Think this deserves a thread of its own.
SELF ESTEEM…belief in oneself; self respect.
SELF RESPECT…proper respect for oneself and one’s worth as a person.
SELF IMAGE….an individuals conception of himself and his own identity, abilities, worth, etc.
Self esteem comes from within. It is how you perceive your self, not how others see you. But we all receive feed back from our environment that directly affects our self image
If you feel horrible about your self because you are: fat, skinny, uneducated, misanthropic, shy, babydicked, cruel, bad hair, whatever, AND it is something you can do something about, by all means, work on improving.
If you drop those 70 extra pounds you will feel like a new person, and the world will react differently to you, that’s the feedback. Changing ourselves physically, in a way that the world can see, can have a drastic affect on our self image. We then receive constant input that we are in fact a new and different person. Also, the very process of changing and taking responsibility for oneself can have a profound affect on ones self esteem.
Engineering changes in ones personality; becoming less shy, mastering a temper, being a better parent, developing empathy, etc. Things like this, by there very nature, change our self image.
Tell little Jimmy that he is dumb enough times and he will believe you. But, tell him one time, and it still might be “true” if he dwells on it every day for the rest of his life. Once little Jimmy “knows” that it is true everything in his reality will be filtered through that preconception. Everything that happens to him will be because he is dumb. Always has been and always will be. Other guys look down on him cause he is dumb. Girls don’t like him cause he is dumb. Even if he gets a girl she will dump him once she knows that he is dumb. Jimmy can go try and get an education, but will probably sabotage himself, after all he is dumb, how can he possibly do well? Even if, by some miracle, he learns how to use his brain, he will still feel inadequate, he will still be dumb Even if he figures out that he is smart, he still “knows” subconsciously, that he doesn’t measure up, isn’t good enough, that the great bird of paradise will always find a way to shit on his head.
Sometimes: especially if we have been “inadequate” in some way for a long time, especially if we have blamed all our problems and failures on it. Just fixing what we perceive as the problem isn’t enough. Sometimes we need to work directly on our self image, our self respect.
Suppose that instead of knowing that he was dumb, little Jimmy “knew” that he had a small dick. The vast majority of guys in here that talk about low self esteem, about being shy, about being devastated by women…and blame it all on penis size… have one thing in common. A dick that, according to statistics, is normal or average.
Please, don’t forget to grow as a person, even as you are growing a bigger dick.
Hope you all continue to grow. :)
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