pussy. All the black women agreed that they would rather have a man that knew how to eat pussy than have a huge dick. Most of the ladies were ok with a guy smaller than normal but wanted their pussies licked. That was the first time I heard the term carpet muncher, they liked to tease me cause I was shy. I told them I was good at eating pussy and then they were all about how lucky my wife was to have me. Those ladies were desperate to have someone eat them out. Months after the initial conversation while eating lunch in the cafeteria I bit my tongue, the women were horrified that I hurt myself and wouldn’t be munching that night. It was silly, funny and weird but they had great respect for me that I was willing to tell them I loved eating pussy. Be the best and the ladies will talk, you will get offers for sex no matter the size of your penis.

Wouldn’t be munching that night. That shit reads funny as hell to me , made my morning

LOL, that was a good story. But it’s true, I don’t think women obsess about dick size at all, except maybe a few size queens.

I’m probably just shy of 6”, not even thick, and when flacid it looks really tiny if you ask me (maybe around 2-3 inches depending on temperature). But I’ve never ever heard any woman laugh or even giggle at the size. Don’t mean to praise myself, but a few women have really and honestly (I believed them at least) given me a huge compliment on the sex we had.

I think that one reason is that I try to give women a lot of attention, a lot of foreplay and focus on not only getting myself off. So no matter your size, I think if you gain confidence and knowledge in what you are doing, it really can be more about the motion of the ocean :)

It should tell you all you need to know about a woman if she takes a swipe at your dick/masculinity like that. She’s toxic.

Like the old timers have said here, concentrate on her pleasure first. Make a woman come over and over again and she’ll keep coming back for more, regardless of the size of your penis.
Speaking as someone with an above average unit, 95% of the orgasms I’ve given women have come from my hands and mouth, not my cock.

Good/great sex is very rarely —if ever— centered around the penis.

Sounds like a power play to me.

I tend to avoid people that play these kinds of games. Once I get a whiff of some manipulative tactic, we’re done and I cut ties with any mutual friends at the same time to avoid further entanglements in their nonsense. Life is too short to waste time with people like that.

With these kinds of people, it really has nothing to do with your qualities. You could be a 10/10 and they’ll still act like you’re inferior to try to trick you into submission and dependence on them. They’re a kind of loser you’d best avoid, not just because they’re perpetually needy and hassle-some, but because decent people will ostracize you for associating with them.