A new problem, I have an orgasm too quick

I actually went through about the same thing you described Gui. The first few times I had sex I didn’t even come at all when I was kind of trying to. I started doing kegels during sex and masterbation and I ended up having a few 5-8 minute sex sessions and was horrified. It took me awhile to get over it because kegels sort of became an involuntary contraction during sex. I experimented with reverse kegels and a few other things and got myself on track, but I havn’t had sex since I was having that problem so we’ll see how it goes. What I have been doing is only doing kegels when I am not masterbating/sex at least until you think you have control. Kaan told me himself that if you are doing kegels during sex you are doing them wrong, while other members insist that you should do them during sex. I am definitely still confused on all of it, but I would play it safe and kegel without sex for now. Goodluck though.

Kaan, how is it that doing Kegels during sex is doing them wrong? Apparently a lot of guys think that’s an OK time for them.

Hello my friends!

Well, I just want to let you know that “it” didn’t happen to me again. Anyway, I found making love completely different when not using a condom… it’s so much more intense, so much more exciting… people who say that the use of condom do not make you lose sensibility, must be kidding! And I must confess that I have to do a lot of mental work not to have an orgasm right after the penetration. After that, I’m sort of in control of my emotions and of my body, and everything goes well. Thank God…

This brings another topic… does the use of a condom will help those who suffer from premature ejaculation? I think it surely does…

Big big hug for you guys!

A condom desensitizes everything to do with the penis and some people will put on two to completely divorce themselves from the sensations. You can always start with a condom and when the arousal level is at a more manageable level, remove the condom and proceed au’ naturale.

Condoms certainly help me out in bed. It really depends on which kind though, because I’ve had some condoms that felt like cellophane and others that felt like latex like they should.

yeah howdy, but what’s the point in making love if you can’t get the best of it, if you can’t feel the wonderful sensations it brings?

au’ naturale, as you say, is way better! and way harder! :D

Some guys are just interested in the pleasure their partner is having and their own pleasure is far down the list. Sex for a man can some times be more of a “workout” or the purely physical aggression of “humping” sex, for these individuals the only objective is to stay hard. They can drop their load any time.

What’s the stair-step kegel method?

I can tell. I don’t like it.

Gui_DG the answer for me is two fold. As Disi points out the most likely reason is psychological. I find distracting yourself by looking up at the wall or ceiling or anything which isn’t sexy female flesh will help. Once you reach the point of no return just kegel like mad and enjoy the orgasm, it’s too late by then to do anything! Of course what you are looking for is a way to hold off the point of no return!

I cannot emphasise kegels enough here! I might be fairly new to PE but I have been kegeling on and off for over a year now and it really, really works. If a girl does something that uncontrollably turns me on during sex (like thrusting a bit harder) I can squeeze with the next few strokes and the feeling subsides. The bonus is, when I do reach the point where I know I am going to come, I start squeezing. This prolongs the build up to ejaculation and feels really amazing.

By the way, when you build up your BC muscle and then squeeze it when you are inside her she may be curious what that was. She may even ask if you came as it must feel similar I guess. Just explain to her afterwards what you were doing and tell her that all the great sex she has been giving you has helped you master your own body! She’ll love it.

Have a good night!