You sounds like you’re right on target with the sex education. I too talk with my sons about sex as often as possible. Not so much the mechanics of it but rather the consequences of it. If he gets a girl pregnant what will happen to HIS baby? Will she kill it, adopt it out, run off with it? And if she decides to keep it will it be rasied by another man? And he’ll probably pay child support until the day he dies and get to visit only every other weekend. I mainly focus on the responsibility aspect of sex and how it effects everyone. Not just him and her at that moment.
The circumstances surrounding how I told my son about PEing were I was on the computer one day in a PE chat room. He came up and started talking with me. He began reading what was on the screen. He asked “What that?” and I told about it then asked him wanted to give it a try. That’s when he walked away with the mortified look. I definitely will not bring up the subject again. There was just too much “stuff” that came up with this issue. He did tell his friends, by the way. That’s how my ex found out. His friend told my ex.
I have told other friends about PE but like for you Tom it took our relationship in an uncomfortable direction. I won’t mention it again to anyone else ever again. This will be my little secret and hobby.