Reflections and Progress: thoughtfulgold

I did not gain while negative. Notable breaks I took were around funerals, bad job situations and relationship problems. Negativity drove me away from PE, so that even if I did it, it couldn’t stick.

Force of will is a double edged sword and to be wielded with care and precision.

I agree. Good effective PE with a positive attitude is invaluable. When life hits hard, it’s a bit tougher to keep your sanity but rewarding if you can manage a good attitude.

For me when I would ejaculate often, coupled with other things in life, stalled gains etc…I lost motivation and felt negative towards PE. Then when I stopped cumming but once a week, things started to turn around quite a bit for me. Has that ever helped you as well?

Orgasm reduction only helped if my mind was already stable. Otherwise it could backfire. Additionally, twice weekly helps keep me grounded.

That sounds quite reasonable.

TG, I absolutely love the thinking out loud feel of your thread. It’s refreshing.

I completely agree with the importance of positive mental state on PE gains.

I would add that in my view the physical and mental are very much linked. Physical being living healthy, staying hydrated and listening to PIs, and that these contribute towards a positive mental state, which in turn further fuels positive physical behaviours.

If one can focus on the positives from the outset it gives one strength to maintain healthy behaviours and this positive mental state means PE gains.

I have been keeping track of my gains so far. They aren’t much…but at my current size, a small amount of gain is still a real thing that matters. So, I got to thinking…what is a 1/10” in the real world?

Nothing, for most things. Infinitesimal. Trivial. A trifle.

But here, it is a product of effort and time. The taste of the carrot bobbing in front of us as we trudge on with devices and manual exercises. No matter how small the gain, it being repeatable and real…matters. Every nibble adds up to a full tummy, one day. But faith that the carrot remains in reach and exists…that is the most key element yet I have found.

Most motivational post on slow gains. It’s kind of difficult to be motivated with gains less than 1/8 which has been the norm for me now.
Thanks for that post

Gains are slow. As long as I’ve done PE, any gains are good. Six more tenths of an inch will put me in my girth zone that will be worth quitting over. So I will stay focused. Net my goals in the next 2 years and remain tempered and disciplined enough not to rush it.

You have to stay motivated. Every gain counts. You have to feel and believe that.

I do a lot in my life other than PE. That stuff has taken priority and while I’m not going to forget about PE it will have to take a backseat to job training and shifts that I have to complete. This new job is going to be a serious engagement in my life and while I took a second shift preference, I can fulfill PE obligations and martial art obligations, if I’m clear on my goals and am industrious in the mornings.

It’s a matter of sorting out a schedule and getting back into the swing of being a productive adult. Which, can and will be done.

It’s amazing. I have been seeing 7 at the end of sessions in the tube. Then 7 half way through a session. Sooner and sooner. Now I see 7 1/16 at the end. It’s all so goddmn worth it.

I stress the subconscious more and more every day. Because we create realities that we want to live in with our thoughts but this also requires work and focus. Example.

I edge using porn. But I don’t always. I’ll shut it down or start thinking of other things or simply start concentrating on the awesomeness of myself. How I’ve come very far and have a porn penis or whatever affirmations that I like and I will continually stroke myself to further hardness while inwardly chanting the mantra “time to fuck” or “got to stretch her out” or whatever is inspiring at the time with my mind spiraling sideways and back while aroused. Mumble or say it aloud if you must. There’s nothing wrong with focusing and channeling your reality altering power to your own benefit.

I’ve always had problems generating erections and it isn’t a physical one. The way I was raised made sex verboten. So erections in public, all of it was stuff I simply didn’t do in order to meet expectations.

However, I’m sick of that. I’ve made progress with random erections because my mind is grasping that they are good things and I can enjoy them. Also I am mentally generating, with just my mind and some stroking, erections that don’t require ego strokes or porn. This is something I am doing every time you see “Edging” in my progress logs. That is a project within my quest for a bigger, straighter penis.

I have been doing that lately edging without any aid except for the last two days. I have been feeling really defeat after yesterday, but I gotta try again. I believe edging without porn is much better.

I can’t hold up my PE engagements. Not with a job right this minute. It just isn’t feasible. I have too much else to do.

Strangely enough, my cock appears to still be growing. My fat pad is melting and I’m seeing more like 8.25-8.5” NBP and it is a weird extra weight when swung. It’s a nice thing. Still single, haven’t hooked up in a while. To be determined if done at all.

At this time I’m not stressing about PE. And it’s fine. I wanted to stay in this zone of what should be good gains but I hate when I have a lot to do and no time to do it all. Once I get my work schedule stabilized and my extra activities stable, PE will get included again. As it is, I just have to wait.

What’s your secret trick?

Just joking, enjoy the break.

Cortisol can wreak havoc on the physical state. Compartmentalizing as well as just plain old forgetting about the things that aren’t absolutely required is sometimes essential. It’s freeing to be able to just let things go and prioritize what needs to get done at the moment, with no regrets and no looking back.

Best wishes with the new job!