Supplements to increase the lady's sex drive?
OK, we have a little problem here. My girlfriend of several years is finding it difficult to become physically aroused. We believe it may possibly have something to do with this article: Birth control pill may kill woman’s horniness
She’s been on the pill for a couple of years. She says she wishes she could become more physically aroused for me, since my sex drive is some order of magnitude larger than hers, and of course she wants to be “on” for me, as well as be able to enjoy herself more in the act. I also hate to feel that I am “using” her for my own gratification and don’t want her to start to think this also. I also find it discouraging when it takes assloads of effort (on both parts) for her to have one simple orgasm.
I’ll say it clearly - she does not have any major psychological disorders or depression which would have this kind of adverse effect. She is not on any medication or any any significant stress. She is not vastly overweight. We can find no external reason to blame this on.
It’s not that she is not mentally into it, but her body does not want to respond, usually it will take quite a long time and a fair amount of effort to prepare her for the act itself. It seems a fair bit longer than it used to take. She sometimes lubricates very little, and if it weren’t for my copious pre-cum, I would not even get inside her without the aid of the tube of stuff…
Rather, the problem more specifically, is that her libido seems to come in infrequent waves - she will slowly build up her desire over the course of days or weeks, and then once in a while jump me. Day to day, it is a very weak response though. She is perfectly happy to go days and days with no physical contact, which upsets me because I am a very physically intimate person (in and out of the bedroom) and she does not feel the desire to reciperocate. It seems for her to get truly horny, we need to be physically seperated for up to a week. She is only in her early 20’s.
I should also mention, that when she is really horny, she can cum in as little as 5 minutes from getting undressed with minimal foreplay if any. During these times she feels extremely hot inside and also gets very wet.
If we can’t find a solution to this, then I guess we will have to try out a few alternatives, like maybe quitting the pill to see if it helps.
I’ve read a bunch of info on various herbal supplements etc, and they all seem to be miracle cures, mostly for the male side of things. They all claim to increase testosterone, which is supposedly the important libido hormone. I have restricted my reading to this place alone since all the supplement sites out there have a financial interest in selling it to me, obviously, so they become less credible in my eyes… I need independant verification.
I was wondering if any guys out there had had any positive experiences with any particular products or plants, that their partners had luck with and maybe incresed their drive at least somewhat?