The power of a big dick

zane,

Sorry to pull that out, since you did go on to answer the question.

That concern you expressed is one that some of us guys tend to suspect is happening when a woman tells a non endowed guy that bigger isn’t better to her. Imo, I believe some women are being totally honest, and others aren’t. It can depend on what else she says before I can decide which it is.

Psychologically, I believe the vast majority of women are extra excited by the sight of a big dick. You yourself say that even applies to you, even though you prefer average for sex. Psychologically, I believe that what the title to this thread implies is on dead on target.

Since your vagina can be bottomed out at 5 1/2”, and you said you consider your vagina to be smaller than other females, then this seems to explain why you prefer the more average sized penis. Everything is relative, and therefore average seems big to you. ‘Bigger is better’ should be thought of in relative terms.

Can I ask how tall you are? Just like the ‘height vs penis size’ chart at Thunder’s shows there is a correlation in men (it’s a hit and miss of course, but a clear correlation is there), I’m of the opinion that should apply to females also. Once again, there will be plenty of exceptions, but I think a direct correlation would show up if females were checked. In general, taller females would tend to have deeper vaginas on such a chart.

789,

No, because her posts are ON topic and informative.

I can’t help but feel that was a dig at me.

I can’t say I have my ex wife was very petite and she can handle some size. I was going out with a chick who was 5-8 and had a very small vagina. The last chick I was going out with the one before my current was about 5-3 and was very tight it took months before she could handle me going deep and hard. I usually date girls in their 30’s so my pool of girls will be different than a 20 year old dudes. I don’t remember finding correlation even when I was younger though.

ZB

That’s very interesting that you would pick the smaller penis, I read that the favorite dildo size is 8x6 that’s why I picked those numbers. It’s interesting to get a chicks point of view but I get a feeling your not an average chick and I don’t mean that in a bad way.

Zane,

Would a girl’s finger size give any indication of the depth of her vagina? Somehow I feel like this should tell us something - like tiny delicate fingers might suggest very tight small vagina.

My goodness!

I like to think of myself as a benign troll. I’m long-winded and prolific, but generally give out useful information.

Like about dildos for instance. A woman going out to buy a sex toy, she generally buys a vibrator. Even an anatomically correct vibrator she will probably use on her clit. It’s generally the men buying dildos for their partners, and of course men are totally fixated on size. So yes they are going to buy a huge one. Most sex toy websites are geared to male customers. But here are three that are most definitely female-oriented (and very popular)

Sex Toys at Good Vibrations - Best Selling Vibrators, Dildos, Anal Sex Toys, and Adult Products at GoodVibes.com the most trusted store with discreet shipping since 1977

Babeland Toy Store

Top Sex Positive Adult Store In Vancouver | Womyns’ Ware

The last one is a smaller website, and lesbian. But I like it for the straightforward content and careful selection of the best products. Obviously the most popular sizes come in the widest variety of models. I think you can see that 8x6 is hardly the midrange. You can also see that women like a variety of colors and have a playful attitude about their toys. It’s men who generally like the ultra-realism more.

Beenthere, I am a lot more excited about a super-hard dick. And it’s a man’s dominant attitude that is exciting to many women—not his actual dick size I don’t think. Now if a man needs to get a big dick to feel dominant, well so be it.

I am 5’10" with short fingers

Troll is not a word you should try to attach to yourself zaneblue.

Interesting, so maybe the short fingers does tell us more than height does.

Damn. I used to be 6x5.

I think the real benefit of a smaller cock is maneuverability. It’s easy to vary the angle of thrust and target specific inner surfaces of the vagina. We guys tend to think the extra room means there’s something we can’t fill—a shortcoming. But the extra room may actually be necessary and optimal from many women’s point of view.

The best sex I’ve ever had was with a woman with a very loose vagina. I was very young, very hard, and I knew where to aim. The results were the kind of intense, multiple, vaginal orgasms Zaneblue is talking about.

The reason I was interested in Zaneblue’s opinion on this topic is that I suspected she was more into the pleasure of sex than the power of sex. I personally think a big dick appeals more to the brain’s power centers than to its pleasure centers. Now, if a woman finds power sexy, she gets two for one. But if she finds power scary, she won’t let you go near her with that thang.

I find Zanes post very interesting reading as I’m sure most of the guys here do.Love the female perspective and Zane you seem so cool and down to earth.

Now for a big dick story.When I started PE I was 6-7/8 nbp by 5-3/4,so I was larger than average to start with.Anyway I have a f@#k buddy who is kinda deep and sloppy if you know what I mean.I’ve always been able to give her multiple orgasms so my size has never been an issue with her.However when I get ready to finish alot of times I take it to the backdoor.The other night she came over and as I was about to complete the transaction,I went around behind and she said”huh uh”.”NO WAY”! “Your not sticking that big thing in there anymore!” Obviously I was thrilled! However,in retrospect,this growing might be a bad idea as I no longer can get it in her heiny.Maybe it’s time for a new F.B!

Whew, that posting about the maneuver fucking—yes, that’s what I’m talking about. Incredibly intense—last boyfriend was like that. Don’t get me wrong—hung-like-horse guys can be great in the sack too. I think a man just needs to know the capabilities and best technique for what he’s got.

And man, I like anal, but holy moley, your starting baseline was 5.75! I wouldn’t take that in the ass either!

I think many women do get off on being dominated. I’m a peculiar mix. In some ways I am dominant myself, like being on top and so forth. Don’t find the largest of cocks in any way intimidating. I look at cock like a junkie looks at a needle. But I do get extremely turned on by being emotionally dominated, giving up control. But that just might be my own personality quirk.

I hear you bro! I haven’t got any ass in a long time I was never that much into anal so I guess I don’t know what I’m missing. I remember the first time I was with this chick she looked at my dick and was very happy but she also added your not getting near my ass with that thing.:moon:

One thought occurs to me regarding dildo size. I can’t say what the most popular is, but if it is truly 8 x 6, then the disparity between what a woman wants in a dildo and in a male partner might be that the big dildo is stimulating, but SHE still controls it. No potential for uncomfortable depths, etc, whereas if it’s attached to a partner, he gets to decide, stroke by stroke, how deep.

The main girl I’m seeing now has a dildo/vibrator that she thought was huge when it came in the mail (functional length around 7, girth around 5.75ish). She loves it, particularly the clit vibration, but likes being filled up. I’m actually bigger in both dimensions, and she loves my cock, but she occassionally tells me it scares her a bit—sometimes that’s exciting, and sometimes it’s just uncomfortable. We have to be careful in some positions, particularly from behind.

So maybe that’s why a big dildo, but average man is preferred by many.

I don’t know, looking at the shop links zane posted, most guys target size is bigger than most of what they sell in the ‘realistic’ models. I don’t know if the way they measure dildos includes the base or not, but even the biggest ones are rarely 8x6. Perhaps our view of what’s out there is even more distorted than we thought(?).

Shiver, about “realistic” dildos, the quoted length is usually more than the useable length. Generally the largest “realistic” dildos measure about 10x6.5, with about 8” useable length (the last 2 inches is balls).