When is it too big for sex and BJ

I thought I would throw my own thoughts into the mix of this one.

American women and UK women seem to differ greatly in the blowjob department and generally the sexual arena, where as it seems normal (from what I have gathered from this and other forums) that american women tend to use men until they settle down and the blowjobs and sex stops coming regularily. Personally I think it’s a disgusting cultural habit and I am sorry so many of you here have come across it, I am not sure if it’s misandry or not or whether it’s just a stupid games or maybe even a commonality that all the chemicals in food have reduced womens libidos or what. Yeah, I have no idea. But I feel for you guys, I really do.

UK women in my experiences and purely my experiences differ greatly, Though I have never been married as I think it’s an out of date system, most of my relationships have been long term ones, though being polyamorous I will often have more than one whilst in any one relationship.
The women I have been with, lets see, I have been with have all been able to take me balls deep with varying grades of learning curves,
Here are a run through of the last 12 or so significent partnerships.

F - 19yrs - 8 months (Primary) took about a week of softer practise to take it, very sloppy, and very well done.

C - 35yrs - Fling - No problems what so ever, as hard as I wanted in terms of throating rather than skull fucking.

A - 45yrs - 3yr Fling, took 3 months or so to warm up to balls deep comfortably, after 1-2 years absolutely no limits

SK - 38yrs - 5yrs - Primary, Always struggled, and probably the only one I stayed with in the last decade that never took me balls deep without a severe reaction to it,

A - 31yrs - 8yrs - Primary (oldest time ago) When I met her I was young and around 9-10”NBP (I suffered long periods of poor health and lost length) and I think I always stayed around 5.5EG, she struggled when we first met, but I definitely had at least a 5yr stretch of balls deep and no issues. I wasn’t into skull fucking as much at the time as we were more a sensous couple.

SH - 33yrs - 2yr Primary - Two months to balls deep, (bit of a size queen) I call this woman the EX I am still sleeping with, every few weeks or so, This is the only one relevant to PE and growth, she is starting to struggle as I am hitting the 5.75 EG point, but in terms of length it’s always been difficult for her and she doesn’t take to it like a duck but she is eager none the less. When I met her I was variable between 5.2-5.5 depending on horniness levels I guess.

I could add 5 others here that all have the same sort of basis, between ages 25-40, all took me balls deep within a week if not on the first or second try, all within my 7-8”NBP and 5.5EG range. Except one, strangely she was a very regular swinger 23yrs, bottomed out at around 5 inches and had a very small mouth that I didn’t get more than a couple of inches into. She was very short too though.

Now, back to my point about the differences in cultures, I would consider all of these women to be mentally speaking sexually healthy and grew up with very little sexual repression around them. American women I believe differ greatly, but if you have a woman who likes you, is keen to please, open minded and of average build the following conclusions should have a good correlation to success rates.

Conclusions - Maybe I have just been lucky, or always met the right (horny) type of woman. I don’t know but all of them liked it and pretty much 90+% have taken 7.5x5.5 balls deep.
So where would I draw the line in terms of goal speaking? Any length over seven inches, and girth between 5.75 and a maximum 6.25.
And the reason I say this is to solidify those gains into the 6” rock hard girth range that will soften up enough but not too much for both sex and fun deepthroating frolickings. If you tend to meet size queens or proud throating masters, aim 7.5EG, would be my suggestion.

As for the length, there is very little difference in this, once you get past the asophogus by about an inch and a half or so the rest is just making sure there is a proper warm up routine and regular practise. Warm tea and lots of honey always goes down well…
Obviously there will be a cut off point here too but changing positions can make a 2.5” difference in the throat, So if you want to go big, aim around 10-11” and then just have fun experimenting with positions and angles.

I not sure how much difference this makes to the original point 23 pages later though…lol

All girls I’ve fucked have told me I got a big dick.
But to me that’s just normal female hyperbole.
My girth is 5.4” and length is 6.4”, erect.

Big, but not massive.

What I can say is that I’ve struggled initially with all women to fit it in, but after a bit of firm gentle thrusting I eventually get it in and have normal sex.
Only with one girl I couldn’t go deeper than 2/3 of my erect shaft. But she was very petite.

Anyway, I don’t care about length.
I just aim for a 5.7” girth and I’ll be happy.

Majority of women will tell you girth is king.

I often wonder how much girth I would honestly want. I’d want it to be as big as possible but still be able to get a BJ without too much teeth scraping. I’m about 8x5.5 and I have always had girls say their mouths get too tired or their jaws hurt, sometimes teeth scrapes. I have never had a girl be able to take more than about half of me. When I pump for a long time I can get to 7” circumference. I did this last week and then had my girl blow me and she couldn’t even get the entire head in her mouth. Granted, she has a small mouth but in my experience women will get sore jaws quickly or teeth scrape around 5.5 and the largest most could possibly fit in their mouth would be about 6.5 - 7” and that would probably involve a fair amount of teeth.

Depends on the orifice. I’ve met women who could barely fit me in her mouth or pussy, and others that handle it like a champ. Never met a loose woman, but varying degrees of tightness. Some so tight when they cum, I get squeezed right out.

Your observations aren’t superior to the studies done on the subject. Unless you measure every male patient. But why would you do that?

Don’t forget your entire length does not penetrate a vagina. Subtract 0.5-1 inch from your erect length for insertable size, like with dildos. Your BPEL means nothing during sex.

This. There’s no way short of only sleeping with virgins to be the biggest she’s had every time.

Being 8” x 6.5”, I was her biggest all but a few times. But the ones who had bigger preferred mine, and they were hookups so no need to lie. And you didn’t measure these men erect, so keep in mind some men are growers and some are showers. You can rarely accurately predict erect size based on flaccid appearance. Mine looks very average flaccid just bulky, but is impressive erect. Nobody would guess right if all they saw was flaccid, laying on my back. Unless the room was very warm, I suppose.

No need to worry about the max erection. Nobody has a maxed out erection every time. It’s not like every time you get hard, she’ll whip out a ruler to make sure it’s at its maximum potential.

Thats actually not true. If you go balls deep you can use your entire Bpel .

This is a silly thread. Believe me there really isn’t a thing as ‘too big’ you’d be amazed by what most women can endure to take on.

Just my opinion.

I wouldn’t say its silly. I certainly think you can be to big.Women are not bottom less pits.And its difficult for most of them to give a decent BJ once you get to a certain girth.

Yup. Seem to always hear, “Damn, that’s one hell of a mouthful”.

My friend that is just your personal experience. You will come across horny women everywhere in the world. Guys who end up with dry wives should have waited awhile before marrying, I wouldn’t even consider any woman who doesn’t want sex every single day. Life is short.

I’ve worked in almost 40 countries and women go from dripping wet to completely frigid in every country. Except India LOL, India is a total disaster. China and Vietnam are the places where you’re most likely to get a hot fuck BTW. But hey now that’s just my experience!

I am around 22cm in my pump, girth is 15cm. I’m only 19 NBP though and I have easy been able to bottom girls this far. Sad. I really need 23cm NBP.

Probably anything over 8x6 is useless or potentially problematic.

Sure if you are that big NBP I sure believe its the maximum useful. But as example I am 8” length, 19cm NBP but that is only with full EQ :/ more often it is only 17cm I think I’m not unique. The point in trying to make is if you are 9” NBP then maybe you never shrink under 8” during sex.

Even BP.