More evidence of size importance: Dildo Test

My GF insists, after significant interrogation on my part, that she doesn’t think in terms of size. I am what I am and I am who she loves and sex with me is tremendous. That said, she uttered beenthere’s “I don’t remember” when I asked her what her first reaction was to the Mr Big in her past. FYI, its well documented in this forum that girth leaves the impression of bigness much more than length does. I’m about 7.75 bp x 4.8 and I hit spots he (or anyone else) never did, but HE was “bigger”. She confessed it was his girth (damn it). She is a very sexual person with me, so I am skeptical that she is protecting me by saying she doesn’t remember her first impression of him. She admitted that he was a very sexual person. She says he acted to please himself only when they had sex. His selfishness is a major factor in her de-rating him as a lover. If he had tried to please her in addition to just getting off, then he might have been worth worrying about. I’m lucky.

I bought two dildo’s for her because she wanted something for when I’m traveling for work. One is my girth but longer, so she/I could grip it and probe a bit, the other similar length to me but slightly thicker (I look respectable but a bit thinner side by side with it). I feel that I can surpass the girthier one with PE, but I want to see the impact of size on her. I am not worried about the lengthier one because I already bottom out with her. The thicker one has me worried a bit but I believe in PE, so that will give me some drive for PE if it blows her mind. I wanted to get toys that were big enough for experimentation but not too big :-) She has never had a vaginal orgasm, only clitoral. She doesn’t “believe in” vaginal orgasms at least for her, though she does really seem to like when I am deep.

I’ll report back.

Report Back: I unveiled my GF’s new toys last night. We tried out the shorter thicker one (7.5 x 5.5 accurately measured compared to my 7.75 x 4.8) in the early morning hours. It was a bit cold so I had to lube it to get it in. As I slowly worked it in I got an “oh god” on the way in. She enjoyed it from there on too, but not excessively so. She stimulated herself to a clitoral orgasm while I penetrated. The whole process took maybe 15 minutes or so. I was probing as deeply as I could and slowed down as her climax subsided. She had given me a hand job prior to my dildo work. After I finished her I was ready for round two and gently entered her. To my delight she felt as tight as ever, and she was obviously enjoying me more than the dildo, saying things like “oh yeah, that’s it” as I penetrated her in ways the dildo could not. Afterwards we discussed it and she said that the softness of my skin my shape just felt better, and penetrate deeper. Also, temperature made a difference. The only tough to take thing was when I said “Technically I’m bigger…” meaning in terms of length, she emphatically said “No!” before I could finish, remembering the thickness of it. I then said I meant longer and she said “oh yeah, I think you are”. She said she definitely felt a size difference going in, but once it was in the size difference wasn’t perceptible. As I entered her after the dildo her reaction was more pronounced. There might have been a little ego stroking there but I think only subtly. She is not the type to fake. She felt that this experiment confirmed her contention that size doesn’t matter to her. On the way in it was pretty tight and erotic though. On the other hand its like that EVERY time I enter her too. I wonder if she’ll try the long thinner one tonight while I’m out of town. The thicker one didn’t seem to find the nook that I do. Now I’m pondering trying to find out if her old Mr Big is thicker than this dildo ;-) I’ll never learn… but at least I’ll know all the facts and stop fretting over it. I can say that size DOES matter to her based on the deep penetration issue, because 6.5” wouldn’t do it for her. In fact, her prior lovers didn’t do it for her. Only me at 7.75 bpel. I also have more conviction than ever that she enjoys me the most.

So there you have it. If you “go there” make sure you select the size CAREFULLY and strategically. Err… I better not get too cocky until I see how she likes the longer one. :-)

I knew better than to buy a dildo bigger than I am, so I bought a make-a-copy-of-your-dick dildo kit as a birthday present for the wife. Sort of a backup “me” for when I am out of town, dead, or just for kicks.

Well its quite a challenge to make. Nothing like keeping a woodie while the wife mixes up a batch of cold plaster and maintaining it without moving for 90 seconds.

The kit came with enough material to make three attempts at a mold, then enough material for one casting. You have to decide whether to abandon a mold before making the next. You can’t make three molds then choose the best since the mold material cannot be removed from the housing without damaging it.

On the second try I used a “tourniquet” on dick and balls and got quite enlarged. Unfortunately quite a bit more girth than I can muster normally. Basically a “ULI” girth. However, because the balls where pushed out and down the shaft, the effective dildo length is only four inches! So the wife has a copy of me that is bigger in girth but shorter in length (I’m 7.0 BPEL).
Plus the base is a massive set of balls!

But what really works for her seems to be the glans on the dildo, while big, is very inflexible. It almost POPS in and out of her pussy. She especially likes doing 69, with my tongue first than with my backup. Fantasy is two men at once I suppose.

So all is OK, but I am a little jealous. Need to go to home Depot for some Cable Clamps to work on girth!

Grower. My selection of a dildo thicker than me was calculated. I wanted to evaluate whether thickness was undeniably important to her, for PE goal purposes. The conclusion is that thickness beyond what I bring is not important too her. I also bought the particular model I did partly because the glans was pronounced and my GF has often commented on how she loves the feel of my head which is pronounced (thought obviously softer). She says that my head feels way better. In fact, she couldn’t really feel the head on the dildo, perhaps due to texture or exact shape or something. I suppose I could hand craft a perfect dildo for her, but I don’t think I’ll be doing that. :-)

That said, I can identify with the jealousy thing. The dildo was a little intimidating. I’m glad I can at least get deeper than it can. It is shaky ground in this area, but I figure what doesn’t kill me will make me stronger.

See my previous post about my failed attempt to forge a dildo in my own likeness. You are right that it is not easy. Kudos to you for pulling it off.

Air, what is your NBPEL measurement? You say that a 6.5” guy couldn’t please your girl. I was wondering whether you meant a 6.5” NBPEL guy or not.

I’m 6.5” NBPEL but 7.5” BPEL so almost as long as you (BPEL wise at least).

Why do you guys need further evidence that bigger is better? Why keep beating yourselves up over this? Torturing yourself? We’re all involved in making our cocks larger but do we need this stupid pressure that it MUST get bigger? Is that what this is all about?

I’ve heard it said here over and over again, my wife/girlfriend says what I’ve got is fine but I know deep down inside that it’s not. I know she’d be happier if I was larger. Well, why stop there? I bet you she’d be happier if you made more money…had a nicer car…had more hair…were taller…more muscular…came from a better family background…the list could go on and on if you want to make yourself even more miserable.

What about this thought: maybe she just enjoys you. Maybe out of all the guys that she dated and came across in life, it was you that lit a flame. And yes, perhaps there’s some flaws in you that she’s accepting just like the flaws that you are accepting of hers. It’s called companionship…compatibility…security…love.

I’d rather think of PE as doing something special for oneself. The biggest benefit you’re going to get out of this is knowing that through a great effort and love for yourself, you changed something that has burdened you throughout your life. No doubt this will change the dynamics in your relationships…hopefully to make what’s good even better.

Otherwise, disregard this post and keep knocking yourselves around some more.

ICM: 7.75 bpel, 7.25 nbpel (I’m pretty lean, not much fat pad). Remember every woman is different. Every other girls I’ve been with was actually easier to bottom out with. My current GF is tighter though. Also, my girl would enjoy me just fine without the deep penetration. She doesn’t get off on the deep penetration.

Wood: You make a great point bringing up the other ways I could be better. I’ll start working on those now too. Ha ha. Just kidding. My efforts here are not about proving that bigger is better. They are about proving that she was being honest about her opinions about size. I think she is a legitimate “size does not matter” type of woman. The fact that she likes the way I can penetrate her deeply does not mean that she enjoys that act the most or that it would matter if I could not do that. SHE enjoys me for what I am because of what I am. It is ME that is obsessing about size… just like everyone else in this forum. This is part of me working through this issue, dispelling myths, learning to trust her, accepting myself, etc. The companionship…love concept hits home too. I’ve made great progress on this issue with my GF because I trust her with my vulnerability on this topic. We talk about this stuff, and that has been a great help.

Really, is there actually anybody here because their significant other made them come here?

I think we are all here because of our own preoccupations/facination/obsession with our own sizes.

I was sure as hell here, even before I lost my virginity. Explain that one smart guy!

The X said I was perfect at 6.25 and I was perfect at 7 and than 7.5 and than 8 so I figured that since every size was perfect for her I needed to find the perfect size for me

I asked a few online sex shops about size. One said the average range is 6-8 long. The other said 6-10 long. The first didn’t give their impression of the average. The other said the most common is around 7 long and 1.5 girth, with the average being 8 x 1.5 which is probably skewed because as the first shop said, some like it huge. I’m still waiting on the other shops’ replies.

If I were to get a Fleshlight, I would get a Supertight!:) Wouldn’t you? But that wouldn’t effect how much I love my girlfriend.

BiffyStiffy

Yeah, my girlfriend bought me a fake vagina, and it is eye-crossingly tight. You’re right. There is no comparison to being in her, which is way better.

>>Yeah, my girlfriend bought me a fake vagina, and it is eye-crossingly tight. You’re right. There is no comparison to being in her, which is way better.>>

In spite of dildo size few women, when faced with a choice, will pick the dildo over sex with their man. However sometimes for the sake of variety may desire a threesom with their man the dildo and her.

luv: Yeah, that puts it in perspective. Ponder how a threesome with a dildo would differ from a threesome with a better hung man. The latter would be crushing, at least to me, and the former is actually quite intimate and hot and much less intimidating.

My response is the dildo threesome offers fantasy which is always difficult for reality to outdo. I’m not sure I could handle a threesome with the wife and another guy, but I have no problem fantasizing it and letting her fantasize the same. And she has no problem with the fantasy of us and another woman (including girl on girl action) but I suspect that she would never go for a threesome of any kind other than a dildo threesome.

But we have gotten off topic. Hopefully this thread is soon dead.

Another shop said the average ranges from 7-8, and another says (6” x 1-1/4”) to (7-1/8” x 1-1/2”) with most buys being of the former dimensions.

BiffyStiffy